Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and have become very close. I love him to death, but he keeps on lying to me. He keeps on smoking weed and saying he won't ever do it again after I catch him. But just last night I found out he's been smoking and selling a lot of it. I really don't want him to and it breaks my heart knowing he smokes weed and lies about it. Im sick and tired of this problem but I really, really dont want to break up with him. I dont know. What should I do?
2007-05-18 13:59:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Another things is, I also pop pills and he hates that. I was willing to stop if he was. He said he was, but he didn't stop. BUT, I did stop. Until I found out he didn't. Truthfully, I kinda have four people who are gonna give me some xanax Monday. Yeah....that's just another fact.
2007-05-18 14:08:25 · update #1
I'm going to tell you something that I had to learn the hard way. He has to want to change, you can't make him. My ex used to lie to me all the time about everything and he was so smooth at it too...he could look me in the eye and not even flinch when he did it. I found out things about him that I really didn't want to know and I felt as heartbroke as you probably do right now knowing what you know. I'm going to let you know from personal experience that if you stick with someone who continuously lies and breaks your heart like this you will never honestly be happy and i'm sure you probably know that but don't want to admit it. I was the same way. You need to come right out and tell him how you feel and give him an ultimatum. I know it's hard but in the long run you will see it was the right thing to do. If he's not going to change, there's someone out there who's much better for you and would make you happy. Good luck and I hope everything works in your favor!
2007-05-18 14:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and EX- boyfriend were going out for a long time and he was doing and selling drugs. H e said he love me but drugs always wins. Drugs and his boys always come first in a drug relationship. If he is lying about selling and smoking you think he is not lying about nothing else in your relationship. I no you love him so much and you don't want to leave him but what kind of man that lies to his girlfriend. He probably loves you . but most the time drug people cheats on you.. I hope you pick the right way . I did leave my ex-boyfriend because he was a a**-hole and didn't want to give up the drugs and drinking. He also didn't want anything to do with are son and i was happen i told him my son will never be in drug or drinking. Now i am married with a guy that loves me and don't lies. he loves my son and treat him like his.
2007-05-18 21:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecka V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far be it from me to judge, but if he can't stop then he may have a problem that you may not be able to help him with. Deciding to quit doing drugs is a decision that he has to make on his own. You are doing a good job on asking him to quit. That's called planting the seed. Now everyone makes mistakes and if you give him a altimatum and tell him that he has to quit smoking weed or your done with him. Stick by his side if he is willing to really try. If he does not then you need to stick by your guns and leave him. I realize that when you are in love with someone it is hard to let go. But when you said that he is starting to sell some of his stash.......I am afraid that if you stay he could drag you done with him.
2007-05-18 21:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by princesstiarablu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do. If he is lying, you cannot trust him. Keep in mind people who do not do drugs, of any kind, do not want to be involved with people who do. Do you want to be around when he finally gets caught selling? Is jail an experience you feel is missing in your life? Just remember it is easier for others to pull you down than for you to pull them up. Girl, I have been there and done that. Drop the dead weight before he drags you down.
2007-05-18 21:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes not gonna change. If he really cared about you he would stop. Instead he cares more about pot and getting high. You should break up with him and get a clean guy. This guy is on his way to the slammer eventually!
2007-05-18 21:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by chief10619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep riding with him in his car and one day he will get pulled over and since you know he smokes it and sells it you will go to jail too.
2007-05-18 21:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he keeps lying to you then tell him that if he does it one more time your relationship is over and if he lies to you call it quits.
2007-05-18 21:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sexychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to him... tell him you like him alot and you want things to last.. but your having a problem with him keep on lying to you.
seem really mad/sad/dissapointed
make him feel bad for you ;)
2007-05-18 21:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bad situation, if your with him and he is caught so are you. So you need think do you love so much that your willing to go to jail, and if you are then stay with him.
2007-05-18 21:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by buetifulgrl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are going to be the one to get in trouble if you don't go now! You don't need it. Get far far away! Good Luck
2007-05-18 21:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋