I am a 23 year old single mother. My daughter is three and I just recently left her father. I was with him for over six years and wasn't allowed to go out places. Now I don't even know where to go or who to call. Plus, between work and my daughter, I don't even have time for myself. What should I do?
2007-05-18 16:00:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
get a close family friend or relative to watch your daughter maybe 1 or 2 nights a week. call your friends that you haven't seen in a while and catch up with them. im sure they'd love to hear from you. as hard as it may be.
2007-05-18 16:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a single mom of a 6 year old girl and I was in the same situation a couple of years ago. You just have to make some time for yourself because if your not happy, then you wont be happy when your with your girl. Its not easy to do but its not that hard. I spend my days off with my daughter and in the evening of those days I go hang out with friends. If you have a sister or at least one friend then that's all you need. Going to a movie will change how you feel. Its the little things that will help open your options to more bigger ones. Be strong and don't worry about feeling guilty for leaving with out your daughter its natural to feel that way. You cant always be with your daughter when not at work, as long as its not an every day thing.
2007-05-22 11:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now you should concentrate on getting you and your daughter setteled. Your daughter might have a rough time with her father not there everyday. Once things calm down and you work out your new schedules try meeting your new neighbors if any of them have children and you are comfortable with them you can exchange babysitting duty so that you all get a break. Join a church, you will meet people there and they do all kinds of things I am told. Try to make some friends with people that you work with. Just don't rush into things remember the whole Brittney Spears thing. You don't want to go hog wild just because you are tasting freedom you still have a responsibility to yourself and your daughter. Also you could let your husband/boyfriend/babys daddy watch her while you go out. Just because you two broke up you should not keep your daughter from him. He will always be her Father so you will have to learn to communicate and share her. Good Luck to you. D & G Gifts Etc
2007-05-18 16:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and my daughter's father left while I was still pregnant with my little angel. I met my price charning at work and now I'm married to a doctor. All you've gotta do is wait until you find your prince charming. So what if some guy left you, it makes time for a real man to find you and scoop you up.
And that's what he is now...just a guy. Don't compare him to someone else. Try to to be open to new people, don't let him drag you because he left, guys leave all the time
Everytime a door closes, you just have to open a window.
Wow...I just read the other girls responses and I totally disagree...take some time just to spend with your daughter. You don't need a man in your life to make you happy. Just be with her and when the time is right you'll meet someone, don't go out looking for it...you know what they say "love always hits you when you least expect it"
2007-05-18 20:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by punk pirate 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Join the club! I'm a single mom with three kids and haven't been out with friends in over a year. I work full-time too. I guess we'll just have to wait til there a little older to be swinging moms again :) Not having a life is also a good sign that you are home taking care of your first priority.
2007-05-18 16:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there. I know it's cliche'...but what doesn't kill will you...will only make you STRONGER! I admire single mother's. Keep working hard for you and your child & maybe you could do something that involves fun with both you and her. Is there anyone in your family...a sister, a cousin, your mother or a close friend that you can have babysit once or twice a month for you to go out with friends or go see a movie or something? I think things will eventually get better for you.
2007-05-18 17:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. your life is what you make of it. even if it means taking your daughter to a friends place or to a family members house so you can have time to your self it is possible to go out with friends for lunch, or a few drinks. just manage your time a little better. plan your week on sunday and figure out when you can have some me time.
2007-05-19 04:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Just kidding! Single mom w/ one child....hmmm, can totally relate to you!!! It's a challenge for sure---to find time for yourself. Since you just left your ex, you need a lot of support to get you figure out your new life and to adjust to your new lifestyle. A todder/preschooler needs a lot of attention. Enlist family and friends to help out so you can recooperate and re energize yourself. You need to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else. So give yourself time to figure this very important piece.....You are stronger than you think. Don't give up or don't give in! Bravo to you and best wishes!
2007-05-18 22:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Arie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are places that help women like you. Call our local woman's shelter and they will give you a lot of resources. I went through it and I know you probably feel totally helpless, that's how I felt anyways. Things will get better, just be optimistic. Good luck
2007-05-18 16:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds toooo familiar. for alone time i stay up a little later. and i went on eharmony. if you have a date, and you have to bring your child, go somewhere child friendly. the zoo, child restaurant, park. your a package deal, besides if you want a lasting relationship it starts with friendship. i think its okay for children to see you with new friends. as long as it just stays that way, for awhile. i have a three year old and i met a wonderful man on eharmony when my son was two, he loves him and wouldn't even think of asking me to leave him witha sitter..we are a family.
2007-05-18 16:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by JL 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋