This last friday was my graduation. My parents are divorced and married to someone else. Well at the ceramony my dad was carrying around some roses.They weren't for me, so i automaticly thought they were for my step-sister. Well they werent. They were for her best friend who had forgot them at our house. Well my mom didnt know that they weren't for my stepsister, after she had promised me she wouldnt start anything, she started yelling at my dad. She was saying "how could you?" "your daughter is so pist at you!" "our daughter is more important than that ***** and her kids"....blah blah blah.....my dad just left.....then my mom tried to appoligize to my grandmother.....and my grandmother (my dads mom) said "im not accepting any appolagies, that was uncalled for!" My question is why did they have to fight on my graduation day which is an once in a lifetime oppertunity for me to be the center of attention?
2007-05-29 02:16:52 · 18 answers · asked by sunny365 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am soo sorry that your graaduation day was ruined by something so little and silly!! it makes me mad, and they're not even my parents!! but i think it's b/c..divorced couples tend to see the bad in their ex. They are looking for something to criticize ((to make themselves look better)). Just try to remember the point of the graduation--you're DONE with highschool!!! Lucky you!! And remember all your friends who DIDN"T ruin your day. I wish you the best of everything in your life, and that your parents will shape up!! =)
2007-05-29 02:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that happened to you! It sounds like your Mom still isn't over her divorce, even though she is re-married. She also may be a bit of a drama queen. Unfortunately, unless you address this now you are in for more drama the rest of their lives.
In this case, I think your Mom was wrong because she jumped to a conclusion without having all the facts. You should try to sit down with your Mother & explain to her that you appreciate her support, but in the future you would appreciate it if she would hold her tongue until all facts have been presented. Tell her that you are hurt that she yelled at your Dad and made him feel uncomfortable enough to leave.
Next, you need to sit down with your Dad and explain that while you understand his feelings were hurt; he's a grown-up and he needs to suck it up. He was wrong to leave and he should have ignored your Mom for your sake.
Please know that this isn't the only time you will be the center of attention. You will have other moments in the sun.
Congratulations on your graduation & best of luck to you!
2007-05-29 02:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are selfish. your mom seems to think that the world should operate around her and that shes whats important here and how she feels and how she was used, abused, etc....you could put a number of words in this space.
not knowing the whole situation tho, the flowers might could have been returned at a different time. this might have been a not so innocent ploy to push some buttons.
however, your father did the right thing by just leaving and your mother made a total *** out of herself on her own.
i am so sorry your graduation was marred by such selfishness and lack of respect for you on yhour special day
but try to get past it cause you cant change it. and remember it with all the good stuff that happened.
your mother needs to get a grip and realize shes out, youre in and its time she grew up and stepped back and helped your light to shine.
your grandmother doesnt have to forgive your mother, thats her choice and honestly i cant say i blame her. parents can be childish and selfish and we dont always know if we're making the right decision and we hope we are but sometimes we mess up and need to be forgiven.
but when you are offended over and over again and publicly humiliated ther is no excuse for that - EVER!
Go to college, get an education and dont become your mother. or your father. become YOU and be proud of who you are and your accomplishments.
there are excuse for lots of things but bad manners isnt one of them.
good luck and best wishes jackie b
2007-05-29 02:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by jackie b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Your mom did the fighting, and your dad did about the only thing he could do.
2. Tell your mom all the facts, in case she does not know them. Then tell her how her jumping to conclusions and letting her past issues rise the surface spoiled the day. Ask nicely for her to please control herself. The marriage is over, so get on with her life. She has to understand the consequences of her actions.
BTW, if there are any folks out there wondering if it is worth trying to make a marriage work, consider that this story is typical.
2007-05-29 02:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I'm so sorry that happened to you. Wow I remember when i graduated from 8th grade and pretty soon, I'll be graduating from High School. But that happened to me too. My parents are split up but still, they had no right to embarass you like that. I mean almost the same thing happened to me but instead my brother got involoved and it was B-A-D. And I couldn't really do anything about it but tell them to sort their differences, which they did and at the time, they werent really friends. But then, one day, they sat down and talked about what happened and how it affected me and they apologized to me and the school for what happened and now they're good friends. Hopefully everything works out ookay for you. :/
2007-05-30 01:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by AlYSSA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in a tough situation that you have very little control over. They appear to have a lot of unresolved issues, and when they come into contact with each other, they're too focused on their anger to consider you or anyone else. If they don't do something to resolve their differences, keeping them apart as best as possible would probably be better for everyone.
2007-05-29 02:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww that must be terrible! You're special day was ruined by your parent's behaviour. You need to nip this in the bud sweetie if not you're going to face it at your wedding/christenings etc. I know it's hard but you HAVE to say how it made you feel. If you can't bring it up then just be silent until you're prompted you speak. Explain how you wish your graduation had gone better and how you're going to have to remember it how it was forever, and that you're worried about things like your wedding etc. Hope it works out well for you.
2007-05-29 02:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are only human and sometimes sub-human at that.
There is no excuse for their behavior and I'm sorry it happened to you on your special day. Remember it and stow it away for when you are a parent and learn from it. Good luck and remember now you are in charge of your life and can keep out any bad vibes, and their sources, if you choose.
2007-05-29 03:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by mak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents just think about their problems. It was your special day, and they had to ruin it with their personal problems. They should have at least waited until after graduation to argue about it. But they owe you a pretty big apology for embarrasing you like that.
2007-05-29 02:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by ericthesmartest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have more chances to be the center of attention.... when u get married, on birthdays, college graduation... anyways dont expect everyone else to forget about their lives and their problems just because its your special day.
2007-05-29 02:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋