What can I do, I just lost my dad and I don't feel like keeping on?

Question

48 days ago my dad was murdered, he was and old man and some thieves broke in the house, he was alone and kill him, I don't find any sense to my life since then, and I don't want to live here anymore, I don't feel like doing anything now on, what for...

Answer 1

I lost my dad 3 months ago, although he wasn't murdered, I feel that he was taken way to early. To me my dad was my world. My kids and I all cherished him and cared for him in his last days and everyone tells me that it will get easier with time. The best advicee I have heard and also the one I chose to follow is to take it one day at a time, remember the good times and that he would not want me to stop living just because he is not here in body because he will always be sitting on my shoulder helping me to get through each rough moment that I face. He died in my home also so I have been unable to go into the room he died in as of yet but eventually I will. My situation is different from yours in many ways but it sounds like you loved your dad deeply. Think of your dad daily, remember the little things he did for you and with you, and if you have trouble facing the day, talk to him, he may not be able to talk back but he can hear you and it helps. Most of all just remember he will always be with you and he loved you enough that he would want you to lead a long and happy life, not a miserable one. I hope any of this helps you as it did me after it was told to me by a grief counselor. Good Luck and I am sorry for your loss. If none of this helps consider seeing a grief counselor yourself, they can help you through it and most times the police department will provide one for you.

Answer 2

I'm so, so sorry. I can't imagine how terrible that would be. I know that this is far easier said than done, but try to fall back into the things that you loved before you lost your dad. Throw yourself into whatever you used to do. Just keeping busy can help so much, but don't keep yourself so busy that you don't let yourself feel what you're feeling. It's not good to feel sad all of the time, but you can't feel better until you mourn at least a little. You could also look into seeing a therapist- when one of my family members lost her father, that really helped her. I know that psychologists and psychiatrists can be really expensive, but if you're in school, you could see a school counselor, and if you're not, you could try asking your doctor if he or she has any recommendations. Really, though, just do whatever it takes to make you want to keep living. Try to think of all the little things (as random or pointless as they might be) that have made you happy in the past, like your favorite TV show or food or kind of weather. You'd definitely miss those things if you weren't here anymore. And if you have anyone close to you that you think would understand, definitely talk to them. Just feeling loved can make you much happier, and talking to someone can be so comforting.
Feel better<3

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your tragic loss. Just take it one day at a time.The Lord will not forsake you in your hour of need. Do you have family and friends you can talk to so that you are not alone in this? It might help if you talked to a bereavement counselor or a mental health therapist. Don't give up. Hang in there. I lost my brother almost a year ago and it still seems like yesterday at times. Pray to the Lord and ask for his comfort and his blessings. Keep posting on here if you are alone and have no one to talk to. There are a lot of good folks on here who've lost a loved one. God Bless You.

Answer 4

You don't say how old you are. If you're old enough, why not move to another house? It's so hard to lose someone you love. My dad died almost 10 years ago and I miss him everyday. It does get easier to live with. You'll feel him with you. When you feel like you don't want to go on, think of how much he wanted for you and your life, and how disappointed he'd be if you just checked out. I'm a parent now, and it would kill me if my children didn't want to go on after I died. As parents, it's your job to get your kids to a point that they can go on without you. Make him proud. Go on and do well. Prove he did a good job, and do it for him.
My friend was killed in the WTC on 9/11 and left behind three boys 12, 11 and 8. It was so hard for them. But now, almost 6 years later, they are children he would be so proud of. One is graduating next month and going to college. They think of him often (I see they still write on his dedication website) but they have gone on as his legacy to prove what a wonderful man he was.

Answer 5

Im sorry about your dad...it's still so early that you'll probably go through so many emotions...too many to know what you really want to do once you get through the beginning of your grief. please tell your mom or a sibling that you feel so bad you think you could hurt yourself. if you dont feel like doing anything right now, then dont. take a little time off if you work and try to relax. as far as a reason for going on...if your Dad felt the same way about you as you seem to feel about him, im sure he would want you to see life for the gift that it is...especially since his was taken the way that it was. allow yourself some time to grieve before you do anything rash, and talk to someone you love and trust as soon as you can

Answer 6

Well first off ur grieving! it's normal to feel hopeless and helpless espec when ur dad was killed. tat royally sux. do u have any close friends or family? would it help to c a counselor? Was it in ur control to stop the theives from stealing then killing ur dad. It will take time my friend to get over this but in time u will learn better coping skills. I lost my dad in 1998 dec 28th and i still cry about that. hang in there ok?

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Just remember that your dad wouldn't want you to just give up and not go on. You may want to talk to a counselor at your church, or even a doctor about getting some help dealing with the depression and the multitude of feelings you will be having. Please just hang in there. Don't give up. If nothing else, keep going to keep your dad's memory alive.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

hi;i am so sorry for your loss,but listen you can't just give up,look i don't know how old you may be but one thing i do know is the answer is never to give up.Someone murred my boilogical mother too only the killer was the brother who greww up with who also him and his wife stolled my first born child and toled me the bany died.now i do unstand your feels just never ket youe feels dictate what you should do ok?Honey i shared these two things with you to show you that your not alone when it cimes to this type of pain,and belive me there are a whole lot of other people who have had even worest things happen than we have.it is true.if you don't belive in Jesus maybe this is a good time to seek his face,you know what he say:come unto me all ye who labour and are heavy ladain and i will give you rest.take my yoke upon you and learn of me for i am meek and lowley of heart and ye shall find rest for your souls.only he can comfort you the way you need to be comforted.try it and see if this is not true/i challenge you try praying and just tell God how you feel in your heart and ask for his comfort.and i will pray for you too ok?take care now...don't give up.!

Answer 10

sorry 2 hear dat but u should be very strong.
u should kno dat if ur still here its 4 a reason cuz u need 2 keep on with your life and theres a purpose in ur life as well.
it sux but dat how life is we're all diein but some go first =[