I have no idea where i got it or from who.My fiance thinks i cheated on him, but i didnt, im not like that. He had it about 3 yrs ago and was treated for it. I know that he didnt cheat on me, but when i told him, he was very angry and got very defensive. I feel so dirty and now he wants nothing to do with me, he wont kiss me, he wont touch me and to top it off, im 31 wks pregnant.
2007-05-24 02:38:55 · 13 answers · asked by spacelee666 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
When he was getting mad, i asked him why he was so defensive and all he could say was go ahead, i dare ya to turn this around on me, i f**king dare ya, im confused and dont know what to think and the fact that i love him, pregnant or not, i would never cheat on him, i have morals
2007-05-24 02:55:40 · update #1
i tried also bringing up the fact that he had it like 3 yrs ago and he said he was treated for it, so it must be me, it doesnt matter what i say or what i do, hes making feel dirty and i did nothing wrong, i need his support more than ever and im not getting it, BTW he went to the doc yesterday and got some meds
2007-05-24 02:57:57 · update #2
Jeremiahkoch....u can go f**k yourself
2007-05-24 02:59:23 · update #3
i know he didnt cheat cuz he really doesnt go anywhere, and when he does, its with my dad, his dad, my brother or one of our friends so i know hes been faithful to me, or maybe im in denial cuz i am pregnant
2007-05-24 03:01:03 · update #4
we have only been together for almost 2 yrs so he couldnt have cheated on me 3 yrs ago...he got it from his ex cuz she cheated on him
2007-05-24 07:56:51 · update #5
i know thta it's hard and it hurts like crazy right now...just remember that you are withchild and continue to take care of yourself...on his part it does sound that a lil extra activity was going on...don't bee too hard on yourself...sometimes we as women are in denial when we are emotional and really in love...no matter what always remember to put you and your child's health first and continue to do the right things...as for him he'll come around and if he doesn't he wasn't good enough for you...
2007-05-24 18:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Glamourous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a sexaully transmitted disease and if he had it 3 years ago it most likely didn't totally get cured and he has been harboring the bacteria all this time without symptoms. I would have him go see the doctor and get tested again. Also if he is pushing you away then he is not the man you thought he was. He should be standing beside you and working with you on this not against you. Insist that he get checked and treated for the health of both of you. Also if he refuses to grow up and act like an adult about this consider counseling for both of you or go on your own. Your child will need to adult parents not one and if he can't even deal with something like this in an adult manner how will he deal with a child?
2007-05-24 09:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get chlamydial infection during oral, vaginal, or anal sexual contact with an infected partner. Something just isn't right with this picture. It's funny that he got defensive. There's only one way to get this infection. I really doubt if you were doing anything at 31 weeks of pregnancy.
It's a very good thing that this was caught because it can cause serious problems for the baby.
I've enclosed a link that will give you more information on this condition.
2007-05-24 09:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's quite possible that your fiance's chlamydia was never fully cured, and that HE infected YOU. Quite often men exhibit no symptoms. It is pretty lame on his part to treat you this way when he's had it before AND you are pregnant. In any case, you both need to be treated, and the baby should probably be delivered via C-section. Of course, that's assuming you still want to stay with him. No offense, but he sounds like a real jerk.
2007-05-24 09:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by goblue_1967 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Was it possible that he wasn't cured 3 years ago when he was treated? It is possible that every one has been faithful but he is not cured as he thought. Is it possible that you could have gotten it from a previous lover? Could the test have been wrong? The answer may be in these questions.
2007-05-24 15:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you "know" he didn't cheat? You may trust him telling you that he didn't, but there is no way you could "know" that. Do some research on the disease and find out all the ways it can be contracted. If sex is the ONLY way, and you were not unfaithful, then it had to be him...didn't it?
Perhaps the two of you need to talk to a professional together about this.
2007-05-24 09:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What an a**....sounds like maybe he is too defensive and maybe he did cheat. Usually the ones who act like that have something to hide. I would just get meds for it and tell him to straighten up or leave. You don't need all that stress form an a** while you are pregnant. Hope it all works out for you hon.
2007-05-24 09:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Charmedmommy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look - this is the way it is.
-He cheated on you when he got it 3 years ago
-he cheated on you again and gave it to you and now is trying to blame you so he doesn't feel guilty.
face the facts - SOMEONE out of the 2 of you cheated and got an STD - if it wasn't you how cheated then i think you have your answer. Std's don't just develope out of nowhere
2007-05-24 14:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by sa-da-tay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your "Q?"
Chlamydia can develop in a woman without it being passed on sexually, a nurse should have told you this, and also, be more carefull as your pregnant, if you have it when giving birth it can blind the child!! I hope Ive helped, but you didn't really even have a Question...OH yea and how do you no your boyfriend hasn't cheated on you??....x
2007-05-24 09:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by West-Lnds-Finest 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
oh jesus!! I found out I got it last week and have probably had it for over 2 years, before I met my current boyfriend. My boyfriend was great though. In your case it may get passed to your unborn baby. You see if he had it before it might have flared back up as might not have been fully cured. Look it up on the net for more info about hows its contracted. I hope it works out somehow!
2007-05-24 09:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by Louiseh.... 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋