I am a Jehovah's Witness with homosexual feelings, what should I do?

Question

I know that it is wrong to act on my feelings. But what should I do? I like sisters too. But it feels strange to have feelings for someone where it is not natural. EGRH! And this is probably not the place to discuss this but hey oh well.

Answer 1

Jehovah's Witnesses are not prudes, and well-understand that sexual desire is inherent in being human. Interestingly, Jesus words at Matthew 5:28 would have applied to a female listener as well as to a male.

(Matthew 5:28) Everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in [the] heart.


As Jesus implied, a person does well to limit his visual temptations, and to resolve not to fantasize about improper behavior. Further, while Jehovah's Witnesses do not believe the bible to teach that masturbation is a serious sin, they do believe that self-stimulation goes contrary to the best interests of a person hoping to remain chaste.

(Colossians 3:5) Deaden, therefore, your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite


Similarly, it may be wise to avoid association with those who insist on discussing topics related to sex and sexuality. Of course, this includes association via immoral programs on television, films, books, magazines, and the internet.

(Ephesians 5:3) Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among you, just as it befits holy people

(1 Corinthians 15:33-34) Bad associations spoil useful habits. Wake up to soberness in a righteous way


Never forget that Jehovah God is interested in the well-being of his servants. Whether a Christian feels inclined toward heterosexual fornication or homosexual fornication, he can expect that God and Christ will give him the strength to overcome these sinful tendencies.

(Psalm 51:10) Create in me even a pure heart, O God, And put within me a new spirit, a steadfast one.

Learn more:
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Answer 2

The Young People Ask article in the April 8, 1989 Awake has a really good article discussing same sex crushes.
Also the YPA article in the 3/22 1995 Awake talks about how to get feelings like these under control.

There are other really good articles that you can find using the index and the CD rom library.

Remember, the fact that these articles were written indicates there are others who are going through the same issues that you are. You aren't alone, and I really think that you will find comfort in the above mentioned information.

Answer 3

Have you read the young people ask chapter about this? You should try that. But just avoid thinking about it..You're a teenager some people have these feelings.I'm going to paste what the society says about this I hope it helps-Pray about the matter. Implore Jehovah as David did: “Search through me, O God, and know my heart. Examine me, and know my disquieting thoughts, and see whether there is in me any painful way, and lead me in the way of time indefinite.” (Psalm 139:23, 24) Jehovah can fortify you with a peace that “excels all thought.” This can ‘guard your heart and your mental powers’ and give you “power beyond what is normal” to keep from acting on wrong desires.—Philippians 4:6, 7; 2 Corinthians 4:7. Fill your mind with upbuilding thoughts. (Philippians 4:8) Read the Bible daily. Never underestimate its power to shape your mind and heart for good. (Hebrews 4:12) A young man named Jason says: “The Bible—including such scriptures as 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 and Ephesians 5:3—has had a powerful effect on me. I read these scriptures whenever wrong desires occur.” Shun pornography and gay propaganda. (Colossians 3:5) Avoid anything that will arouse immoral desires. This would include pornography, certain TV shows and movies, and perhaps even fashion or bodybuilding magazines that feature lightly clad models. Change negative thoughts to positive ones. “Whenever I have homosexual urges,” says one teenage boy, “I meditate on my favorite Bible text.” Of course, some claim that there’s no point in doing all this, that you should simply ‘embrace your sexuality’ and ‘accept who you are.’ But the Bible says that you can do better than that! It tells us, for example, that some early Christians who had formerly practiced homosexuality changed. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) You too can win the battle—even if at this point it’s only being waged in your heart. What if same-sex desires persist? Do not give in to them! Jehovah condemns homosexual acts. Thus, the person who struggles with same-sex desires is presented with a reachable goal—he or she can choose not to act on those desires. To illustrate: A person might be “disposed to rage.” (Proverbs 29:22) In the past he may have freely given in to fits of anger. After studying the Bible, though, he becomes aware of the need to develop self-control. Does this mean that he’ll never again feel anger welling up inside him? No. However, because he knows what the Bible says about uncontrolled anger, he will strive hard not to succumb to his feelings. It’s similar with a person who is attracted to others of the same sex but who has now come to learn what the Bible says about homosexual practices. On occasion, an improper desire may still present itself. But by viewing homosexuality the way Jehovah views it, a person can find the strength to resist that desire. Don’t Give Up! Don't beat yourself up many people have these thoughts. Just keep persisting in prayer ANd don't be afraid to talk to the elders..They are there to help you. And if you find them unapproachable than thats a problem on their part ANyways I hope all gets better There are MANY in the congrgation that I am sure can comfort you You should never feel alone You have over 7 million brothers and sisters that love you And I'm one of them <3 And i hope that it all gets better ~Whit Whit Email me if you want I'm 15 ^__^

Answer 4

Well as a Witness said "gay" Witness would know, while there may be some predispositions, we all have freewill, and Sex is always a matter of choice.

Controlling ones desires is a fact of life.

Married men must control various impulses they may have to keep from risking their marriages.

Drivers need to obey the law or possibly lose their licenses.

If sexual impulses/activities had to be acted on, or were not up to choice then there would not need to be so many laws, both Biblical and secular, about it.

Case in point, I am an unmarried 22 year old. I do Not have Sex, humorously yesterday my doctor asked me and had a hard time believing me. As a Christian I realize that I may never have sex. It is a fact. The Bible gives the rules for sex within a Christian setting, between Husband and Wife, Period.

It boils down to a matter of what is more important to me/you/whomever. In this instance Bible principles or unBiblical/unChristian sexual activity.

Answer 5

The same if you were a pedosexual, attracted to animals, or any of the other sexual orientations that are not acceptable by society. Or even a heterosexual with excessive sexual urges. You control the urges until after Armageddon when these genetic disorders are cured.

Clearly it is possible, as we expect it of people who are attracted to children, an orientation that was established in 2000 in the exact same manner as homosexuality was in the 70s.

You received some good advice above. I know it will be hard, but than Jesus didn't offer an easy life. He said the path would be difficult and the gate narrow.

Answer 6

A sin usually takes place only after the thought has been conceived and entertained.

"If you turn to doing good, will there not be an exaltation? But if you do not turn to doing good, there is sin crouching at the entrance, and for you is its craving; and will you, for your part, get the mastery over it?" -- Genesis 4:7

"But each one is tried by being drawn out and enticed by his own desire. Then the desire, when it has become fertile, gives birth to sin; in turn, sin, when it has been accomplished, brings forth death." -- James 1:14,1


It is hard to believe that a Jehovah's Witness could be gay.
A person who wants to become a Jehovah's Witness must make certain changes in his way of life. If he doesn't have a moral life he won't be qualified to get baptized, thus to become a Jehovah's Witness.

"Strip off the old personality with its practices, and clothe yourselves with the new [personality]." -- Colossians 3:9

"You should put away the old personality which conforms to your former course of conduct and which is being corrupted according to his deceptive desires; but that you should be made new in the force actuating your mind, and should put on the new personality which was created according to God’s will in true righteousness and loyalty." -- Ephesians 4:22-24

http://www.watchtower.org/library/rq/article_16.htm


A person who sins and doesn't repent is disfellowshiped. That can be prevented by staying attached to Jehovah's organisation and studying daily from his Word.

"All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness, that the man of God may be fully competent, completely equipped for every good work." -- 2 Timothy 3:16,17

http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1997/1/1/article_01.htm


The Bible says that those who have an immoral life can change and become true Christians.

"What! Do you not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, ... nor men kept for unnatural purposes, nor men who lie with men, ... will inherit God’s kingdom. And yet that is what some of you were. But you have been washed clean, but you have been sanctified, but you have been declared righteous in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and with the spirit of our God." -- 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

"However, we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the power beyond what is normal may be God’s and not that out of ourselves." -- 2 Corinthians 4:7


For more information go to:
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2005/4/8a/article_01.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/6/1a/article_01.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/2/1/article_02.htm

Answer 7

What makes you think those feelings are not natural? They are natural.

Anyway, maybe you are just horny or are a teen and your hormones are developing your body and giving you mixed signals.

Then again, maybe you are homosexual.
Do you think you can really live your life in denial and be happy?

If you are homosexual and it is genetic, by lying to yourself and marrying a woman and having children, there is a good chance your children will carry the "gay gene" too. If you are so sure about your religion, that would be a bad thing right? Think about it. Does that seem right?

An alternative would be to come to the grips with the fact that homosexuality is natural and there's nothing you can or should do about it other than being true to yourself.

Do some reading into the origins of Jehovah's Witnesses and Christianity in general. Where does all this homophobia come from?

A comparatively small population size and a desire to compete with neighbours equals measures enacted to increase population size through men having multiple wives (as they did back in the day) and an agressive campaign against homosexuality. If you weren't part of the process of popping out little Hebrew babies, you were a bad Hebrew. (Does that remind you of anything from the mid 1900's? Homosexuality was considered to be VERY bad there too)

Why are you sticking with laws written by people ~3500 years ago which worked for them in that period of time knowing full well the same laws don't work for us today?

Answer 8

It helped me to understand that homosexuality feelings are a choice made. Perhaps when you were so young you can not remember making the choice. You had influences from something or someone. Does not sound like you had any gender nonconformity that was part of the influence. Ask yourself, or in prayer about when that first time was, so you can experience the fact it was a choice, Innocent maybe, but a choice that influenced you to build your character and likes and dislikes.

Answer 9

I am one of Jehovah's Witnesses with heterosexual feelings, what should I do?

The answer is the same for both of us. Don't have sexual relations outside of marriage.

What is "homosexual feelings"? To be friends with men. Nothing wrong with that. But anything more is gross.

Remember that woman are part of God's pretty things that he made.

Answer 10

It is unfortunate that so many of us are taught that anything outside the tiny little box our "group" lives in is "unnatural"...Educate yourself a little more and go to Barnes and Noble and get a book titled "Brain Sex"... It was written back in the sixties but wasn't published until the eighties because of the controversy it would have cause by its well researched content. It is probably the first acknowledged body of evidence that clarifies that we are gendered in the womb and even though most of us get born with outties or innies it doesn't mean the chemical forumual matches the equipment. Do you ever wonder why they are cautioning mothers-to-be not to drink, smoke, and take drugs? The medical community is slowly grinding it way to the path of enlightment and learning that what mommy does, consumes and even thinks about can have an effect on the embryo/fetus she carries to birth. The book will clarify it more thoroughly, but suffice it to say that what you feel is natural according to how you were put together in your mothers womb. If you try really hard you might be able to control your thought process where the feelings are concerned and if you try really really hard you can even suppress those feelings but they will be there regardless until your libido just dries up and you are no longer attracted to any gender... Try to be yourself. I've always felt that if religious people want to be truley "God fearing" then they will embrace compassion and acceptance for others rather than rejecting differences. Always keep in mind you are not really different; there are lots and lots (more and more) of people out there who share your feelings, all your feelings. So you can make a choice to be happy or you can make a choice to be miserable. We all have choices....Thank God.