He and I (friends) work Fridays Saturdays Sundays and Mondays and Tues. We talk while at work although his job requires his hands. We are together on lunch breaks and talk til it's time to go to sleep.
On our off days our days start at 7 a.m. We run errands, anything to see each other. Our nights end at 3 a.m. or later. Sometimes we don't sleep. We are together more then I am with anyone else. We sometimes have sex, but not frequently. We go on dates, visit his family members, play basketball together. We do it all. We;ve been friends since the age of 5. His fam calls me up to hang out. We are very affectionate. I'm in love with him. He's told me he loves me. We are like magnets. When we aren't together we are in constant contact. He has a girlfriend!!! I've let him go and then ironic situations have pushed us back together. I don't know what's the deal! He is everything I could ever want in a man. He sets my heart on fire with the simplest smile. I need some thought on this. PLEASE!
2007-05-18 14:44:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if he truelly loves you... he will leave his girlfriend for you.... You must confront him and give him an ultimatum... Not worth living a lie all your life if this man does not love you. Hope everything goes well for you.
2007-05-18 14:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by cleveralbanian. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhhmm... This is a all or nothing situation. There is only two hard ways out of this. The first one is to pull him aside ( but not before or during sex a guy will say anything before or during sex ) and ask him how he feels about you. You could start by telling him how you feel about him first but if he doesn't feel the same then that could be a heart breaking moment for you. The second is just moving on to something more stable, you can have a man on the side and still see him too. That's what he does with you, only your the side girl.
2007-05-18 21:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And you wonder why you cant get over him b\c you involve yourself in everything he does. AND DONT SAY YOU HAVE TO OR SOME BULLSH!T. B\c you do, you put yourself in these situations, your questions are just non-stop you already the answer you know what you have to do but you just wont do it!! You keep saying you moved on, and what did i tell ya I gave you month b4 you'd end up in his bed again and look you were in his bed 3 wks after I had said that. I dont see you having a life at really, how sad for you!!
I'm sick and tired of trying to have something positive to say but I cant anymore... YOUR NOT IN LOVE!! Cant you hear what everyone is saying "If he loved you, he wouldve left the girlfriend for you" But he doesnt!! He just loves the sex is that all you want to be for him, if you think that giving me sex is gonna make him change his ways and give all his love that he has for you then your wrong!! Your going about it the wrong way!! He loves his girlfriend,your just a sidekick he can use for sex.
So keep being his Monica Lewinsky cause you know what happens there dont cha, Hilary forgave Bill and theyre still together today. Your guy mate has a wonderful girlfriend b\c Im sure she knows about you two but she just forgives him and he still stays with her.
So keep asking your questions but you will get the same answers in return.
2007-05-19 22:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless the man you've dreamed up came with a bonus girlfriend who wants to be in a trio... this is NOT what you've always wanted.
This guy is having the cake and eating it... no joke. He has total control in a bad way. I'm sorry but I don't see a happy ending on this one... and the fact that you are posting this shows that you too, know, deep down, that this picture ain't right....
BTW, you're not having sex too often because he has to run double duty if you see what I mean. I hope you're using protection girl... the best one would be to let go of him. Yeah it's going to take time, yeah it's going to be hella hard seeing him everyday, but you know what, you derserve someone who loves you and commits to you.
Unless, as I mentioned, your dream is to be in a trio. Remember though, the girlfriend needs to be OK with it as well if that dream is to work.
Good luck, it's a tough road ahead...
2007-05-18 21:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Eclipse owned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything sounded good until the girlfriend part. To my way of thinking if he truly cared for you. You would be his girlfriend. I would just keep him as a friend. No sex nothing like that. Like you said he has a girlfriend.
2007-05-18 21:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's getting the best of both worlds, he gets the girl, and he gets the girl. It looks like you might get your heart broken since he hasn't settled with you. I have friends that we tell eachother we love eachother, but to me it's more of a family love, not a love love. Does he know how you feel?
2007-05-18 21:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by curlysax24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already defined the situation: He has a girlfriend.
It isn't you.
What more do you need to know?
None of that other stuff matters if he has a girlfriend.
2007-05-18 21:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's using you.
He obviously doesn't love you if he still has a girlfriend. What else could it be? If he loved you, and wasn't just using you, he would've broken up with his girlfriend.
2007-05-18 22:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by LaissezFaire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your the spark waiting to start the fire
in other words sounds like romeo and juliet
2007-05-18 21:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what you have told us. If he feels the same, he'll let you know.. but dont always trust the words that are said.. watch his actions and if they are the same as what he spouts out, then he's being truthful.
2007-05-18 21:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by senacia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋