Coworker not liked resigned to avoid firing. Staff tell me not to let her come by for lunch. Should I listen?

Question

She actually came by and because she has been rude to people, one of my coworkers got very upset that I "allowed" her to return. I feel bad that it upset her but wonder if I should be the one to tell the other person not to come by (I agree she was rude at times but I still like her).

Answer 1

You should never allow someone to come back to the company site and have lunch. You can go outside just you and the ex-coworker to lunch at a restaurant or whatever. But not in the office.

If you have a friendly relationship with the company, then contact your HR manager or your direct manager and ask what should be proper procedure inorder to not hurt anyone's feelings.

Answer 2

Given how much bad blood there is surrounding this coworker, if I were you I'd meet her elsewhere to do lunch. Just because you still like her in spite of her rudeness doesn't mean everyone else should be subjegated to her presence.

Answer 3

Have lunch with her anywhere you would like EXCEPT at her former workplace. No one can, or should, comment on this. Also, you won't be breaking any possible rules about ex-employees being back on the floor.

This is the best possible solution, as it allows you to have lunch with her, and will silence the critics, since they will never see her.

Answer 4

i think you should do right by your friend.
what would you want her to do if your places were switched?
would you want her to tell you that no one wants you around?
would you want her to meet you somewhere else?
would you want her to let you keep coming by and wait for someone else to say something?

frankly, i would stay out of it.
if your co-workers, who sound like bullies to me, don't want her around, then they should tell her themselves.
however, if you are the one who brought her around in the first place and she ismore your friend than she is to the others, then perhaps you can have her meet you somewhere else, or just tell her that you can do lunch twice a week and then you'd like the other 3 days to lunch with the other girls.

she will hopefully get the hint.

Answer 5

If she is not employed there any longer, then allow the employees to enjoy their lunch.Don't you listen to the news,why would she want to have lunch with people she didn't like?You can go have fun on your own with her.Defend the employees.

Answer 6

I'd have to say meet her somewhere else. You may like her but the your co-workers obviously do not. You still have to work with them and don't want to be the cause of hard feelings.