Mom is conservative and keeps a custom that at home, I and my lil sister have to wear a sweet frilly pinafore with a bow in the back. It's We gotta wear one all the time, even if we aren't doing kitchen chores. Mom also wears a pinafore like that, but isn't so strict w/ herself as she is w/ us. This is terribly embarrassing, we gotta wear them no matter who comes to the house. When my friends are over I get really embarrassed but it's a mom's law . She just says it's the right thing to do, every girl should wear those frilly pinafores and doesn't back off. Sometimes I even have to go out wearing one. I did everything to talk her out of this, she didn't back off. I even tried to rebel but shes my mom and I didn't succeed, got grounded and, of course, wearing my pinnies. How I can handle this situation? Am I stuck with my pinnies? She's a good mom, caring, nice, treats us with much love, but we gota wear those pinnies. Everybody says we look cute and sweet in them, but it's embarrassing
2007-05-29 06:05:16 · 6 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Several people told mom she goes overboard, but she says she'll never back off and we'll have to wear those pinafores as she tells us until we live the house. One we complain we don't like, she just says? Don't you think I'm a good mom, understanding, loving, that's always there for you? Of course we agree, it's true. Then she says, well, then don't complain, wearing frilly pinafores is something small you gotta do to make your mom happy. No way out hun.
Is this a price I have to pay to have a loving and caring mom??
2007-05-29 06:05:56 · update #1
you need to realize that clothes dont make up the person. ur mom needs to realize that you a young adult now and need room to streatch your wings. ask your mom to go shoping with you, and let you pic out clothes that are conservative and show her that you aint all the other hoochy mama teenagers that are wlking around these days. after you pic out well covered, but not to childish or mature clothes that still fit your personality, let her go through them and maybe yall can come to an agreement. ask her to try this out for a couple of months and if she has a problem with it after that, good luck!!
2007-05-29 06:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by felicia b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. If you wanted to wear clothes worthy of a streetwalker, as so many young girls are wont to do, I'd side with Mom - but you seem like sensible, decent and well behaved young ladies who are quite capable of dressing modestly - without the pinnies.
No. I think you should speak with your school's counselor about the pinnies. Explain how embarassed you are and how some other adult may need to speak with her about the pinnies.
If you're home schooled - why are you not talking with your dad about this?
If you have no dad right now, then speak with your clergyman about this. Mom's obsession with the pinnies has gone too far and she is abusing you.
No I don't think your mom is all that 'good' if she's deliberately embarassing her children because of her own stubborn pride. I think that's sadistic. She needs a good talking to - preferrably from your dad - about how to be a good, caring and flexible parent - and again, why isn't HE doing something about all this?
2007-05-29 06:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If your mom is so understanding and loving, then she should understand that when she was 13 that wearing what her mom wanted her to wear wasn't cool, and she should realize that it's time that you wear what you want. Tell her that you appreciate her love and caring, but that it's time for her to realize that you are growing up and that times are changing. Show your appreciation for her in other ways--do the dishes without asking, pick up after yourself, say please and thank you, yes ma'am, etc. You have to put your foot down and demand that you be allowed to be yourself, not a carbon copy of her.
2007-05-29 06:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what she's doing is she is trying to use you to relate to her past and the aprons signal that she doesn't want you to grow up. have a nice long talk with her asking about her childhood and explaining your thoughts about it and the aprons in a smooth, polite way. she is doing all of that because she cares about you.
2007-05-29 06:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by The Line's Drawn Here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda creepyy.....but heres the thing. would you rather have a loving mom who unintentionally embarsses you, or a mean step mom who doesnt care about you at all?
2007-05-29 06:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by babii-gurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, it's her house, her rules, live with it.
2007-05-29 06:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋