Should i stick around, or leave?

Question

ive known this girl for almost a year now,, we used to talk like everynight on the phone or on messenger.... i used to take my mates to work so i cud see her and she cud see me... tht was at the start.... we never really started a relationship but weve told each other we like each other


at x-mas i got told tht shed spent a week at her friends house, a guy friend, i got it outta her tht she did do something, we wernt really in a relationship, so i let it go after a month..... latley she hasnt bin in touch to often, once a week at tht, i still get told she likes me, off her, and her best mate,
i really like her, but im startin to doubt her

Answer 1

Well I'm sure that it hurt your feelings to find out about her and her friend, and I think you are very mature to realize that you can't be mad because you aren't in a relationship with her....but if you still have feelings for her then you better let her know that you would like a relationship with her before the same thing happens again.

Answer 2

Move on.

She made it clear that she likes you well enough - but well enough to make a real go of it.

Running off to spend a week with some other man should have told you that from the start.

And not keeping in touch - well, that's a big hint too.

It's ok tho - more fish in the sea and all that.

Answer 3

Well the best advice that I can give is that, if there is doubt in a relationship then nothing is going to work out. It is better if you bail, because if you stick around the root of all the problems that will come are always going to be the night that she spent with her male friend. The best thing to do if you are not ready to bail, is to continue to be friends with her. It is entirely up to you, though, follow what your heart says. Good luck.

Answer 4

If she's really interested she wouldn't be avoiding you. Depending on how old she is - she's probably just out trying to be young and keep her options open. I doubt she's down for a serious relationship if she's staying at guys' houses while talking to another guy on the side.

I would let her go if you have strong feelings for her and let her do her thing. If it meant to be it will fall together on it's own.

Answer 5

I would say it's time to sit her down and say that you want a committed relationship or nothing. And if she can't commit, it's time for you to leave. The hazy lines between the definition of your relationship leave too much open to interpretation and she could be doing you wrong without technically doing anything wrong... not a good position to be in. Time to define boundaries.

Answer 6

You've known this girl, but not in a relationship with her?
You have no claim on her at all, no reason to object to anything she does. If you want a relationship, then call her and go out.

Answer 7

if you really really like her, then you need to ask her out, but if you are starting to doubt, then ask yourself, what is making you doubt. be open with her about what is making you doubt. find out if she is ready for a relationship.
when it is a so-so non-official relationship- then really in a woman's mind- there are no rules, she can do what she wants. but once its an official relationship, the whol situation changes.

hope this helps.

this is just my opinion.

Answer 8

It sounds like she might be waiting for you to actually DO SOMETHING instead of circle around like a puppy! Ask her out or meet somewhere for a meal "just to talk." You got to stop having phone calls and message. BE face to face.

Answer 9

you will stick around and prefer it as quickly as you detect the remarkable woman and are "doing it" for the remarkable reason. appropriate now you're only using them. Be truthful up front and stop with the guilt holiday.

Answer 10

i would talk to her and find out where she wants the relationship to go that is the only way to know what she s thinking