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I read some things my girlfriend wrote online and I'm not sure what to think at the moment. I think I really hurt her. I don't want to go into details very much but I told her Thursday night I would not be attending her prom because my two best friends were coming to visit me. I told her we could still go to my prom and I thought she'd understand...apparently i don't think she does.


"Dear You"
"Scott,
I will never understand how you had the nerve to hurt me like this on Thursday. The night before my prom! And how you are not even bothered by your selfish acts towards me. I hope after all of this is over it hurts real bad. I hope one day maybe not soon you realize you lost someone who loved you and truly cared deeply about you and would give anything for you."


-Tonight i am not attending my senior prom. Today I am sitting here more hurt then I've ever been by a guy in my entire life. Today I want to die. Today he lost me forever.....

2007-05-18 06:41:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

she wrote a second note this morning....

"Today Tops the Cake"
I don't think ever in my entire life have I cried as much as I have today. I don't think ever in my entire life has one person hurt me as badly as I was hurt today. I don't think ever have I felt so much pain as I do right now. I don't think I can cry anymore I feel like I've cried enough. My senior year has been ****...and this just tops the cake for me. I didn't even go to school I was so upset so therefore I can't even go to prom if I wanted to but honestly, i don't think I'd want to knowing he wouldn't be there with me. Knowing he doesn't care and knowing the only person I'd be dancing with is myself. I've never hurt so badly and I never thought that the one person who was supposed to be there forever would just walk out with no good-bye no I'm sorry no nothing. I never thought that the one person who one day could say he loved you the next say " I don't care." I've never hurt so badly as I have today.

2007-05-18 06:42:19 · update #1

from reading those two notes she wrote how hurt do you think she is? and do you think she will ever take me back?

2007-05-18 06:43:10 · update #2

12 answers

exposing all the businesses eh....hmmmm.....try to apologize

2007-05-18 06:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by tsmalls5 3 · 0 0

I think you have acted very selfishly. When you're in a relationship you have to have a fair give and take. Some times it's ok to ask for some understanding and space, but when it involves a very important event, I think that's when it's your turn to make the sacrifice. A prom is something that you only get once and it's someting that you should be able to look back on with good memories for the rest of your life. Did you really think that by telling her at the last second that you're not going with her would not upset her like this? I believe from what she has written that you have hurt her a lot and I don't know if she'll take you back. Do you really think she should? You've showed her that you can't be relied on when things are important to her and that you only seem to care about yourself. I understand that you have good friends coming to visit, but didn't you make this committment to her a long time ago? Why couldn't you tell your friends that you have plans that night and can hook up with them after the prom to party, or the next day? Maybe you could have asked your girlfriend if she would mind leaving the prom a little bit early but that she is invited to come out with you and your friends to do something else? She might have been very willing to make that compromise. But now she gets nothing. That's not fair to her at all. If I were you I would try to rectify the situation. Call her and say you want to take her to the prom and that you're very sorry for hurting her. I assume by what she wrote that there is a rule at her school that if you skip school that day you can't attend the prom. Maybe you need to go there and see if you can speak to her principal or something and make things right. Hopefully he will see your side and allow her to attend since none of this is her fault. I seriously think that if you do nothing, you will also be going stag to your prom and will probably have lost your girlfriend for good. Good luck!

2007-05-18 13:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dommysmommy 2 · 0 0

First of all, there is way to much melodrama going on with that girl. If she thinks that that is the worst thing that could ever happen to her in her entire life - she's in for a rude awakening when she hits the real world. True, you didn't do such a nice thing when you told her you couldn't make her prom the day before. It would be disappointing, but to leave you for that? I think she was looking for a way out and not even realizing it. Don't take it too hard man, it's not really all on you. She controls her emotions and decisions. If she wants to die because she didn't go to prom - I say let her go. You never know what other drama she will bring into your life.

2007-05-18 13:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by lmphslaw 4 · 0 0

She's obviously hurt but honestly, I think she she is overreacting. That does not mean that what you did was right though! You should've been there with her at her senior prom. That is something you experience only once in your lifetime while meeting up with friends is something that you could've done on any other day of the week! Just imagine how you'd feel.
However, she should've been honest with you and told you right away that she really wanted to go to her prom with you. Crying and complaining afterwards isn't going to help her. The two of you need to talk, don't send notes to each other on the internet. If anything that is going to make it worse. You were wrong for choosing your friends over her, and she was wrong for not telling you straight away that you hurt her. Talk about it.

2007-05-18 13:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by nohandtohold 4 · 0 0

A girl waits all her life for her prom night and to have the man of her heart on her arms..you were that person and you found it in your heart to be with mates instead of her ( your mates would have waited another night ), that was her night and now you want her to share your night...boy, I think she is more then just mad and hurt mate...you don't deserve to have her back( I'm not being mean,just telling you how it is)..I'm sure all those nasty little things that are being said at the moment are justified, and can you blame her...go back and crawl on your hands and knees and do a lot of pleading/begging and show a few tears if you really want her back. if it is meant to be then it will be., if it doesn't happen then lick your wounds and move on with your life and find it in your self to be a more kind and considerate boyfriend..I'm sure you didn't realise the full hurt that would be caused by this as you wouldn't have done it..i like to think there is good in everyone... good luck...

2007-05-18 13:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I understand your point of view and hers. She will miss her prom because she decided to spend it with you. Thats something big for her. Also, I know you have not seen your friends and she should have tried to understand. What you should do if you still can is spend that day of the prom with her and the next day spend it with your friends. If she loves you she will get over it. Right now she is very emotional. I think you should go to her house with some flowers and try to apologize to her. Ladies tend to forgive easily with some love words and confort. Make her feel like she's more important than your friends, but that you got excited when they came not realizing you where hurting your love.

2007-05-18 13:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by muñeca 3 · 0 0

Even after reading this, you didn't beg her forgiveness and take her to the Prom? Why WOULD she take you back? You obviously have NO sense of what's important to her -- or you just don't care. This has to be one of the most thoughtless things I've ever heard of. You couldn't have hurt her more if you'd PUNCHED her.

I don't know if she will ever take you back but I sure hope you've LEARNED something from this.

2007-05-18 13:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0 0

so how badly is your sadistic side? how often did you laugh with your boys reading this?

you are pretty pathetic to let this happen to her on one of the most special days in a girls life. these things will stay with her forever did you really want her memory of it to be like this?

and gee, do you really want her back? kind of like a medal for you if she does huh?

You are the kind of guy my mom always told me to stay away from. and I am glad I did. sorry this girl of yours ended up with you. I am sure she will do much better.

ps. if she does come back, it won't make a difference you have no heart anyway, and by now, she has lost hers.

2007-05-18 13:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You really dropped a bomb on her senior year! She was hurt terribly and might take you back after a long, long time down on your knees. You need to try and understand women better....

2007-05-18 13:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

nope. no chance, unless you take her to the prom. and stop being so self centered and selfish

2007-05-18 13:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by c 4 · 0 0

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