neglected her and had an affair with her own cousin, which produced two step sisters (one of whom is semi-retarded) who were raised with the family. The mother beat the girl for asking for a bit more food when she was hungry, then as the girl got older, she had to help raise her 10 bros and sis. The mother rarely called and never wrote or visited (but visited other siblings) when the girl grew up and moved out. Other than being generally messed up, how would this affect a child specifically?
2007-05-18 05:16:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay this all sounds really jacked up for this child. I have seen alot of statistics on kids rasised by an alcoholic that are negative. I think every child is unique and there is no way to tell for sure what will become of her. I will say this: you should contact child services before she gets seriously hurt.
There are plenty of kids who grow up in jacked up homes that turn out okay. Mainly because of the one positive influence in the child's life. if you can be than influence then do. Just try to get someone to help the child before she doesn't get a chance to turn into an adult at all.
2007-05-18 05:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a product of two alcoholic parents. Growing up, I was not treated well at all. I was abused in every form there is. I raised three siblings. I have strained relationships with all of them because of that. I am more of a mother than a sister. If the child has support and gets the counseling and help she needs, she can lead a "normal" life. If she has remembers that she was the child and her parents are the ones who screwed up, she will be ok.
Her relationship with her parents will be difficult. I have tried to make peace with my mother, but I cannot forgive her for the things she has done. I feel very strongly that she was not a good mother and therefore cannot be a good grandmother. She still has 2 other stepchildren living with her and the way that she treats them makes me want to call social services. But you can be a good person and thrive even if you weren't treated well as a child. Just get the counseling and help necessary. Remember that you ARE A GOOD PERSON AND NO ONE CAN TAKE THAT FROM YOU.
2007-05-18 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by docbrownis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, are asking how it would affect a child,into adulthood, when her Alcoholic Father, and Mother who did not care for her kids, cope with that problem as she grew older? If what you say is true, there are no words to describe a Woman who only think about her own life and neglects the outcome of what she is doing to her kids. The only advice I can give you is, if possible and you are a minor, and still in School, ask a counselor or an adult to help you find someone in authority, for help in counseling because you feel you are going to need it, to come to an understanding of why you have Parents, that do not care about their Family but, their own pleasure, and if you already are grown up, and feel that your life is not worth living, look through the Phone Book, for counseling help, and I am sure that if you can, come to an understanding that what happened to not only you but, your siblings as well, was no fault of your own, but your Parents. I know it is difficult to bear all the anguish you and your siblings passed through on account of your Parents. Sometimes I wonder why, God gave kids to those that do not deserved to be called Mom, and Dad, if they are not going to be good Parents, to those Kids. I care.
2007-05-18 07:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be bound and determined to look for love, comfort and affection. She will mostly be more apt to have several boyfirends and sleep around. She will have an 80% chance of being an alcoholic. She will find loser after loser to keep her down. This is the only life she knows so whe will be "looking for love in all the wrong places."
It will take alot to teach her trust, and that she can have a man that treats her right, but that man will have to be ready for baggage.
My husband and I went to marriage councling before we got married, and the counclor taught him how to handle me, and me how to trust. It can happen. A good church that openly prays and offers support helps too.
Distance from family is a nessecity as well. She will not be the only one that shows self distructive behavior.
2007-05-22 01:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do a search for several things here, which might answer your question...
COPING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC PARENT
CHILDHOOD ABUSE
COPING WITH ABUSIVE PARENTS
ALANON or ALCHOLICS ANONYMOUS
living in these conditions could cause a variety of results, depending upon the strength and will of the person... did they get help? counseling? or did they neglect themselves? were they so traumatized they started dissociating? did they develop post traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, anger issues, anxiety? did they repeat the cycle or restort to a change in lifestyle... did they seek help through Alanon or another support group?
everyone is different, has different ideas, levels of intelligence and ways of coping. it's difficult to say what the general population would do or how they'd react.
2007-05-18 05:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
proceed to play your enjoying cards properly because of the fact the flaws you do could reason an effect on you. without notifying her, pass to the courts or seek for out an legal expert at present to document for sole custody of your new child. with any luck you've got different police comments you have made as a effect of her habit. once you pass to courtroom do clarify the flaws she has finished and that she is an abuser. in spite of the state in which you reside, in case you state your case properly (or your legal expert for that rely)then you certainly don't have many issues getting custody of your daughter. I desire you all the acceptable chuffed NEW year
2017-01-10 06:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could feel unloved, unworthy, like she has no one, or that she was was the cause of the problems. I had an alcoholic mom growing up and she was abusive. So I have an inkling of how she feels. I had to go to counseling and it helped.
2007-05-23 15:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble bonding with others; hard to trust others; attracted to those who acted like her parents (alcoholics and abusers); either marrys someone like her parents or becomes just like her parents. Lies, tries to control and manipulate.
Cognitive therapy would benefit her immensely. She has a lot of pain and anger to work through.
2007-05-18 05:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone reacts differently. AL anon would benefit her immensely.
2007-05-25 23:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋