I Need Help Real BAD?

Question

My moms boyfriend has been hitting me and it has happened twice and then he told me about "doing it" with my mom and nobody believes me I even told the guidance counsler and she told my mom and she still does not believe me or has done anything wut did I do to deserve this I AM ONLY 11

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My mom really trusts my aunts but I already talked to them and they thought I was lying and it does not help that one of my aunts had just went to school for her job on interrogating and she said I showed signs of lying I would never do that and they said to stop saying stuff like that because he could lose his job which he is also in the air force but wutever my overprotective uncle is in the army and when I told him he was about to rearrange his face but counldnt since he is in arizona and I m in va so that does not help and I do not want to call the police or anything because his family is close to mine and they would hate me and I would get in trouble I just want him out of my house yes it is my house he isnt even in the paperwork for the house and if you read the whole thing thank you so much for your time

Answer 1

you need to get help fast!! Talk to a cop or something. Yuor mom should believe you. But if you dont do something now it could get worse.

Answer 2

Now know that if you are fibbing people could face serious consequence but if you are being honest they should face consequence so call Child Protective Custody. If that doesnt work tell your principal, hes required to move forward and notifit authorities and others or your situation. Protect yourself kid, since it seems noone is doing enough for you, dont lose faith in your mom, she'll snap out of it and eventually apologize, dont let this poison your heart eventhough your moms priorities are a lil off right now. Call the police next time he hits you, run to a neighbors house. God bless your young heart and keep you safe. By the way where is your biological father? ask a family member to take care of you temporarily? is that not an option?

Answer 3

Sweetheart. do NOT worry about what the family will think of you! If you are being abused, you do NOT deserve to be treated that way! PERIOD!! The first thing you need to do is call the police if he hits you again. Tell everyone that you know what is going on. School, friends, family and a local church if you have one. There is power in numbers! I don't know what you call it in your state, it may be called the Welfare Dept, Social Services, Family and Children, whatever, just call them and tell them that you are being abused by your mom's boyfriend. They will step in and be the voice you need. They will protect you and will make your family get the help they need. Do NOT let this continue on. You could get really hurt or even killed! Abusers usually do NOT stop, they get worse. PLEASE contact the agency in your state immediately. I will pray for God's protection over you sweetie....Lord bless

Answer 4

The only thing you need to do is go to your school and let them know what is going on. School districts are required by law to investigate any suspicions of child abuse, including any accusations made. If your school counselor has not done what is required by law to do, then go to the principal or call CYF yourself. You can even have the school officials call the local police to come to your school and talk with them there, or stop in there one day on the way home from school. I am appalled that Mom does not listen to you, or that she can even see whats going on. Children dont make these things up and there IS someone out there to help you. So please, call and have the police come to your school and talk with them without your parents being there. They will know what to do and how to help. You should also tell them that your previous visit to the school counselor did nothing to rectify your problem. Good luck and most importantly, dont give up. There IS help for you out there!

Answer 5

I think the house is in your mom's name, right? Not yours.
But it helps that his name is not on the title.
One person you have not seen yet is someone in your church. Is there someone in your church who does what is called 'pastoral counseling'? They not only counsel but they know the resources needed to deal with problems and the procedures to file complaints about problems.
You need to stay away from him and only be around him when there are witnesses to what he might say or do. Refuse to get in a car with him alone and ask the guidance counselor how you can protect yourself and avoid being alone with this guy.
If one guidance counselor is not helpful, go to another different guidance counselor at school and tell her that you will keep seeking help because you really need it.
I know that adults can be callous and disbelieving of kids. I know this from experience.
The thing is, you seem to want this problem addressed without 'causing a scandal'. That will be difficult but if you do see a pastoral counselor, express that concern to them. It's not unreasonable. When you are a kid, there are a lot of people whose opinion you care about and whose reaction you fear... and no one likes the embarassment of being called a liar, either.
Good luck. I think you should be talking to someone regularly - pastoral counseling is generally free. Don't think just one visit to talk about what is going on is going to cover your situation. You gain confidence when you have an adult who can get the bigger picture and deal with the other adults, in particular, your mother!

Answer 6

Just confronting Him in front of your Mom, and ask Him: Why do you hit me? Now my Mom doesn't believe me. Be a man, and say the truth. of course He maybe will denied it again. But you stay strong. You have to protect your self. Tell Him too :(everything in front of your Mom, don't be afraid if she get mad at you, it is better than she doesn't believe you right?) if you hit me again I'll call the police, and if He hit you again CALL THE POLICE! no matter what.Protect yourself OK? Don't leave Him to touch ever again. Get help wherever you can. Good Luck

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Sweetie, i am so sorry you dont deserve this kind of treatment and its not your fault.

since your mum isnt doing anything about it maybe you should get in touch with child protection services or the cops etc.

People who are in authority. Also maybe go back to the school counsellor and tell her that nothing has been done about it and ask her to help you get help!!

Take Care ok!!

Answer 9

I'm so sorry this is happening to you honey. I can't imagine what that must be like. you're in my thoughts and prays. I hope things get better soon.

maybe try to tell a police officer? because doing that to children is a crime!

Or if you can, you could try and hide a video camera somewhere in your room, or wherever the guy hits you at, then show it to your mom.

But don't let your mom's boyfriend know that you're telling people, because that wouldn't help you at all.

Good luck, sweetheart. I hope things get better.

Answer 10

Go to the authorities. Go to the principal. Keep trying to get help. It is ALWAYS wrong for anyone to hurt anyone else either by hitting or using words that hurt your heart.

You should never hear about your mom's experiences with men from ANY man.

Tell your doctor. Tell your dentist. Tell your neighbour. KEEP TRYING!!