i have been dateing a guy from VMI for about 4 months now and i thought that i was really happy..but i have currently been sleeping with another guy for about 2 weeks now and he is sweet and there for me when ever i need him to be and is head over heels for me ..it is really hard to do this because i think that i am loseing my feeling for my bf now and he is always away from home and a long distance relationship isn't what i really want .....if im going to be with someone im going to be with them all the time but the one from VMI is also sweet and my family love him so much ...i need help really bad im stuck somewhere i don't wanna be but the guy at home makes me so happy but my family loves the other guy and i have no clue what to do ....everyone has been so good to me ...what do i do ??????..HEELLPPP
2007-05-18 08:38:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You pretty much answered your own question. But you have to do what is going to make you the happiest not what is going to make others happy. May sound selfish, but if you aren't happy the other around you are going to see right through that and they are going to end up miserable also.
2007-05-18 08:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by ***ME*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Level with VMI Cadet - they're under enough stress 'cause VMI is a tough school as it is. He doesn't need GF troubles.
Just tell him you're not sure about the relationship - with him being so far away and then he'll be commissioned etc. Be nice about it - and I'd keep quiet about your friend with benefits for now. You don't need to hurt him any more than you are doing right now. Besides, news of your two-timing will get back to him eventually - and in fact, it probably already has.
You're making a big mistake about two-timing this guy if he's really a great guy. That's really low and one day you'll wish you'd treated him better - oh well, it's your loss.
You should be more concerned about your brains than your butt - but hey, that's your choice.
2007-05-18 08:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion you are not doing anything wrong. Your bf is always away so it seems to me the 2 of you are not really that serious so whats the big deal? There's nothing wring with seeing two people. Its not like your married, or engaged so just have fun. And if your worried about hurting someone's feelings then just go with the guy that makes you happy. If oyu don't want a long distance relationship then got with the guy you met two weeks ago. Good luck! Hope this helps.
2007-05-22 03:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Think of it like this - anything is cheating if its something your boyfriend would be pissed if he saw. So if your sitting on a guys lap, holding his hand, kissing him etc then he will be pissed and leave you. Not to be extremely harsh, but you should feel 100% guilty and you should tell him exactly what you did. Don't take it offensively but he will break up with you when he finds out. So take it as a lesson learned to not kiss other boys when you tell another guy of 1 year and 3 months you love him.
2016-05-17 03:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should not be sleeping around while you are in a commited relationship. Break up with the one from VMI-honestly he has done nothing wrong. Do not hurt him any worse. Do not drag your family into this. You really do not need to consult them on your relationships. Do you really have no clue????
2007-05-18 08:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you really are a cold-hearted person for sleeping with the other guy. it would be one thing if you were just talking to him and getting to know him better because you MAY be interested in something more from him, but you've already crossed the line. Your now-boyfriend deserves someone much better than you, so you should give him the chance and the CHOICE of what HE wants to do with his own life rather than sitting around thinking that he has this girlfriend who cares about him as much as he does her. You should really be ashamed.
2007-05-18 08:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Real Talk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the new guy, cut the first guy loose! Do it now before he finds out and gets hurt. Be honest with your family and tell them that you still care about your first guy but that you can't handle the stress of the long distance relationship. Then give them time to get over that before you force them to like the new guy. It's nice that you're considering your family, but if the new guy makes you happy, that's what really matters right? After all, you're the one that's dating him, NOT your family.
So, here's what you need to do again:
1. Break it off with guy one
2. Tell family you broke it off
3. Let your family get over it
4. Continue relationship with guy two
5. If relationship with guy two works, intro him to the family after they've had a chance to get over guy one
Good Luck!!
2007-05-18 08:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by tangshengyee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go with the guy that you have been cheating with because you really like him and your family likes him which isn't something that comes easy, having a boy your family likes. Also you don't want a long distance relationship so don't be with the fist guy. It sounds like the new guy makes you so much happier. You will be much better off with him.Thats just my opinion though good luck!
2007-05-18 09:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by msodd33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to follow your heart. You are the one who has to wake up to this guy every day for the rest of your life! You are the one dating him not your family. If your family loves you they will support you on whoever you choose, and if they don't then why do you care what they think? As for choosing, you need to either let the b/f down lightly that it is not working out for you, or if you decide to stay with him I would suggest breaking it off with the other guy immediatly and tell your b/f what you did so that you are not carrying it with you for the rest of your life!
2007-05-18 08:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by stangwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule number 43... Dont stay with someone because your family likes them, theres no fairness in that at all, not to you, him or your family. It all comes down to weighing your options and finding out how you really feel. Rule number 16... Dont judge your feelings for someone by the amount of miles between you.
2007-05-18 08:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by deez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋