sorry im askin this question but....?

Question

ok... im kinda done wanting to live, i just give up in a way because i dont see any good in living if im not doing anything good for anyone and everyone is saying they care about me and are worried but that just means that im taking up there time and im not doing them any good making them worry and im not doing anything but taking up peoples time and im 14 years old and im already suicidal... its kinda sad... but i cant help it... and i dont know any way to make things right unless it means to not live anymore and i dont know what to do... im sure theres a question in here somewhere... well, i live in iowa city and i dont know what my choices are at this point because im not even able to feel good at my house... my house is the last place i want to be... i live with my mom and her husband... my sister already left as soon as she could... but all i can think about now is how running away is the best thing i can do until i have to go back to them and then things will be bad...

then when i think about all the bad stuff that will happen at my house and that nothing will be good then all i can think about is how ending my life would be best but thats horrible too... so i just dont know what to do... anyone have any suggestions or something to say?
~thanks~

Answer 1

Oh honey, you have so much to live for. It is just hard to see it with all that is going on in your house. This is a temporary problem Don't do anything foolish because you don't need a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Please speak to a school counselor, a preacher, priest on any other adult you can trust. You can also call the suicide hot line. It is always darkest just before the dawn. Please let me know that you are OK. God bless you.

Answer 2

Adolescence can be a very difficult time indeed. It's difficult to experience all these very intense and grown up emotions, and yet feel stuck in a situation that you are powerless to change. Sometimes death seems the only way out.

You say things are bad at your house. IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED, SPEAK TO A TEACHER RIGHT AWAY. You need help and protection.

But there are 100 ways that things can be "bad" in a house that don't qualify as abuse, but that nevertheless make your life seem like hell. Step-families can be especially difficult places to be.

Of course anyone who reads your "question" will immediately want to do something to take away your pain. Unfortunately, that is not possible. There isn't much anyone can offer, except this:
-Speak to a trusted teacher or to a school counsellor, your principal, your family doctor, or a clergy person. Adults are not all bad. Sometimes as adults (and I am very much one!) we think we are helping, but we only seem to make things worse. It doesn't mean we don't care.

-There is one thing that will help: time. I know it's not much to offer, but time will pass. You won't be 14 forever. It will get better, I promise. As you get older you will have more power over your own life, you will start to figure out a few things about the world and the people around you, and you will feel better. Many of use look back at our teenage years, remember how miserable we were, and think, at least it's over! There's a lot of life left in front of you. I know it sounds corny but it's true. Make a solemn promise to yourself that you will stay alive, at least until you are 18 years old. Then, who know? you might decide it's not so bad after all.

-You are a burden on no one. You are allowed your own emotions, and if they happen to be dark, nasty emotions, that's OK too. You have to trust me, and everyone else who says this to you: the world will NOT be a better place if you are gone from it.

-Finally, and this is completely out of left field: you mention you are 14 years old. Have you, by any chance, recently started taking the pill? If not, never mind what I am going to say. If you have recently started, STOP! sometimes oral contraceptives can bring about severe depression, especially in young women. Talk to your doctor.

I will NOT try to convince you that the world is a beautiful, wonderful place, and that you should just smile and be happy. All I can say is, give life a chance. Just a little bit of a chance. One day at a time.

Some days will really, really suck. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. When that happens, just try to make it to the end of the hour. And the next. And the next. And next thing you know, you might find yourself in the middle of a day that maybe isn't so bad after all.

Answer 3

First, you have to know that being a teenager is only temporary. Don't give up on who you can become! I know that things seem impossible right now, but I promise you that if you can hang in there until you get just a couple years older, life WILL be easier.

Being 14 is the hardest age ever...but the good news is it only lasts for 1 year! Do you have any friends you can go stay with for a while to get out of your house? If not, consider looking into youth programs that provide housing.

Think of all the things you may want to do someday that can never happen if you kill youself. Going to Paris, getting married, buying the perfect dress for your high school reunion, seeing your child smile because you are the best mommy ever, eating pizza at 2 AM with your boyfriend while sitting outside in the summer, finding a church that you love, helping another kid get through a really hard time like the one you're going through.

If you kill yourself, you'll never even have the chance to TRY to do those things. I hated being 14 too, but I love being 28. Please don't let yourself give up...there are too many amazing things waiting for you in your future that you haven't even dreamed of yet!


When you're feeling really depressed like this, get some help. Even if your parents won't help you, check yourself into an ER, call a teen hotline (they're always in the phonebook), talk to a teacher, or a pastor of a church. There is help available--please get it!

Answer 4

im 14 too, and HATE being home. I'm all fine at school but once i get home i start getting depressed and weird feeling no matter how happy i was earlier that day. I think the biggest problem is not knowing the problem. Figure out why you hate your life so much, focus on the real things. If it's you're mom or parent thats driving you to feel this way.. **** 'em. Their not worth you or any one else's time. Take up a sport that you can be aggressive in.. it helps so much! Also, you can always talk to me, really, id love to help. If none of this works, buy a charm bracelet. I attached a heart to mine to remind me that someone will always love me. Next I want to attach a sea gull so I can fly away. Really, there's so much you can do. Just take one step at a time. You'll get through.

Best of luck. It will be ok.

Answer 5

Well you obviously have some will to live or you would be dead..Not on a computer...On yahoo answers...So time to do something about your depression. I suggest that you should consider excersizing it is good for you and studies have proven that it does really help with depression. You will be healthier and look better. If that doesnt work think about all the things you could do with your life. You think your life is no good? Well I think that means you are too lazy to make it better...Not trying to be mean about it, but that is how I see it. Your teenage years will be over all too soon, and you can completely move on with life and away from your parents if they are the problem. If it is serious ...like abuse.. tell somebody, and get help.
Good luck.

Answer 6

suicide is not the answer to anything - really. i had a classmate that took his life at 20. we weren't in school anymore then and we were never close but i was really upset & sad about this for a long time afterward.
also, i have a close friend that tried suicide at the age of 22. she claimed her parents always loved her older brother more and that they never loved her. well, she survived the suicide and after that we, her 3 close friends, were sitting in the hospital all the time. i'm still really upset about this too. we LOVE her and she would leave us?! how damn selfish is that???? seriously! point here is that there are ppl around you even that you are not close to and they will be really affected by your decision, all ppl will.
i'm now 25 and I also thought that life was over at the age of 14, but really, it's not. it's just the beginning. life is HARD, really hard & I learnt it the hard way. But there is no reason to give up. There is so much more out there to experience and do, that you will do in a few year. you just have to get over those damn hard teenage year when your mind is playing tricks on you.

Answer 7

I know sometimes things get really hard to deal with. Especially being young when you don't really seem to have many choices or say about how things in your life are going. And I know that hearing that things will get better gets old but it is so true. Everything comes to pass. You were put here for a purpose and I am sure there are alot of people who love you and would be devestated to lose you. Please get help if you feel suicidal. Once you take your life it can never be reversed. And you have so many things ahead of you. Just let someone you trust know how you feel and don't be afraid to get help. You will look back and be so glad that you did. I hope things get better for you real soon.

Answer 8

where is your sister now? Does she have her own apartment? Ask her if you can stay with her for a while this summer , just to get a break.
If you ever feel seriously suicidal if you walk into an ER and tell them they will call an emergency psych consultant who just might have you admitted for inpatient psychiatric treatment, and that would be a good way to get therapy, medication, and intervention for your depression fast.

you can call the girls and boystown national hotline [phone] for help too. They can give you advice and maybe direct you to area services.

If the reason things are so hard at home have anything to do with being abused, you can tell your school counselor who will call child protective services and possibly you might end up getting a foster home. But they would have to be considered guilty of abuse or neglect for that to happen. Only do that if you are really being abused.

Answer 9

Suicide is never an answer and not a way to make thinks better.

If you have a problem get help.

If you need someone to talk to go to the counselor at your school and hopefully they can point you in a helpful situation. I know parents aren't always the most helpful and maybe theres some other reason you can't talk to them.

If theres a problem at your home talk to the appropriate authorities and they should be able to help you.

Answer 10

The best thing for you to do is to speak to a counselor, nurse or teacher on Monday. Be sure to tell them every thing so they will consider your safety at home. Do not worry about being embarrassed they are there to help you. If you can call a teen hot line in your area. You must think that ending your life will solve any thing. Life is precious. You just need to hold on and reach for that help - it is out there for you.