Would you want people to offer their prayers, and nothing more?
Would you rather they spend time with you and the loved one you are losing?
Or maybe a little of both?
Which would you find more meaningful?
2007-05-29 06:44:06 · 16 answers · asked by iamnoone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Detailed answers, if you are able.
2007-05-29 06:45:02 · update #1
A little of both, depending on the wishes of the loved one. My mother didn't want anyone around except for her children. We respected that. But if she had wanted her own extended family to visit, we'd have respected that as well.
As for me, it helped to have friends and family around; though I tend to want to work things out privately.
It's easy to say "I'll pray for you," but a harder thing to visit one who is dying. So pray, but also visit, if it's welcomed.
2007-05-29 07:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by milomax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through that right now, with my mother...she is home and not doing well at all...I decided over the weekend it was time for me to move in...I'm retired so I can do this...She knows she doesn't have much time left...but just to be here to help her out means alot to me...My Dad even says her attitude is better...we have been able to talk about alot of things...WE NEVER REALLY TALKED ABOUT anything..so to answer your question, I think alittle of both...I really want to be here when her times comes...which I am sure is not to far off...we never had a good relationship when I was a child...because she was very abusive...but as I grew older she changed into a different person...I always said I would NEVER take care of her if she got sick...I am a retired Nurse...but for some reason I have changed my mind...she has been such a Strong personality....and to see her now, she's not that person anymore....so I will stay here until the end...spending time with her means alot to me and she is always in my prayers...
Peace my friend.
2007-05-29 14:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone close to me was dying, I'd want to gather as many memories as possible to think about when they died. I'd try to spend time with them and make them as comfortable and happy as possible, and that's what I'd want other people to do too, if they knew the person well.
Prayers would only make the people praying feel better, and their last moments are about them, not us. I wouldn't focus on their death while they were still living, and I wouldn't want other to focus on it either. Death is natural. The time for prayers is after the person has passed.
2007-05-29 13:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone close to me was dying, I would make sure that they know Jesus as ther personal Savior before they left this world. I would pray with them, and for them.
I would ask the Lord that if it was His will to take them from me, that I stand behind what ever He chooses, no matter the outcome. I trust fully that God knows what is always best for us.
And if they should leave this world, and I pray not lost,but leaving with Christ as their personal Savior, I would find peace in knowing that I would see them again someday, all according to God's perfect will and time.
I have lost my parents, my sister, my favorite aunt and cousins, and I am only 48 years old. I have lost many friends due to cancer, but the joy in most of that was the majority of them were Christians. only a few died lost with out Christ as their Savior. Those are the ones that are hard to live with.
2007-05-29 13:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe both would be equally comforting. I appreciate when people are praying it gives me a sense of peace and it means a lot as well when people come to visit. So both are a great source of comfort and if they do both at the same time, it means all the more.
2007-05-29 13:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by lisaandpathailey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time more than prayer. Time is an investment. Prayer, even though they can have power, is words on the wind. If they wanted to show they care, they will spend time.
2007-05-29 14:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by St. Toad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone close to me was dying then I would appreciate prayers from those who believe in God, and I would really appreciate people spending time with me and the person.
If someone is not very close to the person who is dying they may not feel comfortable spending time with them and so I would definitely appreciate their prayers or even well wishes.
For those close to me and that person, I would want them close to us, to support me and to offer comfort. They would be welcome to pray for them as well.
2007-05-29 13:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Beverly B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want both. When my mom was dying 6 years ago there were hundreds of people praying for her.
Our church family came each day to talk to her, pray for her, talk about God, etc.
So, yes, it is very important to have both..
2007-05-29 13:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by karen_03625 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would depend heavily on their relationship with us, for people close to us it would mean more if they spent time with us. For others their prayers would mean more.
2007-05-29 13:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by Quantrill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certainly a bit of both, but if distance is a factor phonecalls would be appreciated with mention of prayer. But mostly the sincerity of the person offering the condolence
2007-05-29 13:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋