What is love?

Question

Does true love forget self and forgive. Does true love hurt? You tell me...my girlfriend has really betrayed me I feel...she is having an abortion against my will and it hurts and I have tried to change her mind to the point of completely getting shut out. I love her and I want to comfort her because I know she is hurting. She told me she didn't know if she loved me...until now she has told me otherwise. Part of me wants to write it off and move on b/c I oppose her views and b/c she told me she didn't love me...the other part wants to believe her emotions are hurt and she is telling me this as a defense mechanism to make her not feel guilt...this same part wants to forgive her and love her through this even though she doesn't want me to. I want to comfort her so bad yet I fear I will have guilt about supporting a decision I disapprove of...what to do

Answer 1

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
Always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
And now these three remain:
faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8,13

Answer 2

If you can forgive and comfort her then that is very great. That is very true love. As far as supporting her decision, perhaps you can just acknowledge it's her choice and there's nothing you can do about it. She would do it whether you supported her or not. You can acknowledge how hurt you are by it. You don't have to change your feelings. But your forgiveness and true love go beyond the hurt. If you can do this you are truly a great man. I don't know if I could.

Answer 3

First of all, we are all different and have different abilities to cope with different circumstances. However, if you don't want her to have an abortion and you want to raise the child, tell her. If she doesn't want the baby, try to compromise and tell her that you do and you'll take care of it. Allow her to sign away her parental rights. If you have sex, you are responsible for the consequences. Take if from me, this exact thing happened to me. I'm living with the consequences even though they sometimes suck. But pregnancy is one of the risks. I'm a typical suburban mom now and ended up marrying the father and had two more kids with him. I gave up a professional career and a whole lot more. Buuuut...I didn't marry him until I was sure he was the one. We had the baby first. Marriage and babies are different committments. I come from a fairly wealthy family, but they didn't help me by my choice financially and we made it. So can you. It's not easy, but totally doable and the right thing to do.

Answer 4

Wow. I'm sorry to tell you this - but she's wrong. She should not have waited until she was pregnant to tell you she didn't love you... You have every right to not agree with her decision. Sorry your going through that, don't stay with her because she's not for you - LOVE isn't painful..... When a person really loves you - they do whatever it takes to make you happy. . . . . . . . . . If she's willing to abort your baby, that clearly means she'd never have your child.

Answer 5

If you have the ability to write her off then you don't love her either. Peoples views are different and you should, no, you must respect that. If you are looking for someone who is the same as you then you will be looking forever.

She might not love you, but what's to stop you from loving her anyway?

Answer 6

Wow, I just read through your previous questions. There is no excuse for what she is doing to; in my opinion it's unforgivable. If she loved you, she wouldn't be killing your child. I am not opposed to abortion entirely, but when the father is vehemently against it, then it's just plain WRONG. Find someone who isn't so selfish.

Answer 7

if you dont approve of abortion then dont..that is your right...your g/f needs to realize ya play peanut butter and get preg..she took the chance of it and needs to stand up to the plate and accept it..she needs to realize this is a decision for the 2 people involved....and you have every right to be angry with her...and dont allow her to make you feel guilty..do let her do or say anythign ..stop her in her tracks when she tries...god bless youand a hug..

Answer 8

as far as can see, you love her deeply, but please you have to think in your future. I believe that you have to think in your future, i mean that you have to take into account if you want to be with someone that doesnt give you the chance of having children, it's up to you. You have too much love to give and you can give it to someone who really cares. Also try to talk to her, tell her how you feel, this is the only way to make things clearer.