I'm so torn and confused. I have a boyfriend serving in Iraq who I Iove so much. He has been there almost a year, and we have been together four. I have been by his side from day 1, suppoting all his decisions to change careers, including joining the military, and he has cheated on my at least three times (that I know of). Before he left to go to Iraq, we patched things up and are officially together. He is so apologietic and swears he made a mistake...even insinuated he wants to marry me. We get to talk almost every day. BUT - I met someone I'm really interested in. I don't know what to do. Had he not cheated on my in the past, the thought would have never crossed my mind that I might like someone else, but I feel like I'm really sacraficing a lot by not exploring my opportunities. What if my boyfriend comes home and says he doesn't want a relationship and cheats on me? It's such a hard situation and I want to do the right thing.
2007-05-29 02:36:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a proven track record, I believe it is time to move on
2007-05-29 02:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know that a LD relationship won't work for you, so I suggest that you sit down and have an honest talk with him. Being in the military is very hard on the soldier and on their family and significant other. So, if you already don't feel that the distance is something you can handle emotionally, you owe it to him to tell him now, rather than send him a Dear John letter down the road when he's in combat. You can break up completely or you can just open up the relationship and each be free to date while he is gone. Set up ground rules about what you will share (or not share) with each other and, if you start seeing someone else in a serious way, then be honest with each other and break up at that point.
2016-05-20 22:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about asking your boyfriend what the future holds for you two? If he is noncommittal, then this speaks volumes and it may be time to end this relationship.
Also, a man who strays from a relationship once can be considered to have made a mistake. But a man who cheats repeatedly on you is using you. He has no intentions of getting serious with you. As long as you are willing to forgive and forget, he will continue to cheat.
2007-05-29 02:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by The Oracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to wait until he returns before you make a decision. If you do make a decision before then, wait until he returns before you act on it. You don't want to break up with him while he's still in Iraq because he's there to do a very important job. If you break up with him now and tell him, his mind may wander from his job and it could cost him his life. I know it's hard to wait, but if you look at the bigger picture, it's better in the long run.
2007-05-29 02:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt deserve your loyalty if he scr3wed around 3 times, I would explore the situation but also be honest to him about it...say you want to be together but want to go out with someone to explore...
seperation makes the heart grow fonder. either youll realize you love your bf desperately and dont want anyone else. or youll realize that theres great guys out there who will love and respect you and wont ever cheat on you.
i think you deserve the chance to realize the latter.
good luck. your bf sounds like a prick who doesnt deserve you.
2007-05-29 02:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do the right thing you would not cheat on your boyfriend in Iraq.
2007-05-29 02:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you feel is right....don't cheat on him because you will be lowering yourself to his level.....if u want to be with someone else then you should just break up with him. You can't live your life with "what if I"
2007-05-29 02:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just trust yourself!
2007-05-29 02:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is so cheating on you.....I don't know any man that would not cheat on their wives or girlfriends while they are in the military
2007-05-29 02:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by sexsired 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
dear john...
move on... you'll be happier.... cheat once - mistake; twice...damn...three times... you're the dope for falling for it...
2007-05-29 02:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by bettiewoeswoes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋