Why does it seem like everyone [at least sometimes] is in a relationship, but i never am?

Question

ok, so why dont i ever have a boyfriend?

it seems like even girls that are total b****es get boyfriends/hook up with people at least once in a while

and it seems that girls that are REALLY shy & barely talk to guys also get boyfriends at least once in a while.

but i've NEVER had a boyfriend yet && i'm almost 15 && in general i dont think that ANY guy that i have ever had a crush on has liked me back since, like, 3rd grade

not to be stuck up or anything, but i consider myself pretty && i have a good personality && i'm friends with quite a few guys--so why is it that i never have a boyfriend? please explain this to me??



ok i SWEAR, i am not stuck up or anyting, i'm just really frustrated && need some ideas to why it is like this


its just that i like this one guy who i am also pretty good friends with i guess & i wish he would ask me out, but, once again, i dont think he likes me in that way & its kind of sad that once again a guy that i like doesnt like me back

Answer 1

There are bunches and bunches of 15 yr old girls and boys who have never had a boy/girl friend. Just RELAX and stay calm and natural around guys. JUST BE YOURSELF and you'll see, boys will start asking you out OR did you ever think about asking a boy out?

Answer 2

I can relate to your problem completely... well, almost completely. I'm 15-years-old, and I have never had a boyfriend either. I know everybody says 'just wait' and 'love will come to you when it's time', but the more I wait, the more I feel like love has forgotten about me. I know I'm still pretty young and I have loads of years to worry about this stuff, but what happens if I'm right, and love has really forgotten about me? It's one of my biggest fears, right next to spiders and getting fat. And to make matters worse, I always see all these couples hugging, kissing, holding hands, etc. pretty much all over each other all the time, and it makes me feel so depressed and unattractive. I know I'm not ugly in everybody's eyes because I know a few guys that like me, but none of them I would really consider 'boyfriend' material. It's just so... horrible.

Sorry. Here I am rambling about my problems, and have not gotten around to answering your's. Well, I'm going to go with the cliche answer, and say you have so much time to get a boyfriend still. Some people get in to relationships much faster then others. Just give it time. Love usually pops up when you least expect it. Just stop worrying about it, and it will come to you sooner then you think. Also, about your friend who is a boy, you're already friends with him, so you're half way there. You can talk to him without any problems, and that's one thing a lot of girls who likes a guy fails to possess. Just show him you're interested. Invite him places where it's just the two of you, and let him see the real you. Let your personality shine. Don't come on too strongly, however, since that is a major turn off, but just enough to keep him around. Or, if you want to take the simple route, just tell him. The worst he can do is reject you. Big deal? Suck it up, and take it with stride. Move on. Life is too short to worry about such petty things like 'fear of rejection'. I know, harder then it sounds, but it's usually your best bet. Don't let a chance pass you by. You will regret it later. There is also the chance he will throw a 'I don't want to ruin our friendship' card down. If this happens, just accept he wants to be just friends, and move on. It's all you can really do. There is the possiblity that he likes you too, though, so don't think I'm just trying to throw all negatives at you. I just don't want to get your hopes up, that's all. He still might like you too, though. The only way you'll know is to ask him. There are also tons of websites that will tell you signs that a boy likes you, and some of the stuff on them are pretty interesting, and you might find yourself relating to many of the things on them. Another thing to know is that if a boy likes a girl, 95% of the time the girl will know. You may 'think' he doesn't like you, but do you 'feel' he does? Follow your instinct - it's rarely ever wrong. Oh, and I know how you feel when you like a guy and he doesn't like you back - life is just so cruel that way. Still, you might be wrong.

Well, I hope my sickning long answer helps you in some way. Good luck. =]

Answer 3

I can understand how you must feel, sounds like you just havn't found the right guy to ask you out. YOu're friends with these guys...so that's how they look at you* If you're pretty, and have a good personality...then you just havn't shown you're interested in the guy...you're just being his buddy* Perhaps You need to take the initiative and ask him questions like..What kind of music do you like? WHo's you're fav. band? What's your fav. sport? WHat kind of movies..he'll prob say one that has just come out that he wants to see, you can say you've wanted to see that also , do you want to go to the show with me and see it together. That way at least you'll have given him the signal that you are definately interested in getting to know him better. If he's not interested and just wants to be friends.....perhaps you just need to wait until the right guy comes along. You are still only 15, don't try to Rush it..Things that are meant to be......will be when the time is right~* Best wishes, hang in there and keep on smilin*

Answer 4

some adult adult males would desire to be shy and at times you will desire to be the only taking the lead and asking them out. you're no longer on my own interior the boyfriend subject, there are a number of women obtainable around the international your age with out boyfriend. in keeping with hazard that is only no longer some time. I undergo in innovations at your age I felt an identical way. I dated some adult adult males yet no longer something extreme then and that i become in particular single for the time of extreme college, yet i become chuffed. i'd've extremely been single than to have been in a relationship with somebody i did no longer like that plenty and would desire to on no account come to love. So the two only bypass away it or decide for it, you make certain and take the lead in the two course. additionally a boyfriend will come alongside once you're no longer searching for one.

Answer 5

Well i have no girl. But see when you will have a boyfriend you are goona thing that..being single was better than this mingling with the guy....+ having a boyfriend is not hot...but not cool...and I am sure no body in here like HOT STUFF including weather. So dont worry you will get your chance...and i will get mine to....let me know you are interested and ready to mingle....ok....

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel!!!! I'm almost in the same situation. It's horrible, isn't it? Anyway, I would tell you to go ask someone yourself, but I would never do that, and in my opinion it's not good to give advice that you yourself doon't follow. I'd say just flirt a lot...It's worked for me so far.
Good luck!

Answer 7

just ask him or any other guy out, don't worry if they say no because its the worst that can happen...oh, and i have the same problem so im not sure if my answer it good