She had a tumor removed last Thurs. and when the docs when in they noticed that the tumor was attached to some other organs and she ended up losing her kidney, spleen, and the tip of her pancreas. I m 26 and usually screw up alot and I just want to be able to help my mother during her recovery- she just came home yesterday and weighs like 100 lbs now! She is weak and fragile. And without her spleen she is more prone to infections and what not! Any advice is welcome. I LOVE MY MOM!
2007-05-18 06:46:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
I really appreciate everyones answers and I just hope she knows how much I do care and try to make her proud of me...and most importantly get her well and healthy so she can see me succede in life . Thanks again. Allison
2007-05-18 10:05:12 · update #1
You can help by doing laundry and light chores so your mother does not have to do any heavy lifting and straining. Also you want to fix her diet according to the discharge sheet, because after surgery you are supposed to eat certain foods high in fiber that doesn't set up gas. Gas is real painful after surgery. Put everything within reach so she doesn't have to do too much moving around for instance like the trashcan beside the bed or magazines on the nightstand. Be there for her and encourage her to eat so she can gain strength and weight. Also talk to the doctor about ensure. Ensure is high in nutrients and actually replaces a meal if your mother doesn't have much of an appetite. I'm real proud you want to help your mother, no matter what mistakes we made in the past we can always make up for them right now in the present. So, good luck and God bless.
2007-05-18 07:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i have to say i'm glad it's you and not me... you must have the patience of a saint. Yep, this woman is passive-aggressive alright and seems to have some histrionic personality issues. Some people feel everyone has to be like them (thank god most aren't like your MIL). Tell your wife i'm really sorry... i see this has gone way beyond the point of frustration. I don't know what i'd do at this point -- but then, i wouldn't have let it go this far... i tend to set limits and boundaries with others, even my mother.
2016-04-01 08:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there! Be there to talk, be there for support! Bring her a get well balloon. Gifts are nice but it would be way better if you did some cleaning, bought her some groceries, and made dinner every one in a while. I'm sure your mom will appriciate this ALOT:)
2007-05-18 06:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Care for her the same way she cared for you as a yungun. Make sure she is feed and has liquids. Make sure she stays clean. Goes to the bathroom. If it is too much for you to handle dont hesitate to ask for help from an outsider. (friend, family member, neighbor)
Good luck !
2007-05-18 06:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by StarGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until she 'returns to normal', make plans to do those things which she cannot. Laundry, dishes, vacuuming, clean the bathrooms, clean up afteryourself, make meals, serve her breakfast in bed, clean up after it.....you know, BE HER for a while.....
2007-05-18 06:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're very sweet to try and help your mom so much. Get her fake flowers so that she can always see them and the smell won't affect her in any way. =)
2007-05-18 06:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋