i dont know what to do?

Question

My older brother and his wife had a baby a year ago and since then and my mother and i have babysat for them for 11 months of my nephews life 5 days a week from 8am through 9pm. i love my nephew as if he was my child but i dont want to babysit him that often while both his parents work 6 days a week. i am only 18 and i go to school and i have a job and i still babysit for them. i resent them for not spending enough time with thier child. and i feel like they dont appreciate me and they never say thank you. my mother has talked to them dozens of times about one of them not working so much because my mother and i would like to live our lives but cant because of the baby. i have absolutely no social life because of this my friends have stopped asking me to hang out because i always say im babysitting. my mother cant work the job she has gotten a degree for because she is always babysitting. what can i do to get it through thier heads that they need to spend more time with thier baby?

Answer 1

Tell them that enough is enough.....Let them know that THEY were the ones that brought this child into the world, not u! If they cannot even take care of this child, much less spend time with him, then they seriously should consider not having anymore children....Obviously, one child is too much for them, thus, imposing all the responsibility of the care and upbringing of the child on u and ur mother.....You have all the right in the world to refuse to do this any longer. Let them know how it is affecting u and ur mother, and if they even dare try to argue about it, let them know that it is not ur fault that they are such irresponsible parents....It is fine that they work and all, but one of them has to make the sacrifice of working much less, in order to take care of the baby....It is not fair for them to put this all on u and ur mother. They wanted to bring this child into this world, then have them handle it, not u! Grow some balls girl!!!! Stand up for urself, and ur mom should too!!!! You should be out experiencing everything that a 18 yr.old should be experiencing, and not have to be cooped up at home taking care of ur nephew, even though u love him so much, pretty much every single hr. and day of the week!!! You are not the parent.....You will be a parent when it is ur turn to be a parent, but right now, this is not ur time, nor ur Mom's.....Let ur freaking workaholic of ur brother and ur crazy sis-in-law handle the responsibility of raising their own child, not u!!!! Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Start saying no. Make plans, and if you don't have plan make it and then don't answer the phone. I know it seems mean and childish but you have already taken the "mature" route and talked to them about it. If they have to start paying for daycare for all of those hours 6 days a week they will start to appreciate what you and your mom have done for them. And I wouldn't be surprised if they found a way to be home for their child more often.

Answer 4

Pretend they are renters. They are renting your services.

Write up a paper that says: You have henceforth given them 30 days warning (or 2 weeks if you prefer) in which to find other occommodations for their child.

You nor you mother will no longer be providing babysitting services as of 2 weeks from now.
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Now make each one sign it and date it (if you really think they will try to renige on the deal).

Answer 5

I know! Next time they ask you to babysit...say NO. It's not your place to resent them or judge them for not spending time with their own child.

Answer 6

It's their baby. They should take the responsibility to take care of the baby themselves. You have a choice. You don't have to do it if you don't want to. Force them to care for it. If they're going to have babies then they should be prepared like this or actually employ a nanny or take turns themselves.