What is wrong with me?

Question

I am going through a very depressing phase of my life, I don't know what is going on or what to do. I'm 26 and I went to college and got 2 degrees. I have a job that is okay but often times I am just bored. My boyfriend and I fight constantly and all my friends have moved on so I only get to see them like once a week. I used to love to watch movies and read books but I can't anymore. Nothing seems to keep my focus. I am bored with everything. I'm trying to find a new job in a different city and even state, however that has turned out to be extremely difficult. Has anyone else every felt this way? Will I ever feel normal again. I am just miserable all the time, nothing seems to make me happy. I can't just pick up and move either without a job, I have bills, student loans, car payments, and insurance that I must pay every month. Any advice?

Answer 1

I went through a similar time in my life. Life has ups and downs. Wouldn't life be easy if you could just pick up everything and move on, but then it wouldn't be life.

Keep your head up and try to remain positive. You have a job and it seems that your able to pay your bills. Imagine if you didn't have a job?? As for your boyfriend, maybe the relationship needs a little rest. Take a break from things that are stressing you out and it may help to see a therapist regarding your depression. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist.

Answer 2

Nothing keeps your focus and you are depressed? Well I am like this constantly. I would suggest Talking to a doctor they may tell you to go see a phsycyatrist go see them. They will help. If you dont want to do that. I would tr finding something that calms you completely calms you. Try a video game a book(Lost Souls is a good book trust me you will enjoy it but I always put on some mean hardcore music when I read this book). You cant keep your focus on that clean clean clean. I clean clean clean when I cant focus it puts me into a mood where I can stay focused or sleep or diet or exercise. Like I said find something that relaxs you. Not all things work for everyone and nothing works for no one. Cook clean read dance sing. ANything to make you happy. Do what you love and screw everyone else. If you fight with your boyfriend tell him to stop or leave. If he leaves than he didnt much like you anyways. And you are better off without him

Answer 3

Absolutely, you are going through a clinical depression. You need help. See a therapist/psychologist or if you are willing to try medication which can work wonders with depression, a psychiatrist. You will feel like yourself again and then can make valid decisions if you really do need some changes in your life. Best wishes for a happy future.

Answer 4

You are feeling the call of your soul.

There is something you want to do, beyond practical advice.

You are not alone. There are times when I have mentally screamed, "IF YOU WANT ME TO DO THAT, WHY AREN'T YOU MAKING IT EASY FOR ME TO DO IT?"

I am still in the process of finding an answer but know that you are not alone.

I wish I could say that following the call of your soul will make you happier or richer or even more comfortable. All I can say is, in my experience, it doesn't. So why follow it?

From what you're saying, perhaps because the darn thing just won't let you rest. You have been called. Perhaps you will never see the effect of your response in your lifetime.

Yup, life is tough. Always is for those tuned in to their souls.

I know this is no help and maybe I've made it even more difficult for you (I hope not) but this is what I have to say.

Answer 5

Sometimes it is very depressing when you know your life =s work b/c of debt. Plus, things in a relationship are not going well and you don't have anyone to get away w/ and talk to. You and your boyfriend need to communicate. If you love him and he loves you, it is time to fix things. Make sure the stress and depression of everything is rubbing into your connection. Talk about your worries and stresses w/ each other, but don't bring the stress and worries into the bedroom. Don't argue w/ each other about debt learn to work together. I try to watch/monitor myself to make sure I don't put my stress and work on my husband. Sometimes, I just have to tell him. It has been a long day give me some space/ a few minutes to gather my thoughts. We often play video games or board games to destress together. A shower or bath, etc. We don't talk most of the time, we just relax. I find exercising before work gets me going ( also gets endorphins going to make you happier and less depressed). Pray. I pray all my worries away and know God takes care of all our needs if we will let him.

Answer 6

I am in the same place- right now its about finding what I am going to do next, because although I like my job I know its not going to be what I'll do forever- nor will take me where I want to go in the future. Things can return to "normal" but is that really what you want- remember "normal" lead to this... so maybe its time to do something abnormal- something that seems to go against the way you have always done things in the past. Good luck with it!

Answer 7

I think you might be feeling lonleness.. it happens with most of the people.. often make phone calls to your friends, talk to them constantly.. share your problems with your friends.. I am sure you will get a good solution..

well, why do you always fight with your boyfriend, is that your mistake or his mistake... instead fighting with your boyfriend tell him the reason in polite way, so that he can understand you.

don't spend your valuable time in watching movies, there are better things to do in life.. go to any place.. enjoy the nature or go to your friends place, spend your time... play with kids.... go to beach, enjoy the evening.. ...

try to clear all the bills as early as possible.. It is another cause for depression..

don't try to change the place.. you need mental relax. it happens only if you divert your problem either in your work or enjoying with your friends/colleagues...

Answer 8

We all go through ups and downs. Sounds like you are working on the career issue. Next it might be time to end your current relationship... if it's not working out and all. Make new friends instead of focusing on the ones who've moved on.

Answer 9

I feel that way quite often the best thing i can say is talk about it the best medicine is love. I also would say you should try a vacation by yourself to get away from everyting and evaluate everything in your life. Good luck!

Answer 10

I think you should take a vacation as you need time to reflect by yourself. You seem burned out. I have done this in the past when I was burned out and it has really helped me. You can get away from all your problems and then, you can truly discover what will make you happier in life and not be so bored.