My girlfriend (3 1/2 yrs) broke up with me because I was dishonest about very important facts. Since the break, we've taken necessary time and space to think for ourselves. I even moved out. Currently she feels like she is ready to sit down and talk about things. I want her back so badly, should I lay it on strong or take things extra slow? The situation was a very serious one. I hurt her badly. Now, after recognizing and eliminating the problems and viewing the bigger picture of our relationship, I have made much needed changes to my life. she knows this. what would you do?
2007-05-18 05:46:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd take it slow at first and then move along as things return to normal. She will probably have a few trust issues because you were dishonest and hurt her. So you'll need to build her trust in you back up. Once that happens you should be able to speed up, because she'll trust you again. I would sit down and talk to her about everything and what you've done to change and all that. It's a good way to get her to start trusting you again. good luck!
2007-05-18 06:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jamie,
I think sense you went through a bit of a rough patch you should take it slow and show her how serious you are about the love you have for her. It is going to take her some time to trust you again(I'm sure you understand that). Just be open and honest with her about your feelings. It sounds like she has forgiving you but she has been dealing with her pain about it. If you really want it to work out between you I would give her all the space she needs. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-18 06:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy! are YOU lucky this girl is willing to talk to you because if I were her I wouldn't give you the time of day.
OK. Go back to square one. This is a first date. You will have to convince her that you are a new man now. BTW - That will not be easy considering how the old man hurt her so so very badly.
How long were you separated? Major lifestyle changes take time to become permanent. Who's to say you won't return to your wicked ways in a month or so after reconciling with gf?
This is going to take some time. I wouldn't rush things. I wouldn't even sleep with her just yet (tell her you don't feel worthy of her just yet - you are THAT ashamed of yourself - as you should be).
Good luck and don't screw up this time.
2007-05-18 05:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be humble, understanding, and let her know that you are going to make her number one in your life. Take her to a romantic dinner, and tell her you are sorry, and mean it women tend to know when you are lying. When you hurt a woman we tend to remember it for a long while, but we do forgive. How serious are you? Give her a promise ring to prove it go an extra mile do something you would never have done to show her how special she really is to you, actions are better than words you know
2007-05-18 05:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Pastor Martinez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take things slow,give her space,because she is the one that got really hurt,and now you gotta think about her feelings.You already thought about things,you fixed your problem,you recognized what you did and you know what you want.You are OK!! What you gotta pray for is that she decides that she is gonna forgive you,so its all on her hands.So in my opinion there isn't anything you could do,just take it slow,prepare you heart for anything,and respect her decision,this is why you should always think about things before you say something or do something,because this is what happens,but we are not perfect,and it all depends how she feels about you,if she really loves you,what ever you did she will forget you,it all depends on what you did too.Wish you luck!!
2007-05-18 06:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by MAGGIE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow, it looks as though you need to really prove yourself. As much as men hate to do that, it will really help. Now I am not saying to be a "Forrest Gump" but you really need to show her that she is your everything. She knows you were the one who messed up and if you show her you already know that she wont use it against you if you are treating her the way you know she should be... Seems to me that you really do want to make it work and I think you will. You need to be patient, time will tell all....
Good Luck:)
2007-05-18 05:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by blu_id_irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is take it slow with her and build up trust. Show her in anyway that you have changed and your ready to become serious with her
2007-05-18 05:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put your hands on her forget about it another MAN will treat her better and give her respect (vise versa)...
It sounds like you seem sure or are begining to believe your side but obviously have reason to know she is done..Why?
Have you realized (excepted) what was done?
2007-05-18 05:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Contorted Brains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋