I AM GOING THROUGH SOME PROBLEMS WITH MY FATHERAND THEY ARE MAJOR wat should i do?

Question

my father is always finding some way to wait until i mess up and curse me out and call me evry name in the book he also always regreting me as his son, and wishing bad things on me i am kinda nervous about calling the cops becuz i think they wont do anything please take this seriously and tell me what i need to do..........

and sometimes he can get physical(most times)

i am 15 years old and will be 16 on the twevelth of sept.

Answer 1

My son had the same exact problem with his dad. i feel real bad cause i moved out after divorce, and my son wouldn't move with me because he wanted to stay in the house he grew up in. that was like 14 years ago, and his father still acts like that. he and your dad have some kind of emotional and /or drug/alcohol problem,cause normal people don't act like that It is not your fault. with my ex its clear that he thinks his son should be everything -he,the father,always wanted to be, but is not, and so takes it out on his son, (did that make sense?).
Where's your mom? you need to talk with her or some other relative about how you could get out that house and stay with someone else. This is way to much stress for you to deal with, you need to be where there is love and acceptance, and where no mess up is a bad mess up. those are just excuses for him to start in on you, and if you weren't
there, he would treat someone else that way. it's not about you that he's like that. Seriously ask a counselor at school for help with this . and if they don't help you quick, like within a coupla days you need to find someone else to call.Please please stay calm think it through, don't sink to his level and act out, or they might try to get you for bad behavior, fighting or whatever.If he ever lays a hand on you then you can call the cops but don't fight back or they might pin it on you. lol

Answer 2

This is called abuse, and if he gets physical you need to call the police. He needs some anger management classes and it sounds like he isn't going to hear it from you. Do you have a relative that is close? A close family friend? You need to call the police or Human Resource Center and soon. Nobody should be hitting you or getting physical. He is also mentally abusing you, and you need to get some help. The police will help, and also, inform you of your rights. Please don't wait, it has already gone on long enough. You haven't done anything wrong, and it needs to be put out in the open, your Father needs help whether he knows it or not. Good luck, I really hope you report this, it is not right.

Answer 3

Believe me I know exactly what you are going through, I am not sure how old you are but from the time I was 10 till now (22) my father and I didn't get along. It did get to the point that I called the cops (NOT A GOOD IDEA) unless you are physically hurt. If you honestly feel threatened you do need to talk to someone other than your father. If not talk to him, just try to keep your composure and not blow up. I obviously don't know your particular circumstance, but I know its hard. I hope you get through this and with your father. He is, whether you see it now or not, a very big part of your life it took me 3 years of not talking to my father AT ALL to realize I regretted not spending time with him. I really do feel for you and hope you can find a good solution here, and that you have someone to talk to about this. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I am sorry that your father doesn't know how to be a father. You just need to develop some coping skills. I don't know how old you are, but until you are old enough to leave home and earn a decent living you are going to have to put up with it, I guess.

There's nothing the cops can or will do. Do you have a grown up friend who you can talk to like a pastor or the parent of a friend?

What you father should be doing is catching you doing good and right things.

Sorry I couldn't help you more.

Answer 5

See if he would be willing to do some family counsiling. Who knows maybe that's how his dad treated him. The cops would not help you but CPS (child protective services) could. but just remember that anytime calls are made to them it is likely that they will remove you from the home and put you in the system and well it's not always a pretty sight. Som of the places that they stick kids are actully worse than where the kid is already at. If you are 16 you could try to get emansipated and move out and try to make it on your own.

Answer 6

You don't say how old you are, but it sounds like you're a minor. If this is or could become physical, tell a school counselor or the police. They are required to act on it. Even verbal abuse is wrong. Have you tried talking to your mom? If she won't help, contact your local Child Protective Services office. They will investigate and get you the help you need.

Answer 7

Are your mom and dad still together?? Even if they arent talk to your MOM b/c she knows/knew him better then most probably... after all they have been in each others lives as long as you have been on this earth! Maybe she could help you and give you some advice on what to do and how to handle things!

I have been in a similar situation although my father wasnt HATEFUL! My dad is manic depressive and has some MAJOR mood swings! Once I got him a dog for his birthday and the dog barked ALL night the first (and only) night at my dads. B/c of that, the neighbors complained and threatened to call the cops (which I thought was really stupid!). So my dad called me over and told me to come get the "damn dog" which I did! Once I got there he continued to not only yell at me but he cussed me out and PUNCHED me in the face (all b/c of a birthday present that I thought he would like.. the dog). Now take into consideration that I was just barely 18 yrs old, a female and weighed about 100 lbs soaking wet! I was STUNNED and in SHOCK!! I couldnt believe that my father would do that to me!! After 6 months of not speaking he finally not only apologized but got "help" in the form of medication for his manic episodes!

What I am TRYING to say is that perhaps its a chemical imbalance in your father! It still doesnt EXCUSE him in ANY way but it might give you peace of mind (just a bit) to know that its not YOU... but in fact its HIM! Even if its NOT something "medically" wrong, keep in mind that it is NOT YOU!! Your father has NO RIGHT to take out his aggressions and all that nonsense on YOU!

And try your best to shrug it off and realize that YOU are not to blame... its HIM! Dont take it personally b/c I am sure that you dont deserve the verbal abuse that he is giving you!!

I really hope that you figure out what is going on! Maybe try and actually TALK to him when neither of you are "upset," like on a "good" day when he is in a decent mood. And when you DO talk to him, dont accuse or start ANY sentance w/ "YOU" b/c that is going to get your dad defensive IMMEDIATELY and the conversation will be over before it even begins! Maybe try something like "Dad, can I ask you what I have done to make you so mad at me? I feel like you regret the fact that I am even in your life! I love you very much and it hurts to think that you dont even like me!" That might get him to at least THINK about what he is doing to you!!

Again good luck and I hope things work out!

Answer 8

if ur father isnt hitting u then the cops cant do anything about it everyone is going to mess up in life thats how we learn things trust me sooner or later he is going to regret all he has done to u i hope everything works out and a parent should NEVER regret having their child dont let it get to u too much im sure ur not the only one out there going thru this my dad dont even call me that much when he does this prove him wrong that will really get under his skin good luck

Answer 9

The only time the cops will help is if he hits you,then he can lie and tell them it was all your fault and get out of it.The best thing you can do is talk to either your Grandparents,Aunts or Uncles or talk to your school counselor.Maybe the next time he hits you and leaves marks show the counselor.

Answer 10

Don't call the cop. GO TO THE POLICE STATION! Explain to them the situation and ask them for guidance. I had the exact problem when I was under 18. I went to a police station, explained to them, they temporarily put me in a decent "turning point" resident where I had a lot of fun with other kids and the social workers there. They then called my father in for interview, and afterward came up with an excellent solution.

Quietly go to the police station, explain it to them now!