2 kids + another on the way...how will i manage?

Question

i have a 4yr old and a 6month old and i am 3 months pregnant.Im married and he is involved but with his line of work he is gone most of the time..he is an over the road trucker and is gone weeks on end.I have in laws but dont live near by and my friends have their own lives....when my unborn is born my youngest will just be over a yr old and im just over whelmed with what life is going to be like with 3 young children...how am i going to manage them all on my own?...I love my kids to death and i wouldnt change anything but just thinking about it makes me depressed and i have doubt in my self whether i can be the best mommy i possibly can be....is there anyone who can give me advise?...has this happened to you and how did you get through it?....thanks!

Answer 1

You will manage. It seems overwhelming now, but soon it will be old hat to you. When God gives you a blessing, like a new baby, He gives you everything you need to go along with it!

Now for the practical advice... teach your 4 yo NOW to obey you - hold your hand, stop when you tell him, etc. Also get the other two on the same schedule. Right now my 18 month, 3 yo and 4 yo all have "nap time" at the same time every day (noon - 2 pm, or when they wake up). My 4 yo doesn't usually sleep, but he knows it's quiet time. He has to stay on his bed (or the couch sometimes) and read a book or be QUIET!
I really needed this for MY naptime when I was pregnant. I always told him he didnt' have to sleep but he DID have to stay in bed and do quiet things (puzzle, book, draw). Get them in the habit now, way before baby comes.

Get a double stroller. Better yet, use a double stroller and a baby carrier like a Snugli to keep them all corralled.

I have 7 kids - age 8,7,6,4,3,18 months and 6 weeks. My 4 yo helps with the baby and will even push a stroller for me or start the swing for me. I couldn't do it without my Snugli for the new baby. My husband used to leave for 2 weeks -3 months at a time, other times he worked 6 days a week so I was mostly alone too.

Hang in there!

Answer 2

I'm In the same boat but a little different. I'm expecting my 6th child and my husband is a long haul truck driver. My kids are 8,6 4,4 and almost 2. I also run an organic farm and a day care. You will manage. I fully agree with mommyjo2 Get the other children into a good routine for your own sleep and resting time.
Don't expect to get everything done in a day you wont. If you push yourself to hard to get it all done you will end up sick Trust me I know first hand.
When DH gets home he can help with the laundry and dishes. It will be OK. 3 is a scary number but once you hit 5 it just a another load of laundry and a new car seat you'll have it down to a science.
Try your best to enjoy your pregnancy.

Answer 3

I have been where you are. I have 3 sons. The oldest and middle child are 18 months apart and the youngest just shy of 2 years younger than the middle child. Their exact ages now are 7, 5 1/2, and 3 1/2. I won't lie, I will tell you that it will be incredibly difficult at first. The key is to have a STRICT schedule. Nap times, dinner, bath time and bed time must be the same EVERY night especially when they are this young. If yours are like mine, nap time didn't exist when they turned 18 months. if they want to nap late in the afternoon don't let them, keep them up. They will be grouchy but they will go to bed easier. Make bed time like 9:30 or sooner if possible. Start later and work your way to an earlier time in 15 minute increments every couple of weeks. The early bed time will give you time to relax and just sit. Don't use this time for chores....relax. This will keep you from getting overwhelmed. remember-take in a deep breath and just relax. It will get easier I promise. Good luck!!

Answer 4

You will be okay, I have two boys (4 and 2) and am about to deliver a third boy (I'm at 33 weeks). My boys are a handful, and I mean a handful, my two year old can break into everything, we have had to resort to bike chains and padlocks. I'm sure this third boy will be just the same. I have moments of terror, when I think I will never be able to do this. But we will, both of us. We will keep changing diapers, making breakfast, reading books and doing mountains of laundry. One day, we will wake up and realize we are doing it, and doing it well. It's just like when we were pregnant with the second and we were worried that we would be messing up our first, it didn't and we will make it through a third. Don't doubt yourself, you will be fine. Best wishes.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

you will be ok, i never had kids till now i am 43 yrs old and have a 3 and 4 yr old and maybe one more on the way, not sure yet. you will be tired but you will manage to be the very best mom ever. other people have 6 or 7 kids and manage so we should feel lucky. good luck, bye

Answer 7

you will be fine. if at all possible would you consider a move closer to the inlaws? it would be a comfort to know they are close by if you need them. get your older kids on a schedule for naps and stuff and prepare a bunch of meals ahead of time before you have the new baby so you wont feel pressure to cook dinner every night. serve the kids meals on paper plates that can be discarded so your kitchen isnt always a constant state of chaos. good luck to you and i know you will be fine.

Answer 8

you will be alright i promise!! i have a 4 year old a 18 month old and a 7 week old and it gets a little hectic but it always works out. i have all three of my three on a routine well execpt for my 7 week old shes on her own but it really helpt o have a routine. good luck and it will work out

Answer 9

you will because you have too, i have 4 under 4 and i pretty much do it on my own. its hard mine are 4,3,2,11months. but when it comes down to it i have to and even when i feel like running away i cant, when it gets too much i lock myself in a room for 5. if they listen to you, you should be fine but if they are anything like mine and do as they please and fight with you till you are drained then you will need to see the doc....... stressed out!!

Answer 10

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