I am not doing very well in school, does that automatically makes me a bad person?

Question

I feel so bad with myself for it. I am not doing well as I expected, my 3rd semester of college ends up today and I feel that because I haven't done well enogh and in danger of failing 2 classes I am like worthless or bad. I try to live following God's rules the most I can and with this, I feel like I'm doing so wrong. :(

Answer 1

NO it is not that you are a bad person. We all have different learning styles and college can be very difficult. They don't hold your hand in college like they did in high school. Just because you aren't doing well here does not mean that you are disappointment to the Lord. He has given you other talents.

Since I have read your profile and other questions and I see that you are a recent LDS convert, I will give you advicee to that affect. You should be able to call your father, home teachers or your bishop, the missionaries, ward mission leader really any preisthood holder that you know, explain to them your situation and ask them to give you a blessing. Most of them would be more than happy to do this. I know that you are kind of shy and may not be used to the customs of the LDS church. Most of them would be thrilled to give you a blessing since you are stuggling. I promise that you will not be imposing. This can help because they will be guided by the spirit to ask for blessing on your behalf. I would also encourage you to fast and pray about this, then listen to the spirit and the Lord will show you the way.

I have found that sometimes answers come in different forms than we expect. It may be that you need to re-evaluate your educational goals.

When I started in college (I never finished), years ago I started as a special ed major. By the end of the school year I realized that was not the career path I really wanted. I have since gone into a business path. I know that I would not enjoy a teaching career and that my talents are utilized better in my current line of work.

Maybe you need to really assess your talents and goals. Maybe you are pursuing the wrong career path. Maybe you simply need to get back to the basics and take classes that are easier to begin with and work into the tougher more specialized classes.

I encourage you to get involved with institute or the Young Single Adult program- you may be able to carpool with someone near you. The reason I suggest institute is that most of the people at institute are going to school as well. Most will be single between 18-30. Maybe you can find someone to study with. Maybe there will be someone who can help you improve you study skills or adapt your learning methods.

But mostly make it a serious matter of prayer. With your faith, the Lord will show you a direction to go. Hang in there.

As for you other questions about BYU- there are other church schools that you maybe able to attend before BYU. I believe that Snow College in Southern Utah, is a church school. It is more of a Jr. College. There is also BYU Idaho that maybe another option for you. They may not have as strict of requirements as BYU does.

Answer 2

No, you're not a bad person because of that!

I'm sure there are plenty of good people out there who aren't, or weren't, very good at school.

You can still follow God -- and do it well -- even if you don't get good grades in school. There are also probably very good students out there who are atheists.

If college is this tough for you, you might want to think about taking some time off from it for a while. Maybe take a break from it, and work for a while or something. You can always go back later and try to finish your degree.

Best of luck to you.
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Answer 3

God created all kinds of people. Some people are scholarly. Some people are really good with their hands. Some people can dance really well. Some people can organize. Some people are natural public speakers.

Doing poorly in your classes does not make you a bad person. It sounds like you might be in the wrong program. (Heck, I was! Political science was NOT for me!) Why don't you take an aptitude test and see what it is that you are naturally good at?

And if you are determined to take your program, get a tutor or get into a study group. Get help!! There are people who can help you! Go talk to your professors and see what they recommend.

God still loves you no matter how bad your GPA was this semester! Sometimes we have these experiences which seem so harsh and unfair to teach us things like sympathy, empathy, patience, long suffering, perseverance.

Take care, sweetie.

Answer 4

First of all don't feel bad about yourself. Sometimes in life we
just don't get it right then and there. I was terrible in math when I was in school and yes I felt the same way you did. I got older and took a math class and I got it just like that. I was even helping other students in class. Maybe for you the teacher did notdid get through to you. Or maybe you were just not into the class. And that is why you did not pass. But it is not you faultor the teachers fault. so pick yourself up and start over. Everyday life is a test. So passing that is hard enough without puting yourself through sadness. So good luck and keep you chin up everything will be ok.

Answer 5

Let me see you can understand this. God never promised you that things would be easy. He also never promised you Earthly success.

I know how you are feeling. I have a retail job currently. I'm trying to be a very good Christian. I see others getting rewarded with higher sales/commission. I say, "Lord, these people tell you to fornicate yourself. You reward them with more money?"

I then realize unless God opens their eyes/ears spiritually speaking by coming into their heart. These people will be condemned.

Maybe this is NOT what God wants for you. Maybe He's trying to move you from this field of study and into something else. It may not be because you're bad. It may be that God is saying, "I don't want this for you." So He is closing a door and in His timing, He opens another.

I knew a guy who lost a very high paying job. EVERYTHING started falling apart, so bad that he had to move back with his parents 15 years after he had left. He thought that life was established for him.

Then his father got extremely sick. His mother was unable to take care of his father. So he was now a caregiver. He was so angry with God that he didn't see what was going on. He eventually lead his father to Christ before his father died.

After his father died, he found a young lady, got a better job, got married, and had a family. Last I heard he was not looking back with regrets except for his complaints.

Nobody enjoys the trials and tribulations. However they, much like rain to the ground, are the only means by which we grow and mature.

"Don't give up the ship, the storm doesn't last forever."

Answer 6

This doesn't make you a bad person at all. College is hard, and many students work at the same time. It's a lot to handle. Don't get too down about it. Just get through this semester. If you have to you can retake classes, just try to work a little harder, do less other stuff. Ask God for help, he can help with this too. Next semester you could get help for your classes, find someone to study with, see a counselor about it and they will know how to help you!! Good luck!

Answer 7

It doesn't make you a bad/worthless person at all; at least you're trying to better yourself through education. Example: I spent 5 1/2 yrs. at a community college 'cause I was lazy and didn't do my work. Wasting my mom's money made me a bad person.

If it's because you didn't try as hard, for whatever reason, take the summer to regroup and nail it down in the fall. At worse, you'll end up on academic probation for the fall, but if you do good then you're off probation. Don't worry, though; the majority of college students end up on a.p. at least once in their collegiate career.

Answer 8

By NO means are you a bad/worthless person just because you don't get straight A's. I struggled this past semester myself, and I also got down on myself for it. Just do the best you can. That's all anyone can ask of you. College is tough for anyone! It's easy to become stressed. I have dealt with it, too. Feel free to e-mail me.

BTW - sorry for the rude answers.

Answer 9

Are you working as hard as you can? Doing the best you can? Then of course not. You're simply having a tough time. And even if you were NOT doing the very best you can, being a tad lazy doesn't make you a bad person... it just makes you normal. :)

Or it's possible you might be putting TOO much pressure on yourself. That's not all that good either.

Answer 10

Lover of YAHOO,
There are people on this site that would be glad to assist you with your classes. I am a diaabled Math Instructor and I would be very glad to help you with a number of subjects. You are NOT a "bad person". Some people need more time to get ready for classes and some need assistance to get material that others are able to get more easily. Keep your GODLY SPIRIT. HE is most important in your life and I know that there are a number of other Christians on this site that would be able to help you also. Just email me any day, any time. Have a great weekend!
Thanks,
Eds, Christian


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PS... I am NOT saying this because you are a young lady. I am happily married and have been for 32 years. I assist anybody that is needing assistance in classes!

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