I have been dating a wonderful man for a little over 6 months now and I am thinking of introducing him to my son. Our relationship is strong but I am nervous about introducing him. I had dated another man in past for about 2 years but when we split it was very hard on my son, because he became close to him. Please help me out on this one.
2007-05-18 15:42:53 · 9 answers · asked by Shooters Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well there is no way to keep that from happening again as you seem to want to find a new father for your son. Give it a year, by then all of his bad habits will have surfaced and you can decided if this is the right guy for you.
If it was hard on your son, that was your fault. You can control how much he bonds with the man in your life.
2007-05-18 15:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There unfortunately is no simple answer to this. You said so yourself, dating a man for 2 years and it didn't work out. There is no guarantee of any relationship. You just have to make sure you THINK it will go someplace. If you do decide to introduce them, just don't have him at your house a lot, don't let your son get attached to him till you know you might be together forever. When he picks you up, meet him outside and just don't let him hang around your house. This is very hard on kids. If his father is not in the picture it is probably even harder getting attached to any man then him leaving. You need your life but don't let them get too acquainted, just let them meet and say you are friends. I hope it works out for you. I've been there.
2007-05-18 15:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your son before introducing your new boyfriend to him. Explain to him that this person makes you happy and you want to give it a shot. Tell him that you do not want to stay single and are looking for love. Tell him how this person makes you feel and that you would like to preserve that. Also, I do not know how old your son is , but make him understand that relationships are not easy sometimes, they work out and sometimes, they don't. He should prepare himself to that eventuality. I think by this time that your son has figured it out. Regardless, you have to let him know that you are willing to take the chance. Better take a chance than to wonder if it could have worked out.
2007-05-18 15:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your should never hide the truth from your kids. Be honest
with them about everything they will love you more for this.
Your son would want to meet the man that he is sharing his
mom with. And you should see how they get along before you
decide to move in together or get married. I made the mistake of getting married to soon and not letting my kids get
to know their now step Father. We are still suffering from
this 10 years later.
2007-05-18 15:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not util you know this man is for ever as children get hurt if you have a break up so be sure and then let your son meet yours and his destiny?
2007-05-18 15:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not until ya'll both feel comfortable and confident about it. Make sure he is THE ONE b/c you dont want your son to feel like.."Gosh, one man comes....and goes"..so make sure it's the right moment. Think about Marriage first!
2007-05-18 15:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by GOD-lova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say its time, if its not going to work because of your son wouldnt you rather find out sooner than waste more time?
2007-05-18 15:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as you start talking marriage, and not before.
2007-05-18 15:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its tiiiiime
2007-05-18 15:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by das36344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋