Do u think its normal for a 17 year old girl to not have a bf?
I just feel really odd sometimes because i'm almost 18 and i've not got a bf!
And while i'm posting, do u think that love happens when u least expect it to?
thanks xxx
2007-05-29 02:04:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think young adults put too much emphasis on boyfriends and girlfriends. I have a neice who has had so many boyfriends in her short 17 yrs that she has almost given up on boys. She has had so many bad experiences with them being so hormonal and immature. She can't imagine what a mature guy would be like. She has too many horror stories of youthful "loves". I think her parents made a mistake letting her "go out" so young. If you are a "good girl" sometimes, unfortunately, boys don't want to be with someone who has good morals. They are too caught up in what they can get from the "easy" girls. Don't change for them, they will just use you and abuse you and your virtue is something you can't easily get back. Don't pressure yourself. The right man (not boy) will come along for you someday. When he does, you'll know it. You won't be jaded because of all the jerks out there. I think maybe you are too mature for the boys in your class and your age. I couldn't stand the thoughts of dating someone my own age, they were so immature. I ended up marrying a man 4 years older and we are still happily married, while some of the "boys" in my class are STILL maturing.
2007-05-29 02:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17, you probably are too busy working a summer job, graduating from high school, looking forward to going college, and just learning about yourself to handle a boyfriend right now.
That's ok. Really it is. And besides - look at girls who settled down at your age - 22 with 2 kids in diapers, a husband/partner who closes down every bar in 3 counties, struggling to make ends meet, old before their time - is this really what you want? Hope not.
No darling, you don't need a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. It cheapens both of you. I doubt he would appreciate being displayed like a trophy - any more than you would. So, don't worry about no bf for right now.
On to your other question. I think you're right - when you least expect it - a really nice boy will come into your life and you'll know "this one is a keeper." In fact, it usually happens when you have decided to take yourself off the "availables" list for a while. Go figure.
2007-05-29 09:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. You need to be happy with yourself, that will help first off. Yes, love happens when you least expect it. But, most of the time this is because you are too busy to do anything about it when it does happen. :)
Be patient and supportive to yourself. Work on being happy with yourself and don't worry about what is Normal or not. Do what you want and what makes you happy. You will find love in the places you enjoy being.
2007-05-29 09:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for me it's normal. Honestly, that's better. I'm a hopeless-romantic teen, I'm 15, and I don't have a bf yet too. What I mean is, don't chase love, let it come to you. I know you have a soulmate, it's better to wait for him. So don't be depress of not having a bf sooner, it's better to wait for Mr. Right than having too many bfs but not even one lasts. There are many boys ou there! So girl, be proud that you were never yet dumped by a boy and that sooner your Mr. Right will come, just don't get tired waiting! I'm with you.
2007-05-29 09:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Foemelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young and having a bf will come sometime. and yes for some people love happens when you least expect it. It did for me.
2007-05-29 09:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Fred D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel that you have to be in a relationship just because you are 17. If you rush into something, you won't enjoy it. Your question #1 and #2 go hand in hand. You will find that one person when you least expect it. Don't go looking, be yourself and you will pleasantly surprised.
2007-05-29 09:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Irish_5150 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im 17 in a few days and i been single for months. I am wanting 1 but i am making it without one too.
And yes, love does come out of no where when you arent expecting it.
2007-05-29 09:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by RockinRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal? Absolutely! And it's pro'ly a good thing to not have that kind of distraction in your life.
And yes, love happens when you least expect it to.
2007-05-29 09:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal but if you feel as if it's not, then go get you a guy. just be careful because they're sneaky. and anything can happen when you least expect it.
2007-05-29 09:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Esa Chica 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In any case think positive! It is absolutely normal to wait for your prince. Still, do not forget to smile to boys and be friendly! And try to look attractive.
2007-05-29 09:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋