What would ur react be, if ur 14 years old daughter told u that....?

Question

''I want to work in a part-time job next year.''

I want to work in a part-time job but I'm afraid to tell this to my parents because they may find this stupid..So I'm asking u first :-) And I'm asking this to this section because Turkish parents and foreign parents think in different ways.
And in ur opinion, where should I find a job in Istanbul; for example in a cafe or somewhere else?

I need a hobby other than computer and studying.I don't like playing outside or travelling..Maybe I can be more social with having a job..

Sağol yani hevesimi kırdığın için Yasin abi :-)

Answer 1

Hi Irmak,
Why not, This is really good for you.
Just someone understand what is the meaning of the life when you earn the money.

But I am not sure, your parents what they will say.
Doughters are pupil of the eye (gözbebegi anlaminda kullandim) for the family. Noone family wanted see any hurt.

I am definitely agree with Pearl. I liked her answer.

Kind Regards

PS. To Robin,
Do you know what happened to Ataman ? Regards

Answer 2

It is never a bad idea to work. Despite common belief, work isn't just some inconvenience you have to endure. Even answering the telephone in your dad's office would be an experience.

On the other hand, only you know what kind of part time jobs are available for you, because you know the social environment you live in. Though, 14 is too young to be a waitress, in my opinion. Waitressing is more than bringing the orders of the customers.

If you can't find a suitable job, don't fret. Summer boredom isn't a very bad thing after all. You can find many things to do, that you will not have time for when you are grown up and working. Reading, writing, but especially writing are such activities. I see that you like thinking and writing. Don't give up. You don't necessarily have to become a writer or such, because writing helps you organize your thoughts and understand who you really are.

And, if you're really up to accepting advice, limit your time on your computer. You can waste precious hours surfing on irrelevant sites.

Answer 3

I don't know how Turkish parents would react. I am 16 years old and will be applying to a part time job until I start school again so I can study. I think when you work, you show indepedence. So maybe if you just explain them the benefits. If they're stubborn... then I don't know... maybe make a deal with them like work somewhere but they pick for you? Well here in Denmark they will hire any teenager. I can't deal with costumers so much because my Danish still poor so I am pretty happy with that because there's always dissapointed costumers that will give you headaches :P I also prefer indoors so I just look for whatever fits my environment.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

My sweet girl Irmak. I think the problem is not earning money. You just want to "do" something. I don't know what kind of a job you can find in Istanbul suitable for a girl like you.
I will suggest you join an NGO (STÖ) and do some voluntary social work. I am sure there are lots of them in Istanbul. You will get away from the house, work with people your age and older, and you will feel the responsibility and pleasure of working, doing something good for the society.

Answer 6

Go for it!
But make sure your highest priority is your studies. So if you then can work e.g 1-2 evenings one one day at weekend, why not. Especially if you like what you do and it pays you well enough.

I got my first job when I was 14. My parents approved it, which is good. When you actually work (even 3 hours a week) you learn to value money much better than if you waited until your MSc or PhD was ready before getting any real job done.

I hope your parents will be supporting your choice. And - just make sure that the working doesn't influence your studies. So that you can also get a lot nicer job selection when you are older.

Answer 7

Well I'm not Turkish but I hope you don't mind if I offer my opinion.

My own children are now grown up, but if my daughter had wanted to start working in a part-time job at the age of about 15 I would support her in every way I could. To show such determination and a desire to gain experience of life at your age is admirable, in my opinion!

Some advice: at least to begin with, limit your hours...Maybe only do one or two days a week of part-time work. This is because as a young person you need to get used to working and the responsibilities that come with it, and you also still need to have time for developing friendships and for any study you wish to do. It's important to maintain balance in your life.

Working in a café is fine if you do not have to work too late at night. Late nights at work mean not enough sleep and being tired the next morning if you cannot sleep until 8 or 9 a.m. to make up for it. But if you find a job in a café or boutique (for example), make sure that your parents talk to the owner/manager first so that they are satisfied that he or she is a good boss and someone who will treat you well and with respect. It makes no difference if you are very young; all people who work are entitled to respect.

There is a saying that "all work is honorable", so no matter what job you do, never forget that. Anyone who goes out and works is contributing something to society.

I applaud your ambition and self-belief and I wish you well :)

Answer 8

Very good ,sister.İ m glad you thinking this way .İt s a good way to learn more about people and to understand the challenge in life.
No matter you do this will give you a great experience about your future job and spending the money you ve earned is something different.
Unfortunately our wise and talented government could not create or even think of creating student jobs just for the summer holiday.
İt could be 30 hours a week and no tax.So that the students could save some for the next season
İ d like to see you working in the green grocers of a Hypermarket like Tansas Migros.Dont forget if the employer
declares your work to the government and respect your horaire Job is A Job.But i dont think we have laws to declare student workers.Even if there is who would apply it.

Answer 9

i can understand u ırmak
when i was 16, i wanted to work, too but my parents were strongly against it because they said if i need more money then they will increase my pocket money.
i know it is not about money it is about you, working and your own independence. and of course i did not work.
now I'm very thankful to them because in university you have tons of works and i miss my high school days when i was hanging around with my friends...
i don't know how the life will be when i start working
maybe at the moment it is nonsense for you but enjoy your time. in future you will have a lot of time to work
it is better if you find a hobby rather than working

Answer 10

Dear irmak,working for a part time job is not suitable for you :)
you are sooo young to work,on the other hand nobody will give you job! and i am %100 percent sure that your parents will never let you work.

if you were in USA,you could sell lemonade on the street,or cut your neighbour's grass but in Turkey you can't do that you know; sorry :-(

hevesini kirmak istemedim :P
Don't be sad irmak,after 2 years you will be ready to work :)
Try spending your summer by going to some courses like tennis,swimming,computer... that is more suitable for you now.