Wedding Invitations is it wrong?

Question

Is it wrong to hand out wedding invites? Im mailing a lot of mine just handing out a few to certain people to save on stamp costs..

Answer 1

Nah. It's not at all tacky, and heck, it is cheap, but weddings are expensive, so wherever you can cut corners, do it!

I'm doing that as well. I mailed quite a few, but the few I see quite often, I just gave to instead. It saved me a couple of dollars, and that couple of bucks may help pay for gas to our honeymoon, who knows! Not a bad idea at all =) Best of luck!

Answer 2

Really... $ .70 is too much?

If you see them on a regular basis, it would be fine. Handing over an envelope during your weekly coffee meet-up would be okay. But if it is a VERY formal occasion (black tie/white tie), then this would not be appropriate. The reason is simple... there may be someone who thinks they are invited see the exchange take place, and know -in public- that they are not invited.

Example, you meet Betsy for lunch... hand over invite. You are talking about wedding planning when Phyllis walks by. Betsy asks Phyllis if she is coming to your wedding... Betsy mentions you just handed HER an invitation, that you must have Phyllis' invite too, and now You have to explain to Phyllis face-to-face, in public, that she's not invited.

Far fetched to be true... but this can all be avoided by just mailing the invite.

If you want to be technical, the correct method of inviting is to have your butler distribute the cards to the guest's residence.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with hand delivery. Just be prepared to visit if the recipient wants to. If you don't have time for a visit, smile big and explain you have "a million things to do, but wanted to make SURE they received their invitation". That would make anyone feel good and not slighted at all.

Answer 4

its not proper, it is always nicer to mail them. People that you are handing envelopes to may also feel that you are cheap tryng to save a few pennies on stamps. I say buy the stamps, what is it really going to save you? fifty...sixty dollars? I think people will give gifts according to what they feel you spent on the wedding, handing them invites will easily tell them its gonna be a cheap wedding.

Answer 5

I didnt mail any of mine..in fact...I only even gave out a few. I told most people when and where and only gave them an invite if they wanted a reminder. we had a very small (40 people) informal wedding and only 1 months notice so I found no reason to mail them. especially if its close friends or family or coworkers you see everyday. I would not be offended getting an invite handed to me. I would be flattered you wanted me to attend your wedding in the first place.

Answer 6

No not at all, my husband today was given a wedding invite by hand from one of his colleagues, we thought it was really nice................anyway think of all the pennies you can save and how many postmen will have an easier day at work! Good Luck

Answer 7

pass with what you have have been given. human beings do no longer probably pay lots interest to the fonts on an invite, they only delight in being invited. besides, your same-length fonts could properly be construed to be fairly avant-garde and an illustration of modesty.

Answer 8

I don't know... technically speaking... your suposed to send and or mail them out. But it would save alot on costs.

Answer 9

if you see the people makes sense! I've had some handed to me made it feel kind of more personal, so go for it!

Answer 10

Not at all! As long as you have addressed them appropriately, there's no etiquette rule that says you must put them in the mail.