My ex roommate is pregnant from a man that she says that she is not even in a relationship with. On almost a daily basis she is crying and complaining about him and talking about how she is going to get rid of him because she is sick of dealing with his nonsense. Yet every week she is right back with him.
Just the other day she was mad at him because they went to pick out some things for their unborn baby. He apparently went to another store with one of his 5 babies mothers ( i know how pathetic) and picked out some different things for the unborn baby with her. My exroommate because enraged at him and cursed him out. He told her she was stupid and that she should be greatful for anything he buys that "raggedy a** baby". Of course she cried and said she will not forgive him for that.
Why does she put up with this and complain to me? Why stay with someone who makes you feel like crap and has you crying all the time? Is selfesteem that low?
2007-05-29 02:32:41 · 14 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm still trying to recover from the "he has 5 babies mothers". WHY IN THE WORLD DID SHE GET PREGNANT BY THIS GUY? OMIGOD...It's not her self esteem is low, SHE HAS NONE. You know who I feel sorry for? the child she is having, that's sad.
2007-05-29 02:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants it to work out for the baby's sake and thinks that this man will treat her with respect because she is the "mother of his child", but this isn't the case-she needs to snap out of this and shape up. She needs to be putting this child first and then her needs second. She can worry about this man after wards but right now all she should be concerned with is the baby's well being and her staying healthy.
Her self esteem could have a huge factor in this for her thinking that she can get no better now that she is pregnant. She needs to love herself first. I don't know what it will take her for her come around but I hope you can try with this information and help her-make her see that this baby could be harmed by this man as well as her.
2007-05-29 02:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people feel like they can't do any better and are afraid to leave. This is a relationship they know. Especially with a baby on the way. They are afraid to be alone and don't think someone else would want to be with them & a baby that is not theirs.
2007-05-29 02:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mallory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully I don't know how that feels but I have a couple of people that I know that are somewhat in the same boat! The only explanation that I have is until you are in that situation you'll never know how it feels and how you'll react. It's easy to talk the talk than it is to WALK the walk! And in her case on top of him being an a__ she is having their child so that seems to me to make it that much harder... That said I hope it all works out for her.
2007-05-29 02:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by noel99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is her baby's daddy!! She probably thinks right now that no one else will have her because she has/will have a kid. She thinks that this man is her last resort! And if some guy knocked me up- i would want all of his attention, too, so I don't blame her there. This loser sounds like he needs to get his priorities straight!! I would tell her to dump his *** and tell her that she can do it without him, and that she will be able to find someone that will love her and her baby. My bff has 2 kids, and she is engaged to a guy (not their dad) that loves them all!
2007-05-29 02:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's pregnant with his baby, she has many important reasons to stay connected - to maintain his relationship with his child, for financial support, and (one hopes) for help with the day-to-day burdens of raising a child. Sadly, that seems unlikely from your question. Its very difficult to stay connected with someone that you don't love, and apparently they don't love each other.
This constant tension between the need to be connected with the desire to be free of him is what causes her to complain. This type of behavior is very common among divorced parents.
It would be best for their child if they could figure out how to deal with each other without complaining - joint counselling if he'd agree to go. If not, she should get counselling and figure out what's best for her and her baby.
2007-05-29 02:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sherozzel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i want to give you props for listening to her. that is really what she needs. i have a best friend that does that for me. i'd go crazy if i couldn't vent to her. your friend sounds alot like me. i can't tell you whats going through her head, but i bet she just really wants to be loved. and she may think that he is the only one that will love her (being pregnant by him has alot to do with that) my eyes have finally been opened, but i'm pregnant with my forth and i just got out of a divorce, lost my daughter to him in custody, and now i know that love is not the world. its my kids. maybe if you keep talking to her about the baby, just keep reminding her that that baby depends on her. and the baby only has her, she's going to be "mommy" to someone.
2007-05-29 02:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Yes, she has low self esteem. 2. The baby is doomed to a life of hell. 3. Unless she gives it up for adoption. 4. And she comes to you because you listen and put up with it.
2007-05-29 02:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Extremely low self-esteem.
2007-05-29 02:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
number one...she is co-dependent. and number two...she is hormonal from the pregnancy. be her friend and don't judge. it is her life if she stays. some girls are just stupid like that. it happens sadly
2007-05-29 02:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by michelle b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋