There is a woman at my office. She's 50 but she talks about her nephew ALL the time...how she does his laundry, gives him money and just caters to him. I was thinking he's in his teens...he's 38 years old! And has a g/f and boy does my co worker get jealous of her nephews g/f. Says how she stole him away. And she cries at work if her and the nephew fight saying she lost her best friend. She drops anything to be with him....what kind of relationship is that? Is it incest? I think it's a bit odd to be that close to a relative. She also talks about him more than her husband. She's mad because they were supposed to (nephew and co worker) to daytona for a weekend but nephew wants g/f to go instead.
2007-05-18 07:29:05 · 16 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This woman never mentions the nephews mom. She says she's the "mom". She seems possessive of the nephew which I find unhealthy. He had surgery for carpel tunnel and now she is having it done because he had it.
2007-05-18 07:37:19 · update #1
oh forgot to mention she has a picture of her nephew and herself and when she sits at my desk to cover for me she brings it with her and stares at it. That is the only picture she has on her desk or carries EVERYWHERE with her.
2007-05-18 07:38:56 · update #2
This lady does sound like she has some ISSUES - but did she practically RAISE this nephew she talks about - or does she just not have any children of her own. Often close families will end up being REAL close to other siblings children especially if they have none of their own. So with that being said - if she has not helped raise this child and developed a mother type bond with him then every thing you said is WAY WEIRD and she needs help - lol. She is acting like an overprotective mom is why I asked. Sometimes moms can't let go of their boys - ya know...
2007-05-18 07:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by TOBAR68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that if you are not blood related. I think it's a bit weird because why would you want to be involved with someone that is related to your cousin. It's nice to want to keep close to the family but don't you think this is a bit too close. And incest is incest when it's blood related.
2016-05-22 08:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by georgine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah id say thats just a bit odd to be that way. But maybe she is just a very very very jelaous type of person who will get jelaous over just about anything some people are that way I guess. But either way it is odd to be that way with a family member and I could never see myself being like that over any of my nephews no way. I cant say if its incest or not because who knows I hope not thow ewwww.
2007-05-18 07:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a bond with her nephew. She might have been really involved in his life and never stopped. She probably gets mad about the g/f because she doesn't think she is good enough for her "lil" man. But you wouldn't think it was strange if she was his mother, so think of it more like that.
2007-05-18 07:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is that if she doesn't have her own children, that she's taken him on as her own. But that doesn't explain the jealousy over his girlfriend. That just seems wrong. She might have really been soaking up his attention previously and once he got a girlfriend, she misses it. I dated a guy once who was a real "mama's boy" and once his mother figured out that he was more interested in me than her, she decided to hate me. It ultimately pulled us apart. It could be something like that. I wouldn't call it incest...unless they are sleeping together!
2007-05-18 07:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dommysmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to book them on Dr.Phil. Or maybe Jerry Springer!
That is not a normal relationship and your co worker is out of her mind. Her nephew isn't much better since he has allowed it to happen. I bet if you gave her a chance she would bang her nephew....gross.
2007-05-18 07:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Susan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting but also none of your business.
If her constant gushing about her nephew bothers you, tell her you would rather keep your conversations focused on business, please.
If she persists, contact HR and discuss your options - especially if her emotional state is a constant irritant and upseting the office - thus affecting productivity.
2007-05-18 07:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she seems to have an unhealthy obsession with him. did she raise him? did she miscarry or lose a young child and is substituting him for the lost child?
he seems that maybe at one time he took advantage of it because of the perks, but now doesn't know how to transform this relationship into a healthy one.
i don't think it's incest, but maybe at one point it was. either way, both need some counseling.
2007-05-18 07:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by arwen1081 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically speaking, it's only "incest" when there's sex involved. The relationship you're describing sounds like a misplaced romantic relationship and probably a fairly dysfunctional family situation-- codependency.. that sort of thing.
It is what it is, so I wouldn't recommend getting too involved in it.
2007-05-18 07:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Fletcher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Susan G....why don't you suggest to your coworker that she ask Dr. Phil for some advice. The way he is doing his shows lately they would probably pick it up in a heartbeat.
2007-05-18 07:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by LEC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋