did you wait until your parents, met your partners parents? I have been with my bf for nearly 8 months and we are both totally freaking out at the thought of our parents meeting because they are totally different!
2007-05-18 07:14:34 · 20 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His parents are already asking to meet mine thats whats worrying us! My parents arent too bothered.
2007-05-18 07:22:25 · update #1
My mom lived in Michigan. My wife's parents lived in Florida. They literally did not meet until three days before we got married. It was no big deal. Ultimately, it doesn't even matter if your parents like one another. It is nice if they do, but your relationship is not about them, so I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-05-18 07:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our parents did not meet until the wedding week, because of location (mine were in Kansas City, and his were in Orlando). Our parents are really different, too, and I am SO glad there were other people to buffer the situation (like bridesmaids, groomsman, aunts, uncles, etc.). It was a bit awkward to have them meet for the first time at the wedding, but I think it would have been awkward at ANY time. We had decided that if either set of parents expressed a desire to meet up at any time, we would facilitate that. But, if they never mentioned it (and neither side did), we decided to let them meet during the wedding weekend. After all, it's not your parents who are having the relationship, it's you. I wouldn't do it until you get engaged or thereabouts.
2007-05-18 14:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I had our parents meet after we were engaged. His parents live out of town and came to visit him. He brought them over to my place and we introduced them to my parents. The meeting was fun and pleasant.
Even though you guys' folks may be really different, if both sides of parents are happy about you two being together, there shouldn't be any problems. Mature adults can be sensible enough to be cordial even if they don't like each other. If this is the case, that's ok. You don't have to like someone to get along with them, and hopefully they will do this for you guys. Good luck!
2007-05-18 14:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my parents and his they are as different as day and night. They met after 3 months of our being together. They get along just fine. Just explain to each of your parents how the other differ with each other, then allow them to meet. After it will be decided by them if they want to proceed with a friendship. You and him can not know how it will turn out untill you try.
2007-05-18 14:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waited as looooooonnnnnggggg as possible! Because my first exs mother was a total b****. (Pardon the language, but she rode a broom w/black smoke trailing behind whenever she'd fly down to see us) My parents, totally blue collar. His parents totally corporate. I'm sure you get the picture. His mother even set him up on dates with her rich friends daughters, knowing perfectly well we were going to get married! My parents were into bowling, his into elite social activities. It was terrible. So, if you can, you have only been together 8 mos., try to stall as long as possible for your own sanity! Good luck!
2007-05-18 14:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my (ex) boyfriend and i dated for over a year and a half and our parents never met. i even lived w/ him at his parent's house.
there isn't a specific time frame, when ever your parents ask to meet his is a good time. Don't avoid it, but don't try to force it either. My parents never wanted to meet his. Just the way it works.
2007-05-18 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by emilymcquagge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf and i waited about 2 years to meet. they met at my graduation party this past december. it was nice because it wasn't a one on one type situation. it made it less awkward, but it was the same situation. they are different, but it was ok because all of them had the commonality of us:)!
good luck!
2007-05-18 14:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man, this is familiar! my parents are very outgoing/liberal, my father is a drinker and they both cuss a lot, my husbands parents are very strict Christians, My father in law is a minister and they go against everything my parents believe -- the only reason they met was because of our wedding - 2+ years later!
2007-05-18 14:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean about being nervous. i have been with my BF for almost 3yrs now and our parnets still havent met. and i think about it all the time because they are soooo different in age i mean im the oldest and he is the youngest. my parnets are in like 40s his are in 60s so you can see the age gap. well back to your question i dont think that there is any good time to have them met, but i think that they will all try because they love you both.
2007-05-18 14:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by kt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual settings are the best. When I was dating before i got married we took both sets of parents to Riverdance. They hit it off and things have been great ever since.
2007-05-18 14:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by joe w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋