2007-05-29 01:37:21 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is a commonly held belief that you can better judge a person's true character by how they treat people they don't know. When you are nice to people whom you don't have to be nice to...that says a lot...and vice versa,of course.
2007-05-29 01:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely.
They're treating the waitress like she's beneath them and somehow unworthy. This person would then have a tendency to treat underlings in a similar manner.
A lot of interviews are conducted this way over lunch and people have a tendency to forget that a lunch interview is still an interview so they drop their guard. When an employer sees this kind of behaviour, or the very opposite behaviour where the candidate is super nice to the help it raises warning flags that this person is not the right person for the job.
2007-05-29 03:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by JavaJoe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, but more than likely. There are some people that have learned to treat service industry people with little or no respect because of the way they were brought up or they just have no understanding that the person waiting on them is providing a service, not a servant. I have waited on some of the biggest jerks in the world that were valued members of society and most, but not all, were rotten people in real life. If the person is a friend I would suggest to them in a polite way to not be so rude. I have had to do this with my father and other relatives when dining out because they were taught at a young age that it was acceptable to snap fingers at or be rude to the waitstaff if everything wasn't exactly perfect. Being in the service industry myself, though, I can always ask them,"is this the way you would treat me if I was the one waiting on you?" My relatives are great people but have learned bad habits. Being rude to the waitstaff doesn't always mean that the person is bad, but I would definitely watch for other signs of "jerky" behavior.
2007-05-29 06:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by crump_73mixerchef 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are not a nice person.
They somehow feel that a waiter/waitress is beneath them and will be rude to them. A person who acts that way does not deserve my respect or company and I would leave the table.
The only excuse for that would be if the waiter/waitress was rude in the first place.
2007-05-29 01:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I wouldn't worry about him. The waiters have their own way of getting even with rude customers. You'll be shocked how. I would suggest you be nice to waiters while you haven't been served yet. If the service is bad, complain after you have eaten. Get it?
2007-06-03 23:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rene B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should depend, if the waiter/waitress is a jerk her/himself, if not, then I don't see why being mean to someone for no reason is okay at all. In general, people being jerks-- its all about ego, no decency.
So yeah, selective 'niceness'---is not nice in any form of the word.
2007-06-05 10:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Aomi Armster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not true. I consider myself a nice person and I am nice to everyone, but if a waiter/waitress constantly messes up and I am starved to death, yes, I may be a little rude. My goodness, we pay for their services.
2007-06-02 11:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ida T 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Very true, my sister-in-law was regularly rude to waiters, plays nice to those she wants to influence. However, is rude about them behind their backs. I see it time and time again with other people too... why can some one feel comfortable consistently being rude to a waiter and not be a rude person?
2007-05-29 01:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by rich m 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
it is true a person who is nice to you,and rude to the waiter is not a nice person.
2007-06-05 15:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so. I use that in all my profiles. People that are rude to the waiter will eventually show their true personality to you also.
2007-05-29 01:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by J M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely!
Someone who is doing difficult, manual work and who is usually unable to answer back is hardly a worthy adversary.
Anyone who would use someone like that as a target for their 'wit' or abuse is obviously unable to pick on someone their own size.
This is NOT about accepting poor service or mistakes without complaint. There are ways to complain that are not abusive, and all of us are capable of using them.
Rude people are usually no more or less than bullies who will treat you the same way, too, if they ever get the chance!
Best wishes :-)
2007-05-29 01:46:37 · answer #11 · answered by thing55000 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋