never have said. Will he ever forgive me? Will I ever forgive myself is the real question. I could not ask for a better son but that was not on my mind when I lost my temper. I am sick and feel ill of what I said to him. I cant take it back. He is a great gift to this world and I already see that in him. What have I done to his spirit?
2007-05-29 05:48:45 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With 14 year olds they can either choose to accept it and forgive you for what you said or just let it stew with them even though they told you they are OK. You need to have a deep talk with him about this because in the long run this could affect his emotional stability. Ask him if he is hurt by this and talk to him about it and why you said those things. Keeping a strong communication with him will benefit you both in the long haul.
2007-05-29 05:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I have been in your situation. Sit your son down and explain to him how much you love him and what an awesome person he is. Tell him that when we as parents lose our temper, we say things that we don't necessarily mean. I also try to let my son know that a lot of times I am angry at someone else and that he may bear the brunt of that anger. Although unfair-honest! Maybe offer to take him somewhere-just the two of you. Go to a dollar movie or even the library. Just having the chance to spend one on one time with you will do wonders for him. Good luck and don't beat yourself up-it happens to all of us.
2007-05-29 12:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all stages of parenting it is a learning process. He will forgive you and you have to remember that sometimes you say things that may come out wrong, even if it is out of love. Don't down yourself every parent does it and it does not make you a bad parent. You can apologize for the way you said whatever you said, but if you meant what you said, do not apologize for what you said. Feel Better.
2007-05-29 12:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by mianjo413 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you are at a very tough and awkward place. He's trying to stretch his wings and assert his independence, and you are having to readjust how you interact with him. He's no longer a baby, and not yet a man; that can be very frustrating for both of you.
My suggestion is to simply apologize. Explain to him that parents are human and lose their tempers, and that you are sorry and would take back what you said if you could. But something caused you to lose your temper - maybe if you could explain to him what and why that was - you could both come to some resolution.
2007-05-29 12:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, this should be in Family, not Singles & Dating.
Next, we don't know what you said so answers will be general and perhaps not even very pertinent.
All you can do is apologize, explain why you said what you said, and what about it you said out of anger only, and didn't mean.
It's up to him to decide to forgive...as for his spirit, again not knowing what was said or how serious the words were, there's no way for us to know or guess if his "spirit" will be affected at all.
2007-05-29 12:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents at one time or another feel exactly as you do. I'm sorry, I did the same thing, and funny at age 14. They are trying little people at that age. Let things cool down and explain to him his actions made you react in an un-natural way. Have a pack to talk instead of exploding in the future. You are also a blessing to him. Dint forget that.
2007-05-29 12:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear, but what exactly were the things that you said to him?
Why not make a nice supper for you's two later tonight with sweets and chocolate and sit him down and say that your sorry you said those things and did not mean it. Also he might appreciate some extra pocket money. Lol =)
2007-05-29 12:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son to forgive you and work on forgiving yourself. Give him the biggest hug and kiss, tell him you love him above all-soon this will also pass and all will be forgiven. Best wishes.
2007-05-29 12:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Joan J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are resilient. Chances are, he's already forgiven you, but you have to talk to him. Tell him how you feel for blowing up on him. Most importantly tell him that you love him. Remember though, we can only forgive or forget, but never both.
2007-05-29 12:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems an odd place for the question, but what the hell...
Sit down with him and apologize. You need to have a long talk with the boy. He deserves at least that.
2007-05-29 12:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋