I've Prayed and Prayed?

Question

to God and the saints for a soulmate to come into my life. I've prayed for years and now am 40.

Is it possible I missed him, or God needs to whack me on the head, or should I just remain single? Is that my answer.

Any help would be great. THanks.

I asked for positive support, not negative ones, please.

I dress modestly, and comely.

Answer 1

There's a difference between looking for a spouse and for a "soul mate". As far as I am concerned, there's no such thing as a soul mate. Let me explain-we all have to make tough choices, sometimes between multiple things. A big choice I had to make recently was what college I wanted to attend. After applying to several, six were available to me.

Now, there's a few ways I can look at the college selection process. Has God 'destined' only one college for me? Did I apply to the right colleges? Should I have applied to more colleges? Should I not have wasted so much money applying to so many? The problem is that I am analyzing too much. While God may know that I could have made a better college choice, God will work with your choices to make them work for you.

That sounds a little weird, but we as Christians are supposed to try to follow God's will, as it has been revealed in the Bible. The obvious things to follow are the Ten Commandments. The Bible, however, is much more complex than that. When it comes to colleges, it's pretty easy to find a college that will not violate God's will for your life, directly at least. Sure, some colleges are bigger party schools, or more secular than others, but that is only directed by the choices of the people that attend. We can always choose to do the right thing.

Relating to searching for mates, if you are so dead set on finding the 'perfect' man, you may find your search a bit difficult. I would suggest continuing the search, but when you begin to find somebody you like, there are some things you should ask yourself. Instead of asking, "Is this the right man for me?", you should be asking, "Would marrying this man cause me to sin, or go against the Word of God?" You should also be asking a lot of other things before considering marriage, like if the person is a Christian, if he will devote time to you and the family and if the relationship is already working.

In essence, you should be more concerned about making the relationship last if it comes to marriage. God will help you make any ‘bad’ choice work out for you. We are responsible to make choices that won’t be intentionally bad for us. Out of those six colleges that I could have chosen, I couldn’t really make a wrong choice. However, when I had narrowed down to two colleges, I was stuck. I took the riskier choice (the being, The University of Hawaii at Manoa), and I pray that God will use this choice to shape me and help me learn Japanese to the fullest extent possible. My only qualification was the college had to have Japanese major. It did. So, there’s nothing that the college choice has that is directly against God’s will. I have to trust that I made a good choice, and not worry about making the ‘perfect choice’. You should only worry about making a good choice for a husband, and not worry about a 'perfect choice'.

Answer 2

God answers prayers that are directly related with his will. It's important to note that God doesn't answer prayers such as a child wanting a new bike. (This is illustrative only! I'm not trying to minimize or make light of your situation, in any way) If you're looking for a marriage mate, and both you and that person are true Christians, I guarantee God will either allow the two of you to meet, or, give you an answer (via the Bible or other Bible-based publications). However, an adult wanting a new car might be in line with God's will, if that new car were to be used in the preaching and disciple-making work, thereby increasing His Kingdom. False religious advocates would have you believe that it's easier than all that, but, according to the Bible, which was inspired by the same god they claim they are praying to, it's not. 1Corr. 14:40 says, "Let all things take place decently and by arrangement". So if we're asking for God's help, we have to ask His way.

Answer 3

Write a list of all the attributes you would like in this man of yours. Hair color, eyes, body, mind, attitude, beliefs etc. Imagine what he would look like. Spend some time every day imagining what your life would be like with this man. What you would live in and where. Waking up and spending the day with this man. Imagine the activities you would enjoy together. Spend time doing this every day. By time I mean several minutes, several times a day, with the most important times being upon awakening and going to sleep. Don't ask God for this, ask yourself. The subconscious mind is most easily impressed upon during waking and falling asleep. Don't spend any time at all on thinking about not having what you want. It may take weeks or months to bring about the encounter with this man but rest assured it will happen. Even spend some time being greatful that you have already met him. I did this unconsciously, learning years later how it all works. It works. I have done this for many things in my life. This is how prayer really works. I wish you the best and bless you both. Have a great Journey.

Answer 4

Hello. If youv'e prayed as long as you say you did,with little result; then God is telling you it's time for you to act. I wouldn't guarentee you will meet a soulmate straight away. I"ve met mine in my second marriage.(26years so far). But it's up to you to go hunting. By the way do Benny or Ronny function in your lives at present? Just names I find round you.Hunting involves you to join in some activities of your choosing. There is someone there for you. You have got to make the best of yourself,and get ready for that joyous day. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Well, one think I've learned about relationships, is that Gods not gonna place someone in your life that your suppose to love and cherish, if you dont love and cherish Him out of everything right now, like God has to be your all. Thats like a general rule in life already, God should just be your everything. The Devils already tryna place distractions in our way daily, so Gods not gonna allow your soul mate to come into your life to early, and you cherish them over Him and mess up everything, He wants you to get it right so you can have an healthy beautiful relationship. So dont worry about it, just worry about growing closer to God until you're at the point where you're not even thinknig about someone else cus God's enough for you, and then, He will bless you with greater things than you've ever imagined.
I hope this helps
God Bless

Answer 6

This I am Learning in the Years of My Life: # 1 when you have laid it all out to God and Have His Word in Two or more cases in the written Word that He has already done something for Others,then Speak that to God,He loves to Hear His Word come out of Your Mouth.

# 2 When You have presented Your case to Him, When you get up and walk out of the Throne Room don"t Pick up the Burden You have just given to Him, You don"t have the answer or You would have already taken care of it.
# 3 Some Believers will give you all kinds of ways to meet Mr. Right,don"t listen,When it is "Time" You will not have to manipulate nothing, Now Rest in God , Don"t let Satan tell You nothing Just Repeat what God Has Said.When God gives You an Answer You will Know"it.

Answer 7

What an interesting question. The only think that pops in my head is this verse, and if it is meant to be you will meet the right person, just be patient in the mean time enjoy life and continue praying for the person.

Philippians 4:11 KJV
(11) Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.

Answer 8

Dear one,

many pray amiss,

it seems you lack FAITH in the orders( I mean prayers you sent)
Take a break and work on loving yourself

when the love and respect you cultivate begins to shine
you will attract the correct response.

Until then please keep the orders to a minimum and start praising the God that keeps you breathing to want more!

PEACE

Answer 9

You want positive support? Tough $hit.

You are 40 years old, and have never taken control of your own life and destiny, choosing instead to wait and beg for someone ELSE to turn your life around for you.

This is what happens when you turn your brief time on this planet over to an intangible idea.

Like it or not, if you want things to change, YOU WILL HAVE TO CHANGE THEM. There is no other way, and there is no magic, invisible man in the sky that will hand you a new life.

But first, you have to learn to love YOURSELF...

Answer 10

praying is good, how ever you need to add action. Look for men in the grocery store, library, church. granted not every man in those settings is a good man, but the odds are better than in a bar where you'll get a man who thinks he needs a drink to socialize