he says their just friends and I believe him! I trust him, but her I don't she always seems to "just" be there he does'nt notice ..maybe I am overly self-conscious I don't know, but lots of people tell me I have nothing to worry about, I have more looks, and personality in my pinky finger then she has in her whole body, but I just don't know, I've been done wrong in the past, and just any advice I could get to help me quit worrying so much and being overly protective would definetly help, my bf thinks it's cute that I love him so much and worry, but he says I have nothing to worry about HE LOVES me and says that is not gonna change because of someone else...Plzzz any advice to help me out would be appreciated! THANKS
2007-05-18 09:14:30 · 25 answers · asked by Pamela Michele 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Were in High school, were all in 10th, they dated all the way back in 7th, and she's dating someone too, me and him been together for 4 months, and her relationship with her bf is 7 months now, the thing is, I am always worried, they have been friends since they quit dating in 7th, were starting 11 grade next year and they both want to remain friends but it makes me un-easy...what should I do~!
2007-05-18 09:24:17 · update #1
Talking about doing her, were all virgins, we've never had sex...(similar strict upbringings long story) we don't feel the need for sex yet.
2007-05-18 09:32:36 · update #2
Tell him she annoys you still being around so much but be careful not to take it too far, you'll drive him back to her. Alsohe sounds like an idiot if he doesn't listen to you and he stilll wants some easy lovin' from her so watch out.
2007-05-18 09:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by King_Nelson_Brilliant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who's been there and been lied to before......make sure you let your bf know how you feel and then ask everyone you know to be on the look out. There is nothing wrong with one of your friends keeping an eye out for your safety. Not all guy's are cheaters, but nobody is perfect either. If that opportunity continues to be there for him, chances are he'll take it.
In most relationships communication will make or break it. Make sure he understands how you REALLY feel, don't joke about it or make light of it. If it really bothers you tell him. And don't be afraid to say it's me or her, because no matter what you deserve to have someone treat you with respect and to have them tell you the truth. A relationship built on lies will never last......no matter how much love is there.
Good Luck.
2007-05-18 16:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by wolf_star19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in that same situation somewhat.... I still speak with my ex that I was on and off with for numerous years and we are strictly friends... she doesn't have those type of feelings for me and I don't have those feelings for her either....we both have someone but even when we didn't have anybody else there was nothing between me and her. Some people just start out dating and realize that they were only meant to be friends. I am sure you have nothing to worry about. If you were about it too much it could end up destroying your relationship.
2007-05-18 16:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Smith 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't buy into the "you have nothing to worry about" line. You do and you should. If they broke up, do they really need to talk? As a woman you should know how conniving we can be and what liars men can be. Tell him it's you or her, not both. He thinks it's cute because he knows he's getting away with something. If you keep letting him disrespect you it will just get worse. Put your foot down and stand up for your self!!!
2007-05-18 16:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by ice_queen2427 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Building your own confidence and being more secure with yourself would help a great deal. Trust me when I say that although your boyfriend finds it cute now, this kind of behavior gets old really fast. Don't damage your relationship this way. Jealousy is a wasted emotion and doesn't benefit anyone.
2007-05-18 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being jealous and worrying will only make matters worse. He needs to have some boundaries with his ex (any woman for that matter) though, at least in my opinion out of respect for you. Otherwise you just have to trust thats what relationships are about... if hes going to do something he shouldn't it could happen with anyone at some point anyway.
2007-05-18 16:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by answer man. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you know that you are doing the right things to satisfy your man in EVERY way, there's no reason for you to have this concern about this other woman.
However, if you haven't done the things that you need to do to keep your man's mind totally on you, then you should do this asap and stop worrying over this girl.
2007-05-18 16:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me he does not know how to move on and needs to hold on to his past to make him happy , because most men don't make good friends when you have had a sexual history with them that long and they have no children together or property,I would thick again on how close the talks are about and emotionally they are to each other.
2007-05-18 16:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by sehoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to them....I don't think there is anything to worry about. People can stay friends after a break up if they are mature enough. And it was 7th grade....chances are it wasn't very serious back then.
2007-05-18 16:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they talk about. Does she go to him when her relationships fails? Or is it just everyday talking? If anything - usually when you start a new relationship, you should toss the trash away and not go back to it. Unless your Bf and his ex have a long history - then he should stop talking to her.Its respectful - especially if you've asked him to stop.
2007-05-18 16:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Shiloh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋