have you ever loved someone so so so so much,so deeply that it hurts not even seeing him even for a minute? i have a bf and he is there but i feel for granted and i can't feel his assurance but i love him so damn hard all this time.
have you ever loved so hard to the extent that it hurts you every time? i don't know what to do..i did all the sacrifices and it seems he's very insensitve of it. he won't even make a move to make up with me..i don't know if he really does love me..i really don't know what to think right now. i think he don't know what im feeling right now. im tired crying and hurting all these time but every time i think of letting him go,i can't do it..i feel like i'll die if i lose him..
sorry..i just have no one to talk to..hope you can feel what i feel..i just want to be happy..to feel that im the most important person in the world..i just want to be loved more than i love him..but im hurting in return... :'c
2007-05-18 19:27:18 · 21 answers · asked by pRiNcEss_c",) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to have to learn how to love yourself before you can be capable of loving anyone else.
2007-05-18 19:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Big Dick McGee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are feeling so low. My understand of relationships is that you have to be enough on your own before you can have a healthy and functional relationship. If you feel like you will die without him, that may be too much dependency. I hate to say this, but you may be feeling more of the dependency than love. Real love is mutual, and in real love you wouldn't be doing all the sacrifices, it would be a two-way street. I say blow him off and concentrate on things that consistently make you happy, not him...
2007-05-18 19:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear helplessly in love
oh honey i soooo know these feelings...a lil too well. well im not gonna lie, im not completely over him but i could do without him just fine if necessary. it took a while to get there tho. wat do u do exactly? i only ask because at the time that i was going through this i had nothing to do and had soo much free time to think of him. wat u need to do is pick up a hobby, go to school, take up sowing or reconnect with old friends, it is very unhealthy to rely so much on a guy. like the saying goes "never make someone your everything, cus when they leave, you have nothing" i did this. and it hurt like hell when he left. but im here now and im living great and well. i am enrolled in school and am at my happiest because i finally realized that i was worth alot more than what i had. he also didnt appreciate me or the caring and love i had to give him. which believe me was alot! i would have done anything for him. even became suicidal for a while. i can remember one frequent moment where i was driving and crying and was in sooo much pain that i thought about crashing into a wall just so the pain would go away. im really glad i didnt. NO GUY IS WORTH hurting yourself for. we as girls tend to think at the time that we can do no better for ourselves. but honey WE CAN! i still talk to him but am no longer blinded by love. and see him for what he really is. its kinda sad now. but just love you first. then love someone else.
2007-05-18 19:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by damsel in distress.. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i felt that way before and he was exactlly like your bf ,i guess, never even noticed how much i was hurting .....i'm so sorry that you feel this way but that time only one thing saved me from hurtting so much ...well at first i couldn't accept that he didn't love me ...maybe you need to struggle a bit to find it out for yourself but if you wanna end it i can tell you that the on thing was just ACCEPTING the fact that you love him so so so bad that it hurts but he DOESN'T ...and that's it ...cause you know the more you fight about it in your mind the more you miss him and you get more hurt but once you accept the fact then you can let him go and accept he is not the one for you,and that someday you will find someone who can love you back like this .....i don't know much about your situation but it's how it was for me really, and the second i accept it and let him go i was free of the hurting and soon he was with someone new !!!....i really really wish you won't feel hurt anymore and things get better for you cause i really know how bad it is .....and hey you're never alone!
2007-05-18 19:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i did when i was 21yrs it was so crazy that i could not sleep then i have become so jealous, it was so pain full i just do not know what it was i felt that i have giving her everything i was left with nothing my mind was always with her it was that kind of love in the first sight i do not know how old you are but if you are sleeping with him you should stop until you get yourself back and know what you are doing,because lust does that to you ,i do not know if you are ready for this but do you know what love means?if you do not know the reasons of this love or why you love hI'm this much,then the real answer to your problem and im sorry to say it that this relationship will soon be over like a dream,just because it lacks the real ingredients of love.
2007-05-18 20:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by yassine k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know exactly what you mean.
Try showing him what you wrote us. (You probably will not get any reaction.) Tell him you want to know how he feels - not right now, but in a couple of days. And that if he can't think of the right words, he should talk to one of his friends about it and have the friend write down what he says. (Some guys just aren't good with words or emotions.)
When he answers you back in a couple of days, make your determination to leave or stay based on what he wrote, and what he says about the things you think he needs to do in order for you to feel loved.
2007-05-18 19:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have loved someone that much... My ex even though he broke my heart. I am so outta my mind right now, you don't even know. He lives in my gated community, so sometimes, I will stare out my window and think,"In one of those houses up the road, my ex is there probably not even thinking about me... probably thinking about that other b**** he likes." I cried for 2 weeks when he broke up with me.
2007-05-18 19:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honest its healthy to love someone ut not to the extent you are describing. You are becoming very dependent on having him and he may not always be there. Just becareful. It's ok t love just don't let it consume you. You may not come out of it whole.
2007-05-18 19:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Chrssygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! We should be sober regarding our emotions. Save this deep love for Allah and the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). If you do that, you may immortallize in Heaven and eternal bliss.
Good luck to us all, Ameen!
2007-05-18 20:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly waht you mean.
well you love him a lot, asking to be loved more than that is a lot. but give him some time. guys like their space too. and always remember there are other guys out there.
2007-05-18 19:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by !PoPtArTs! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋