my bf and ihave known another 4ever we are 14 but i stayed at his house this weekend and we were talking he said that when we get older he wants to have a kid but i have 2 brothers and i watch my cuz to much i love kids but they get on my nerves i really don't want kids when we get older !
WHAT DO I DO ?
2007-05-29 05:23:29 · 6 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have found the wrong boyfriend. You need to find a boyfriend the want a kid just like you.
2007-05-29 05:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
BF said that when you two were older - he wanted kids. THat's kind of a nice way of saying he was thinking ahead - imagining how it could be with you to as a couple - maybe starting a family etc. That was a nice thing.
The key is "when you get older..." like how much older? I'd wait until you were both finished with college and started in your careers before making "later" a reality. That would be in your mid-20's or so. So you have 10 years or more to ponder on this.
Don't worry. He didn't say tomorrow. At 14 you are indeed too young for children. Glad you understand that - take precautions too - like go to the clinic and get a good birth control program going - now.
BUT in 10 years - you may have changed your mind - several times...
2007-05-29 12:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. im sure eventually ull get over the thinking kids are annoying. ur just tired of hearing and talking about kids bcuz u babysit so much. tell the ppl u babysit for that u need a little time off from it. im sure theyll understand in the mean time tell ur bf that ur annoyed with the thoughts about kids bcuz u babysit so much . if he really loves u then he will respect that. and if ur only 14 then y r u talking aabout having kids already kids are a huge responsibility.
2007-05-29 12:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop worrying about this. This is many years in the future and either of you could change your mind. Just enjoy being a kid. Worry about kid stuff, not grown up stuff.
You really should not have a steady boyfriend right now anyway.
2007-05-29 12:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you won't know when you get pregnant. You'll wake up one morning and you'll feel sick. You'll go to the doctor and he's gonna say: "you're pregnant". That's what love, marriage and sex is all about. You might not be able to handle them now but when you get older you'll just love seeing your baby take it's first step and when he says "mama". your bf probably wants memories and kids are the best way to create them. trust me it's just that. Haven't u ever thought about how u'll dress ur daughter and how u'll drop her off at her 1st day of school. Marriage without a child is no marriage at all my girl........
2007-05-29 12:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have no ideal
2007-05-29 12:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋