Mom issues!!!?

Question

I"m only 14 but me and my mom fuss all the time about any and everything! and then i'll hear her talk about how this kid is bad or that kid is bad or their parents are not good for them and then i look at us and its the same exact problems! But when we talk i get scared to tell her really whats the matter with me so what do i do?

Answer 1

You know I am a mom of a 15 year old girl and we argue all the time.

#1. she's 6-weeks pregnant by a loser, but I still love her and only want whats best for her.

#2. she never listens to me, I only tell her things that I believe will benefit her in the long run but I'm getting tired of wasting my breath. And if she would have listened to me in the first place she wouldn't be in this situation.

#3. I can tell her the sky is blue and she tells me it is not, it's green. I guess that is just her way of expressing her independence.

#4. Moms have feeling too, and when you tell us we don't know anything that it just ain't that way anymore, it hurts us to know you don't trust us enough to be telling you the truth.

#5. Most Mothers only want the best for their children and if there's anyway we can keep you from experiencing the hurt and pain that we did as teenagers then we have to try. No matter how much you disagree.

#6. Realize that your Mother has forgotten more things than you probably know at this age.

Listen to her.

Answer 2

Hi. I'm 26 and when I was your age I felt the same way. My mom always had to know everything. It drove me crazy. It gets better trust me. You need to be open with your mom tell her where you are going what time you will be home and who you will be with. Take my advise never lie about what you are doing because they alway find out. My mom and I are so much closer now we talk about everything she is like my best friend and now that I'm a mom I'm probably going to do the same stuff that she did to me to my daughter. My mom was in the delivery room with me when I had my daughter it was the best thing to have her there. Your mom does this stuff because she loves you I learned that around the age of 20. Don't let it get that far for you. You will see that if you open up to her things will be so much better. She is your mom and you only have one so make the best of it and deal with what she has to say and talk to her about how you feel about things and maybe you two can come to an understanding about things. Good luck

Answer 3

OK...I think you should go to your mom and say...."Mom we need to talk but I want to talk like ladies no getting up set. I just need to understand somethings and I think you need to learn a few things about me." If she agrees to this conversation it is a VERY good start. You should definitely tell her that you are hearing the things she is saying about the other kids and you believe that secretly she may be referring to you. She will get a little defensive on this just GENTLY remind her this is the way you feel and you felt like she needs to know.
As for moms and daughters...They will fight, argue and hug the whole thing is that you are growing up and mom doesn't want to lose her Baby, try a trade, Her Baby for a friendship between the 2 of you.
If not.... try to get an adult 3rd party involved. Maybe suggest family counseling.
Either way good luck.

Answer 4

she probly believes that her kids are the best and that her kids would never do such stupid thing or be silly enough to be in those situations or get into bad trouble i was one of those moms that used the same stratagy by giving them all the bad examples annd fussing about stuff all the time well is she right are you a good kid? is her great belief in you true do you care about her do you believe she only has you good in mind trust me she just wants you to have a good life and she trying to show you the best way to have it without going throug all the suffering ultimatly you all will make a choice and make your own way so all she can do now is try to droill it in your head the rights from wrong you probley think she dosent want you to have any fun trust me if she fussing about it she just dont want to se you hurt but will you listen? or is she going to go gray in vain think of her sacrifice for a minute she caried you in her belly for ninemonths nobody has said thanks for the pain you think? she didnt get to hang out and do what she wanted to do those months she keep you safe . maybe she wanted to buy a new mascarea or lipstix or a mag but bought you a toy insted you ever think about that have you ever thought of some of the daily unnoticed sacrifices she makes for you that you dont even notice. will you make it in life like she hopes you will are your dreams for yourself as important as the ones she has for you she probley will do anything to make sure you are safe have you considered that if she dindnt really care why would she say anything to you about anything you do if she didnt care she would not say a word so as long as she complaining about others and there faults shes believing you are greater than everybody else in other words she loves the heck out of you and that there is no one better than her daughter you got a good mom PS if there is something wrong with you you better try to tell her because if you dont she will be hurt ,baffeled if it seems she dont understand give her time believe in her the way she believes in you

Answer 5

Honey, You should not be scared of your mom. I'm sure she loves you very much. Maybe she is going through something you don't know about. I have two girls of my own. They are still young but my 8 year old is always telling me that I don't love her because I work alot. But I have to so I can give them what they need being I'm a single mom. When I was a teen-ager I didn't think my mom understood what I was going through. But she did always. You should just tell your mom what is on your mind. Tell her you need her to help you get through this. You need her to help you be a good person and you don't want to fight with her. You just want to get along with her like a mother and daughter should. That you need her to be there for her no matter what happens. Give it a shot sweet heart just tell her what's going on with you.

Answer 6

ok i am a mother of 5, and if i say something about someone's else my daughter is very quick to point out this. Mom's are humans too. ( shocking i know). If you feel mom is being a hyprocrite talk to her. Say mom i feel like ____ when you then finish. Be honest with mom, and be honest with yourself. communication is important with all mother/ daughter relationships. Its about listening too, so be prepared to listen ( not by rolling eyes and going uhuh) really listen. Mom might be fussing about other people because she may not know how to fix the problems within her own family. Good luck!

Answer 7

Do you have a special aunt, grandparent, 'close' family friend whom you could confide in?...It sounds like you need to talk to someone who knows you who could be trusted to keep it confidential. That's the advantage of counselor's, they can be trusted to talk too and they can give you another perspective that you aren't able to see because you are too close to the problems. You are a teenager, you will have conflicts with your parents, it's all part of growing up, but if it's turning into some really serious problems, then confide in someone you know who is 'mature' and 'trustworthy'...I don't suggest another teenage friend, they will be coming from the same outlook as you, if you want some honest help, seek someone with wisdom... -- Good Luck!

Answer 8

Tell her. You're 14, I fought with my mom all the time when I was your age and now I'm 23 and my mom and I are closer than ever. You two may fight all the time but deep down inside she loves you and cares about you, and she really does want to know what is the matter, and she won't judge you.

Answer 9

U need to talk to her. I know it's hard, but u need to keep the lines of communication open. It will make your relationship a little easier.
The only reason that your mother talks about other kids' situation's is because she cares about u. She probably doesn't see that things are so complicated with the two of u.

Answer 10

your 14 you are gonna fight with your parents for probably like the next 4 years but hopefully you always know they love you and you love them and the fights aren't so terrible you ever forget that. If you do have any real serious problems you better tell them they just may surprise you on how they handle the real issues.