My fiance doesnt want us to have a bachelor and bachelorette party. He says they are stupid and that he just isnt comfortable with the whole idea of what they entail. What could we do together maybe as like a combined party? Hey I want to celebrate! (and no not with any kind of stripper or anything involved) :)
2007-05-18 05:41:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yeah we arent really in to the club thing... and he doesn't drink...
2007-05-18 06:48:11 · update #1
This is exactly what my fiancee and I want to do, we seriously JUST talked about it last night, haha.
Just wanted a party with our friends to hang out and all have a good time together. I don't really have any idea's (sorry!) but just wanted to let you know we are doing the same thing.
Probably get together at a nice sports bar/bar &grill have dinner, have some good drinks, play some pool, dance, just all have a great relaxing fun night.
Also, we are having a big picnic this summer (his family owns a large farm and land) so all of his family and our family and all of our friends will come out for a big bbq and later in the evening we will have a bonfire and fireworks (my step dad does them) and some drinks and just have a good time.
I dont really think you need to do anything fancy, unless you want to of course, I just want all my friends together, celebrating, and having a great time!!
Congrats on the wedding and good luck with the party!!
EDIT:: we also arnt big drinkers or club people, just not our thing. Thats why we opted for the picnic, good luck with whatever you decide and good luck with the wedding!
2007-05-18 05:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually bachelor/bachelorette party's are thrown by your best friend and sometimes are surprises that you don't even know about. and the friends usually throw the party even if you say no you don't want one.
I would say you guys should have a nice dinner together and spend some time alone because planning the wedding is gonna be hectic you will need some time alone just for the two of you.
And if you are going to have a rehersal dinner that is also going to involve all your bridal attendens and friend so you dont need to pay for another bache/lorret party
2007-05-18 05:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a bachelorette party is usually just a "hen" party with silly games to play. Its just a time to get together with your friends to celebrate your engagement and wedding. Would he possibly give in to a combined party with both of your friends, they really can be a lot of fun and stress relief from all the planning. If he is totally against it, then maybe just having the "party" at a restaurant or club would be a good idea. Since you want to celebrate and dont want a stripper tell him bachelorette parties are not that much different than baby showers and that it is just getting together with friends then maybe he wont object to you having one even if he doesnt.
2007-05-18 05:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you have to do is say politely, "Because I'm paying for part of the groom's party and contributing a cake, I won't be able to split the cost of the bachelorette with you. Sorry." And then leave it at that. They can't take you to court and make you cough up money for a bill you NEVER agreed to pay. If they get peeved, who cares? These ladies lack class and there is no reason for you to give in to their unreasonable demands.
2016-05-22 07:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got some great answers here... Your fiance sounds like a practical, sensible guy. I've been to so many bachelor/bachelorette parties and really - what's the point? Other than being hungover at the wedding, embarrassed or compromising your relationship somehow...
2007-05-18 05:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by wan2no 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about you two and the members of the wedding party go to an amusement park for a day? That would be good clean fun and a last hoorah as single people. Just make sure the Best Man and Maid of Honor know you don't want bachelor/bachelorette parties or you may get surprised with them against your will. I'm pretty sure my Maid of Honor is going to kidnap me for a weekend for mine, and knowing her, I won't know what hit me. Good luck and have fun!
2007-05-18 05:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my fiance and i aren't having the bachelor/bachelorette parties either. instead we're just going to have a gathering of our close friends at our home, bbq with a few drinks. that sounds like much more fun than having some stripper shoving his junk all up in my face.
2007-05-18 07:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your groom sounds like he's got a good head on his shoulders. Just throw a party! Have a BBQ with a bunch of friends, or - if you prefer - go out to a club or a bar with a bunch of friends.
P.S. I love the Dave and Busters idea, it's such a fun place to hang out at with your friends. I also had a lot of fun when we played Cranium and Pictionary at parties, it was a real blast. It kind of depends what you two, and your friends, are into.
2007-05-18 06:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur fiance does not want a bachelor party and doesnt drink? hang on to this man he sounds great and his argument makes perfect sense!! well how about u both party by inviting over friends and
do something nice...have a party in a bowling club or on the beach or on the roof or on the swimming pool.
or just be together
2007-05-18 07:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by kate07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your fiance specifically uncomfortable with, strippers and drinking or you hanging out with the ladies for a night? My bridesmaids took me out for a nice dinner and then we just hung out for the evening, nothing crazy happened and we all had a great time catching up. My husband went tubing with his buddies and had a bbq afterwards, he was home by 9. The parties don't have to be wild and crazy; they can be a nice chance to spend time alone with your wedding parties. If you're still not interested, inform you maid or honor and best man of your wishes so they don't waste time and effort planning.
2007-05-18 06:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋