I am in an utter depression, I dont eat, I only go to work and go home and sleep. I brokeup with my girlfriend 6 months ago and she married some guy 3 months later. I had 3 years to make a move on her but ALWAYS gave her false promises and changed my mind about getting married. So, I know I did this to myself! She is just an amazing person and I let her go, I cant believe how sick I feel, it seems better if I was dead.
I have HPV, my hair is falling out, I hate my job, it is all just terrible. I miss her so deeply and get deal with the fact I will never see her again, I am too hurt, feel guilty, regret, just eveything, just WISHING every second I could go back to the past and marry her, but then I know I cant. Life for me is the worst. how can I get myself ouf this, I am scared I never will.......
2007-05-18 07:11:13 · 16 answers · asked by mano 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
There's obviously some reason you didn't marry her when you had the chance. Maybe she looks more appealing now because she's married to someone else. We all want the things we can't have. You must have known what you were doing back then. Try to look at this as just wanting what you can't have. It doesn't mean she was all that wonderful, or maybe she was... but in either case... Move on. I know it's hard because I'm in a similar situation. Do things to better yourself. You know, they say the best revenge is living well. Take some time for yourself. Enjoy the life you have. Once you stop stressing over this, most of things will change, i.e. hair falling out, depression... As for the things you can't change, accept them because you're an adult (I think) and you made your decisions... now live w/ them. Best of Luck.. I feel your pain...
2007-05-18 07:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by candy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was not willing to wait to be married to you, then she wasn't worth it. To have a good relationship, it needs to be 50/50, if you weren't ready she should have waited and vice versa. Marriage is not for everyone, she had a different agenda then you did, you weren't ready and she didn't wait and within a year she marries some guy??? That will not last, so maybe she'll realize that she is supposed to be with you. But in the mean time, why don't you date around? Go out and have a good time. Focus on yourself, be healthy, go to the gym because when you work out your brain makes endorphins which can help with depression. IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD, find things to preoccupy your mind from that girl, be active, eat healthy, always remember that there are little children that would give to be able to live as long as you will, but they will die from cancers and diseases and never get a chance to enjoy life or date. So stop being so selfish, you only get one life and there are people who care and love you. When you commit suicide, you might be taking care of the problem, but your going to break hearts of the people that truly do love you and care for you.
OH YEAH, when I was depressed I got a dog which helped a lot, because it made me feel needed and wanted. So theres some advice.
2007-05-18 07:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by poofiepoofievern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get some help for your depression. One thing that is hard to see right now is that the worst time of your life WILL eventually pass. You just have to be strong and get through this low point in your life and sometimes that means accepting help.
No one knows what the future holds but I wouldn't be surprised if your ex will be divorced in the future. It isn't very likely that a marriage only 3 months after the relationship is going to last. And you may even be given a second chance.
As hard as it is to see right now, everything really does happen for a reason. Whether to make you stronger, more appreciative, or whatever. You just have to hang in there and TRUST THAT EVERYTHING IS THE WAY IT IS SUPPOSE TO BE. It may not make sense now but it will in your future.
I wish you the best of luck and hope you will let us know how you're doing in the future.
2007-05-18 10:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go see a doctor if your depression is that severe. They could prescribe you an antidepressant that will help you with those feelings and eventually you can get back off of them. But you have to try to think that things happen for a reason. Maybe even though now that you dont have her you feel like you want her maybe it just wasnt meant to be. You have to take care of yourself right now and try to stop thinking about the past. There are alot of women out there you need to just get out there again. And just learn from your past mistakes. Believe it or not there is life after heartache you just have to go through the process and try to just look forward. You WILL get through this. TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS! Good luck with everything I hope you feel better soon.
2007-05-18 07:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-15 21:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of know shat you are going through..First of all, have you told anyone how you feel? It really helps to talk about things. A lot!! About four years ago, I was engaged to a man who I was deeply in love with.. The problem was, i got engaged way too soon. I thought I knew him and found out I relly didn't know him all that well. Long story short, I found him caught up in his own lies and deceit. I broke it off. I was heart broken to say the least. It took me a good year to year and a half to really heal, but I have to say, it was the best thing I could have done. It is normal to doubt yourself, blame yourself, etc. You must have had a reason for breaking up with her in the first place....not to mention...you said she got married to someone else THREE months after you broke up with her....kind of makes you wonder....
2007-05-18 07:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How on earth do you know you have HPV. There is no male test for this in America.
However, it is apparent that your pain is being caused by the relationship you ended, and that you cannot get out of it by yourself. You do not need meds, you need to talk to a psychologist or a mental health counselor. Talking about it will help you come to grips with it. Sure it will hurt, but you will be in control.
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2007-05-18 07:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See depression treatments at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2. Stop looking back. Old saying: "If wishes were horses, beggars would ride". After improving, start dating again, but beware of the tendency to propose too early: at least 3 months; preferably 6 -18.
2007-05-19 02:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you seem to feel the same way I do. I think you should just get out the house and be around friends more. Or if you don't want to be around friends. Go for a run, try exercising. It always helps me. Find a therapist/psychicatrists who you can talk about your feelings with. That seemed to help me although every psychiatrist is not a perfect fit.
THERE'S HOPE!
2007-05-18 07:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steps: 1. see a shrink
2. get something for your hair
3. see a doctor
4. just let it go. Stop living in the past. It is imprtant, but all your doing is digging yourself into a bottomless pit that you will never ever get out of.
((bunny_hugs3 put this. Email her if you have a problem. DON"T EAT ME!!!!!))
2007-05-18 07:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋