Time out for naughty kids?

Question

So let me understand this time out thing completely.

My kids are running around yelling,screaming,breaking things,fighting and completely ignoring my wife and I and driving us insane, so in order to punish them we tell them to go to time out and basicaly catch their breath before starting all over again?
Why does this not seem to make any sense?
What do you do in these situations?

Answer 1

Yeah, I prefer spankings myself. Time-outs are usually crap. I've got a sister that never spanked her daughter, only gave her time-outs...

She said that by spanking her daughter she would only teach her daughter violence. Never mind that by the time the girl was eight years old she was already striking her mother and father. They gave her time-outs for that behavior too. That kid is now 18 and is in recent trouble with the law for doing a hit and run. What's worse, she's always hanging out with emos and goths, all of which are druggies, though she "claims" to not touch the stuff.

I don't have any children of my own, but I have been in contact with several - nieces, nephews, cousins, friend's kids, even your little broken bottle in the sandbox burying brats, and have had quite a bit of experience in disciplining them (even if I do seem like a pushover sometimes.)

The line between beatings and spankings isn't all that thin, either, despite what a lot of people say. It's about as broad as the Mississippi, and just as hard to cross.

Answer 2

Timeout works for many children, especially when they are fighting or being too wild with another kid, because in those situations they may just need to get away from each other and break the cycle.
Timeout also helps the parent to find more productive ways to handle a child's misbehavior, because it makes the commotion stop and gives the parent some alone time to think.
One thing that I have found to be more effective is to combine timeout with taking away privileges.

Answer 3

Because for the minutes they are in time out they have to stop what they are doing and actually do something you told them too! Yes they get right back to it but that's only because you are letting it happen. They go back in time out again, and again... until they can figure it out! Which is hardly ever!! So now having to correct their actions still while they are in time out you are taking time away from your schedule and your sanity!!

So the absolute best thing to do would be to, take away their most Favorite item or, their favorite activity instead. This is and always will be the only thing to get them to listen!

As soon as the child starts to become "inconvenienced " or don't get something they really want, they start using their heads, and think about what they are doing!

Kids don't "jump" when we say so, so why should we when it comes to what they want!!


Ahhh... the madness will never end... :)

Answer 4

Yeah, I always thought time-out was just a break for them to think of new ways to break something in the house, or drive me crazy. I take away things from my kids. Even my 3 year old understands you can't play with that toy anymore if you hit your sister in the head with it, or no more gum because you stuck it in your hair. The only time time out works is if they can see other kids having fun, and they don't get too.

Answer 5

Time out is a joke created by somebody who never had kids.

Proverbs 23:13, 14 - Do not hold back discipline from the mere boy. In case you beat him with the rod, he will not die. With the rod you yourself should beat him, that you may deliver his very soul from She´ol itself.

Teaching children a sense of order and respect is one of the great challenges that parents face. In today's permissive world, many wonder if it is even right to restrict their children at all. The Bible answers: "The rod and reproof are what give wisdom; but a boy let on the loose will be causing his mother shame." (Proverbs 29:15) Some shy away from the word "rod," thinking that it implies some kind of child abuse. But it does not. The Hebrew word for "rod" referred to a staff, such as the one a shepherd used to guide—not assault—his sheep.* So the rod stands for discipline.

Answer 6

Time out doesn't work for all circumstances. Just like spanking doesn't always work, yelling doesn't always work, etc. Each punishment needs to fit the "crime."
If your kids are doing the things you are saying, maybe you didn't start time outs early enough. My daughter started at 12 months and I'll tell you what. She doesn't bite or hit.
If your kids are ignoring you, you have a bigger issue on your hands.
But to give them a time out may be good because as they are acting out, you are probably getting more impatient and a time out is really what YOU need to calm down. Give them a time out so that you can have peace and quiet long enough to figure out what to do next. Time out isn't just for their sake, it's also for your sanity.

Answer 7

well, my children do not run around braking things, because i have used time out consistently when they were little, and use other methods consistently when they got older, it sounds like you have a serious problem if your children are fighting, braking things, ignoring your wife, yelling and screaming, any one of these things should be addressed immediately, so it does not escalate, you need to reevaluate your discipline techniques, clearly what you are doing is not working, it sounds like your house is a zoo, call super nanny, take a class, read a book

Answer 8

Most of us well adjusted respectful people were spanked as children. Discipline is not child abuse. Our parents weren't our friends and they didn't fall apart if we didn't like them for days at a time. They established a behavioral line that you didn't cross and everyone knew where it was. They were also absolutely consistant in enforcing it.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Time out works very well actually. If you leave them in there for the appropriate time. 3 minutes for a 3 year old. 6 for a 6 year old. and ect. They cannot stay longer than one minute per year in age. If you knew how to handle your kids when you put them in time out after the time was up you would have them come over to you and tell them what they did wrong. Most kids do not enjoy time out so they won't do whatever they did wrong again. If they do time out again. They will get the point.

~Sarah