Ok.. so, way back when my mom had me, my biological father left us, and mom remarried and this new man adopted me, who I now call my dad. But, we don't get along. AT ALL! Like, we have tryed seeing a psychologist, and he admitted that he treats me differently because I am not his biological daughter. He nags at me for every little thing, and doesn't even say hi to me in the morning! He gets up and yells and nags at me all day. Then, to top it all off, he cheated on my mom about a year ago. I don't even see him as a person anymore. We have tried talking to councellers buyt that just ends up in me getting hurt, cause he tells them lies. What should I do?? Like, it got to the point that a couple years back I ended up in Foster Care, cause I guess I was too much for him to handle...
2007-05-29 03:21:43 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can't move out. And all of my relatives live in other provinces. My dad tells them stuff to make them think I am a bad person so they judge me too
2007-05-29 03:28:02 · update #1
And I'm a senior in highschool
2007-05-29 03:31:21 · update #2
And my mom ALWAYS takes his side.. Which I don't understand because he is the untrustworthy one.. He DID cheat on her
2007-05-29 03:44:18 · update #3
And my mom ALWAYS takes his side.. Which I don't understand because he is the untrustworthy one.. He DID cheat on her
2007-05-29 03:44:21 · update #4
woah. Your MOM lets this creep treat you this way, causing you psychological issues?
How old are you?
I would say, understand that it's not you, not your problem how he feels about you. (Make sure he never lays hands on you or threatens to, and if he does get that SOB incarcerated with a quickness. )
Do not allow this moron access to your emotions. Don't let him hurt you. Think of him as a minor annoyance, nothing more, sort of like a fruit fly, or an annoying kid at the store. It will drive him crazy that he can't hurt you any more.
Are you still in High School?
2007-05-29 03:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by pola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a mean step father too. I just stayed out of his way as much as possible and didn't answer back to all the nagging. I kept my room clean and did my chores before I was told, and didn't let him see me much as possible and as soon as I turned 18, I moved out. Not worth it to get in big fights with him. I did it mainly for my mother even though she had made the mistake of marrying him and chose to stay because of her moral convictions. So I tried to not ripple the waters as much as possible. There was a lot more peace in the house that way. She ended up divorcing him a few years later. I found that I couldn't change him, but I could change what I was doing.
2007-05-29 10:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling will not solve a problem in your life, if you are not taking other steps to correct. You can't simply take a diet pill and expect results. You have to change other parts of your life, to achieve the results you are after.
Put your energy into other areas of your life, and do not let this person control what you feel or think -
friendships, social activities, youth group
church, after-school sports or groups,
volunteer/mentoring, part time job.
The more time you spend around negative people and negative influences, the stronger affect they will have on you and your outlook. Do not become this person or repeat his habits. Surround yourself with friends who will support you.
You can't change people. But. Maybe when your attitude and outlook are better, you will be a healthier and happier "you". If he has any sense at all, he will see the change in you and his attitude toward you will be different.
best of luck to you ~
2007-05-29 10:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mother in all this? Does she back you up or side with him? How old are you?
You may just have to stick it out a bit longer until you are older. Try and do what he asks in order to avoid the nagging. Hopefully you will go away to college soon and can get away from this dysfunctional atmosphere.
2007-05-29 10:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step dad ended up gay.l how bout that one!!! my advise to you?? you are young, but not dumb. you are enduring hardships because of it. it takes a strong ...and i will say it..."woman"....who can deal with this kind of situation. and it is sooo hard. "God" does not put you in a situation which you should not learn from. learn and run. people will think im crazy for giving you this adivse, but i think your soul is telling you to go somewhere other than where you are at the moment. honey, go. you may come back, but experience your journey. your are almost to the top of the mountain (or obstacle) and there is no where else to go but to another side. good luck in your journey, and maybe one day you shall return...but not yet. i sent you light and love sister....!!! live your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-29 10:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by theonlyjasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough try to move out of the house. You should also re-evaluate your relationship with your mother because it sounds like she is letting her husband treat you this way. Do you have other family that you could stay with?
2007-05-29 10:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by smalls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are really in a very difficult situation my friend.......I think that you should talk with your mother and find the best solution for both of you.Explain to her how you feel about this man and i am sure that she will understand you.
2007-05-29 10:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by mzozefine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either find ur real dad or you can go to court to be legalised as an adult
2007-05-29 10:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by daize 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋