Well he likes to play this online game called City of heroes. heres the problem. I go this email saying that he has been cussing and i got the entire conversation. he was talking in a "local chat i guess and he used a long line of foul vocabulary words to this other individual. He doesn't know yet, im at work. Any advice?
2007-05-29 01:12:04 · 22 answers · asked by 1anOnly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Obviously, you take the computer away for 2 weeks or so... NO computer time whatsoever. No emails, no games, no chat... nothing...
2007-05-29 01:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you talk to him and he is not paying attention to you. Then it is just a matter of time untill he starts acting out. How old is he? If he's a teenager, then talking to him will be like talking to a wall, Ishould know I'm a teen 2. But if I did somthing like that I would probably be sent to some phoreighn country, so that "I can learn to appreciate what I have, and show more respect and gratitude" Don't do that , it will only distant your child from you. If the problem persist's get a lock for your room and put the computer ther. Untill you get home. If he goe's to the library, the staff will have some visuall of what he is doing. Thats the way to help him, because in the long run, you might be gatting him mad at you but, Later on he will apreciate what you did for him, You know break his addiction. If he curses alot, then you should talk to him straight up and tell him , that as long as he is your house, He will have to respect you and your rules. But about the computer. You should defenetly do that.
2007-05-29 08:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Waight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take away all Leisure time on the computer and tell him that he can use it for HOMEWORK purposes only (typing out essays, research on the Internet, etc.) No games or chatting or anything like that (They shouldn't be doing much of that during school nights anyway.)
Also, is the computer he's been using for this deed in his bedroom? If it is, I strongly recommend you take it out of there right now and put it in the family room or living room, or anywhere open, so you can start monitoring his activities when he is off punishment, so as you don't have a repeat of this incident.
2007-05-29 12:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your son is, mine is 10, and I don't allow him to chat online at all unless its with friends from school.
We ran into a situation when he was playing runescape where I found out that he had chatted with someone he didn't know on the game. We grounded him from the game for a month. With all the weirdos on the net I am not taking the chance that one could be talking to my son and I want him to understand just how serious it is.
As far as your situation goes....I would definitely take away his computer priviledges. Of course telling him why in the process.
2007-05-29 08:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A week isn't long enough. I would make it two weeks, or even a month. If you really don't want him to do bad things, you need to have a ZERO TOLERANCE policy. Basically, tell him to "shape up" or no computer for a month... that will teach him a lesson pretty quickly. Don't give him a warning, that will just tell him that he got away with it, so it's not really that bad. Teach him a lesson now, or you will be sorry later. Good luck.
I would also make sure the computer is in a family room in the house, or that's not the only problem your son is going to be dealing with online. No kid needs to have a computer in their room until they get to college.
2007-05-29 09:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by betty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ground him from the internet and have a long discussion with him about how ridiculous profanity can be. Remind him that at times losing your temper it's hard to control and we've all been there before but, you get more respect and tick off more people when you can bring someone down using proper vocabulary without profanity. Good luck.
2007-05-29 09:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would keep him off the computer for one week. Just tell him he's grounded, and when he freaks out and asks why, show him the email and tell him that this behavior is not tolerated by the game, and it will absolutely not be tolerated by you. Tell him if it happens again, he will lose the game entirely. This should shake him up enough to act like a little gentleman next time he is allowed to play.
2007-05-29 09:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by lexus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dad always explained why the things i did were wrong to me and how they affected other people. i think i'm constiencious and am well aware of the consequences of my actions because of this. i think if you explain to your son that some people get VERY offended by this language and that it doesn't reflect well on him and then explain further how people will continue to view him and feel in response to his words if continues to use this language it should have an impact. also, of course a punishment you see fit. i guess it depends how old he is. a small child will respond better to punishment while a young adult/teenager might listen to reason a bit better and only rebuke if you punish them. besides, do you seriously think you can keep him off computers when he visits his friends or goes to school? get real- it's the 21st century. if you wanna make sure he cleans up his language, have him volunteer for a weekend at an old people's home and watch the turn around as he get's glared down by old people for using such language. society's glares can be horrible. (btw- all teenagers swear horribly. you just managed to catch it if that's the case)
2007-05-29 08:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by cbbc sucks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be too hard on him, hun. He's just being a normal kid and expressing himself.
Limit the amount of time that he is allowed to play City Of Heroes.
Maybe take away ALL of his online games, and allow him to play with playstation only!
When he is online, he's talking to other people, and there is always the possibilty of predators stalking children online.
Monitor him while he's online, and buy him a playstation, or x-box.
Cheers
2007-05-29 08:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by Daft One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The punishment I recommend is taking away online privaledges temporarily - look into parental controls on the internet - and have a good talk with him about internet safety. You can find a lot of information on protecting your children on the internet. Check out safekids.com. You can also purchase software to monitor your child's computer use.
2007-05-29 08:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sherri 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldnt came down on him too hard (how old is he) but just let him know that it disipoints you and tell him that its not as cool as he thinks it is but dont spank him and ground him and if you take the game away he will find another way to play it but jsut dont go nuts on him kids do things like this i would say that it is completly normal
good luck
ps dont cuss at him alot lol im sure he gets that language from someone so just lead by example
2007-05-29 08:17:37 · answer #11 · answered by gateway1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋