One of my co-workers husband passed Friday. I never met him, but my work wants me to attend the service. I would like to go out of respect for her, but my company is really cheap. They do not pay holidays, sick days, vacation, etc.. and I WILL NOT GET PAID FOR ATTENDING THE SERVICE. Normally I wouldn't be so cheap, but I am REALLY depending on the money right now, it simply isn't in my budget. What do I do?
2007-05-29 05:50:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Send condolences/Card. Maybe a gift of some sort or flowers. It is not mandatory.
2007-05-29 05:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sanctum 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How close are you to this co-worker? I would imagine not very being that you've never met her husband, even through work functions and whatnot. There is no such thing as manditory funeral attendance. Think about how she would feel for all her co-workers to see her crying and morning over her husband. Funerals are usually meant for relatives and friends, not for some blow joes who's never met the person. As for supporting her, I'm sure she'll have enough friends and relatives there. I would just send her a card and some flowers. That way, you're showing that you do care for her loss, but you're not making it any more awkward than what it is by attending.
2007-05-29 12:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by chicyuna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In less in your job description it stated that you must attend any funerals of employee's and their families then you are not required to go.
You can still show your respect(or is it pay your respects..oops you get what i mean..lol) by simply doing the following:
1.If you are off on the day of the wake stop by the co-workers home with a card or food.
2.Send a card.
3.Be there for them emotionally and depends on what your job is it wouldnt hurt to offere to take care some of her work load while she is away.
2007-05-29 13:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that they will not compensate you? It's unfair of them to "require" you to go if they will not compensate you for it. I think you should check that out. It doesn't make sense.
Typically, there is a wake before the funeral. The wake is where you go to pay respects to the family and they ususally have calling hours at a time when people can come without taking time off work (evenings). Find out if there is a wake and go to that.
Funeral services should be for close friends and family. That's not the place to go if you want to pay your respects to the widow.
2007-05-29 13:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and your co-workers pitch in and purchace a plant or flowers for her and send them to the funeral. Plants are less expensive and she could keep the plant. I still have a plant my co-workers sent me when my granddad died....it reminds me of him and of them. They were not able to attend the ceremony.
Also if there is a wake at a time when you are not scheduled to work, stop by and express your condolences. You might also explain to her that you will not be to attend.
2007-05-29 13:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by cbgrace71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your work really wants you to be there that badly they would offer pay for that time. So you don't have to attend if you do not wish to. Were there evening wake services that you can attend? But you should get her a card regardless of iuf you attend or not. It is a nice jesture and will be greatly appreciated that her family is in someones thoughts.
2007-05-29 13:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by bull_ridin_chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you go to the funeral in lieu of lunch? You wouldn't have to stay long after and only be gone from work for a short time.
2007-05-29 16:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by winnie2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, funerals are never mandatory. Secondly, if your work wants to make it mandatory, then they should be paying you the normal pay you would receive that day even though you won't be at work. Those who aren't at work or the funeral that day don't get paid.
2007-05-29 15:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would the company penalize you in other ways for non attendance? most funerals are not all day affairs, you would only lose a few hours or a couple hours depending on how far you have to travel to get there.
2007-05-29 12:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by LatterDaySaint and loving it 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two questions. Who'll be at work if everyone goes to the funeral? Doesn't someone have to stay at work? That could be you.
If all your co-workers are going I guess you don't have much of a choice.
2007-05-29 16:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by marie9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go to the viewing and bring a card and casserole to her home a few days after the funeral.
2007-05-30 00:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋