My 9yo son has been acting out in inappropriate sexual ways towards other kids. I talked to him, and he says no one has touched him or done anything to him. He says if it happened, he must have forgotten about it. NEED HELP..... Please anyone with advice ... what Now???
2007-05-18 10:00:43 · 10 answers · asked by Mikez Bad Girl 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi,
Your his mother. If you're noticing a change in behavoir in any form and you as his mother are concerned it's time to seek advice .
I am a 48 yr old single mom.
I was sexually abused from the age of 5-12.
I can tell you the signs were there and everyone ignored them or brushed them off.
Don't ignore it .
For your son child seek counseling.
Let them talk to you and your son.
It's so much better to be safe then sorry.
because of the abuse it affects every aspect of mine and my childrens life.
Follow your gut.
Good luck
Bongo :)
2007-05-18 14:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by bongo515 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a sign of Molestation. I grew up with that horrible cycle. I was TOO shy around others, I didn't want to leave my mom's side, and I was scared of joining any kind of activity with other children. My Mom tried to get me piano lessons and I wouldn't concentrate. All this happened from age 5 on up, and in my teens I had trouble with guy relationships.
By the sounds of your Son, his inappropriate behavior, as you put it, is worth talking to a Counselor about. At age 9, I don't know if that's getting into the "puberty" just yet or not, but the other kids might tell their parents and it could be embarassing for you! Talk with the School Counselor for some guidance.
Hope things get better.
2007-05-18 16:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....first of all, he might just be hanging with kids that have seen a bit more than they should have already...so you are in a difficult position...don't go to the school yet, but go to a private doctor if you can...He has to know, that if something happened to him, that you want to know because NO ONE is going to do something to him and get away with it...he needs to know that he did NOTHING wrong, and that if someone did something to him,...he needs to tell you and not be afraid of the person trying to retaliate..and tell him he has your confidence...My prayers are with you...He might just be sneaking and seeing dirty movies when the adults aren't catching him...or at some kids house...but tell him his actions are not appropriate, and he is going to get spanked if he doesn't stop doing things like that...and that he could get in serious trouble for doing it at school...And Naked, I respect your opinion, but my Christian beliefs clearly say, 'spare the rod and spoil the Child.."..so if the Good Lord says to discipline your kids the old fashioned way, I am all for it. I don't believe in child abuse...
2007-05-18 10:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might not be a sign of molestation. Again, like the answers above, he might just be recently associating with a different and more sexual group of friends. Keep trying to talk to him, show him love and compassion, and have a sense that you'd like to talk to him, but stern enough so he realizes the significance of his honesty.
But in a situation like this, I strongly suggest just talking to him more, spanking is a form of abuse, and that'll prevent him from talking to you, since he would forming rage against you. I'm not saying you do slap him, but the above answer suggested it, and I strongly disagree.
2007-05-18 10:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Naked 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its odd that he would say if it did he must have forgotten about it.... that would make me wonder too. But alot of times little boys are very curious like that. Things like wanting to play "doctor" and checking out special parts. But if it is something you think he may have "learned" you need to take a good look of who is baby sitting, other relatives, or his friends parents or activities adults (school,camp,church etc)
2007-05-18 10:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just exploring his sexuality. Most kids around that age start getting curious and talking about it. Maby he's just going through emotional changes associated with puberty a little early. Normal.
Even if there is that very slight chance that he was mollested he doesn't seem to be harmed by it and there for you have nothing to worry about.
2007-05-18 12:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it truly is conceivable you may were. i do not recognize what else might want to describe your reactions in route of those things you reported, anyhow. possibly attempt chatting with a therapist or a school counsellor about it. they can continuously attempt that could actually help you artwork this stuff out and get closure. :)
2016-11-04 09:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should see a counselor. He may not be comfortable discussing this with you. Just him saying "if it happened, I must have forgot about it" is concerning. Get him someone to talk to.
2007-05-18 10:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by wyllow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Starting at about three years of age all children have feelings and they get stronger as they age. I think you will know if something is not right. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill!
2007-05-18 10:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by poppy_41 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, i mean, maybe he thinks that you are not showing enough love or something.
2007-05-18 10:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋