Do you think educated men/women should become romantically involved with a partner who is of a lower socioecomic class than themselves.
2007-05-18 07:46:19 · 11 answers · asked by nessa913 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When you say you are attracted to the guy, do you find him just physically appealing, or does his personality and brains fascinate you too? If it is just his looks that you are after, then you will find no deep connection to this guy. Your social classes have nothing to do with it, but if he acts ghetto and your morals are entirely different from his then you might clash often and find it difficult to build a relationship with him. If on the other hand he is a well mannered smart boy who happens to live in the wrong side of town then you can probably make it work, so give him a chance. Good luck girl.
2007-05-18 07:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What concerns me the most is that you say- "you weren't raised that way". Socioeconomic class is not the most important thing in a relationship- what matters the most is respect and moral values. When you say that you're concerned about the way that he was brought up- in my opinion, that raises a red flag. No matter what background a person is- whether poor or rich- their personality reflects what they've learned from their family. There are many poor families who have excellent moral values, and there are many rich ones who have no idea of moral values- and visa-versa. The point is that you can't judge a person based on economic class alone. You need to look deeper into his values to see if he is compatible with you on deeper levels. If he is a decent person, perhaps he might teach you some valuable lessons about life that you may have not ever thought of.
2007-05-18 17:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Socioeconomic class does not make a difference necessarily. Keyword necessarily.
SES is very often, however, a source of further conflict when it comes to issues that go deeper than "serious attraction". Think about the ways each of you would save/spend money... since money is the #1 thing in all the world that even happy couples fight about. Think about the ways you would raise children. Think about the reasons his family has not been successful and whether those reasons would affect his decision-making, his motivation, his mental health... what have you.
If you guys are extremely compatible on all these important levels, SES means nothing. Unfortunately though, SES is often a predictor of vastly differing opinions on issues of which agreement is eventually absolutely crucial in order to have a healthy relationship.
2007-05-18 14:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion that's a big problem. You may be attracted to him at the beginning for whatever reason.. after a while you're going to get tired of his behavior.. and you might even end up hating him. It's not a good idea to get involved with someone who doesn't belong to your same social class. He'll never change, I can promise you that.
2007-05-18 14:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think that acting "ghetto" is not always a socio-economic thing, as much as it is a social trend of young men feeling the need to act tough like the guys in the rap videos.
i think if you truly are an educated, cultured young woman you may grow tired of this young man and try to change him. you may be disappointed when he won't change.
2007-05-18 14:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by georgiegirl422 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course! The socioeconomic class of a person should not determine your relationship; but if YOU don't want it that way, then that is your decision, and noone else should make that for you. :)
2007-05-18 14:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well, personally that whole "ghetto" act is so annoying, I would think you would probably be embarrassed to be seen with him. If you want to pursue a relationship, let him know he is going to have to drop the whole federline/black act down the toilet where it belongs.
2007-05-18 14:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with it, however, it will be a difficult barrier to cross. Do you think that you could introduce him to your family, and you would be proud of him? Do you think you could be comfortable with his family?
It is tough, but yes, it is acceptable. Think of My Fair Lady ... maybe you could be Mr. Higgins!
2007-05-18 14:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by aivilo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you truly love him, money and education will mean nothing.
2007-05-18 15:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Nina Myers 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him who cares if he comes from the ghetto .
2007-05-18 14:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋