We are having a very small wedding. We have a few people that we want to invite who are single. Some of them I know are not "seeing" anyone and some are, although we have not met any of the "boyfriends/girlfriends". We are paying for everything ourselves, so I'm wondering, is it required to send invitations to "XXXX and guest" or can we invite just the person we want to be there?
2007-05-29 05:48:25 · 15 answers · asked by brettacarol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its nice to invite the perso and 1 guest. Most people want a date. If they come alone who are they gonna talk to and dance with the whole time?
2007-05-29 06:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Remember, this is your wedding.
My fiance and I are making the same decisions right now - and we're paying for the wedding ourselves as well.
I do sort of agree with the people who have said that people with long time boyfriends/girlfriends/fiances/etc. should be invited. Although, I think this can be broken as well.
I know I'm going to invite single friends to come without a date, but I also know there will be other people at the wedding they'll know - and I'm going to have assigned seating at the reception to make sure they'll get to sit with people they know.
Also, in some cases I've approached friends with significant others that I don't know very well, and asked them if they would mind coming alone (after explaining the situation). They've all been very supportive - you just need to know which friends you can ask that of. And I'm asking before I send out invitations.
Maybe it's uncouth, but this is your wedding and you only do it once - so it should be what you want - how you want it. Just be polite and respectful when you ask. If they're a good friend, they'll understand and if they really want to have their significant other they'll let you know.
Isn't it amazing how fast the guest list grows when you include all of the significant others of the people you want to invite?
2007-05-29 14:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by clawofiron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can invite anyone you want. There is no requirement. We are inviting just the people we know...even if they have a significant other. The only significant others being invited are the ones that we've known for a while. Why pay for a plate for someone you don't know especially if you are paying for it yourselves (like us). Just make sure they realize that it is just them that is invited to avoid any confusion and having extra unintended guests at the wedding.
2007-05-29 12:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by T L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can just invite whomever it is. Be clear that a guest is not included and be prepared for questions as to why they didn't get a guest. Once explained that it's a small wedding and because of your budget, in order to invite everyone you wanted to you couldn't include guests.
2007-05-29 17:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite a few friends, but have them bring 1 guest. As someone said earlier, no one wants to go alone. Consider the guests as well. Hey, maybe you'll get more gifts! Congrats on the wedding!
2007-05-29 12:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Harlequin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We paying for everything ourselves as well, so we are only allowing people to bring a guest if we know they are a couple. Weddings are too expensive to allow extra people you don't know to come for the free food. Most people don't realize that an extra person is another $50 out of your pocket!
And since there will be other singles there as well, they can mingle and meet new people. They're not children who need a chaperon.
2007-05-29 13:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If a lady is engaged you should invite her fiance', if the man is engaged you should invite his fiancee'.
If a person is in a "long term relationship" then you should invite his or her partner.
If the person is "single" then just address the invitation to that person, it is not necessary to include "a date" or "a guest."
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-29 21:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The etiquette is: long time gf/bf or fiances should be invited, but not unknown random nameless "guests".
HOWEVER,
People in the bridal party should be offered the option to bring a guest as a courtesy to them.
Good luck
2007-05-29 14:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for your wallet, it is very bad etiquette and rude to not invite a guest. Also, for long-term couples, you should get the person's name instead of just "guest."
2007-05-29 14:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lilli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what you want since it's your wedding, but I believe etiquette dictates that you allow for each person to bring a guest.
2007-05-29 14:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋