Why do Parent do this!!?

Question

I'm an Aunt and I can not understand why my newphew's parents never want to take him places!!

I would take him anywhere!!
He is very good!!
He is 2 years old almost 3!!

His parents do not take him to go shopping or to go out to dinner!!

Just the other day they needed someone to watch him because they were going to look at new trucks!!

So I took him and I had plans but he went with me and we had fun!!

I was just woundering why parents do not want to take their children anywhere!!

Answer 1

I can understand everynow and again , I have four of my own and everynow and again we need a break , mom and dad time. For the 90 % of the time my kids are always with us shopping , dinner you name it. I find it weird that they never take him anywhere . If its such a problem they should of thought of that before they had him.

Answer 2

Could be any number of reasons. Maybe they're afraid he'll catch a cold/get sick (some parents try to keep thier kids in a bubble!) Maybe they're afraid he'll act up/throw a tantrum, and they'd be embarrased. Maybe they go out at the same time usually, and it's during his "melt down" period of the day where he's prone to tantrums. It's hard to tell--could be any number of reasons.

I take my kids most places (grocery store, Target, the park, out to eat (at family oriented restaurants), etc.). There are some places where kids just DON'T belong (especially younger kids/toddlers) such as expensive restaurants, movies, bars, etc.

As for the truck shopping--I can sort of understand that. I'm sure they both wanted to test drive the car, and in order to do that they'd have to remove his car seat and put it in the test driven truck, then put it back in their car. It's a huge hassle, if you've never worked with a car seat before. :) Other than that, I don't know why they do this. Maybe he's really only good when you're with him, and the rest of the time he's a terror (2 and 3 year olds are known for this, lol).

Answer 3

They probably don't take him shopping because kids always ask for stuff they see in the store and then throw fits when they don't get it (at least a lot of kids do) and they probably don't go to restaurants because it's expensive....plus as I've found kids dont like to sit that long.

The probably didn't want to take him to look at trucks, because if they had decided to buy they would have needed to focus the attention on the details of the sale and there's no way a kid will sit that long.....it takes quite a while. They are probably avoiding situations because they've been in them before and have learned their lesson.

I'm sure they take him pleanty of other places that they don't tell you about.

You will learn these things when you have your own children. Sorry but time with other peoples kids, and how they act at that moment are no substitue for reality when you are with your children 24/7 and you know thier habits and tolerances.

Answer 4

If there is somebody around who is able and willing to babysit, then it is much easier to hand the child over then to take him with. You don't need to worry about nappies or whether there is going to be a loo if he's toilet training. You don't have to listen to the whining because he wants to get out of the pram! Basically, they need only worry about themselves. Bliss! Children have a way of behaving with other people but not with parents! (Or maybe its just that other people tend to have more patience as they don't spend as much time with the kids!) Sometimes its nice to just spend some time with your partner without your children. I do not have any family or friends (that I could ask to babysit) nearby and sometimes I wish I did so that I could get away for a bit. I have 2 children under 5yrs. I would love to be able to go out and be an adult without having to be a parent once in awhile! They are very lucky to have you, who they obviously trust, to look after their son so that they are able to do the things they want to do together. Why don't you try asking them what their reasons are for not wanting to take him along with them? You might be surprised...

Answer 5

We have 3 boys, ages 5, 2, and 6 months. They go everywhere with us, regardless of how difficult it may be at times. Some parents do it though because they don't want to put forth the effort of making their child sit still, or mind. Also, some parents just don't want to deal with their kids. I enjoy having my boys with me. We go on vacations a couple times a year, dinner out a couple times a month. Family time is important, and once that child is older he will resent his parents shoving him off on others.

Answer 6

Its very different when you are with your child 24/7. First, its great to get a break, and running an errand alone or going out to dinner alone is heavenly when you are up to your ears in kids the rest of the day. Also, kids tend not to behave as well for their mothers as they do for other people. There are a variety of reasons. You'll see when you have your own kids, its hard to explain, but its very different.

Answer 7

First of all, you probably don't have any kids of your own, so you don't understand what it is like having to care for someone 24/7. I'm sure if you had your nephew 24/7, you would want a break too. I love my kids with all my heart, but somewhere between being woken up in the middle of the night and vomited on and cleaning up the fifth bowl of cereal that's been thrown on the floor, and the screaming and fighting, I need to get away. It's great that you want to take him places, and he probably really enjoys getting to spend time with you. Why not just focus on that. You'll have plenty of time to be a perfect parent when you have your own kids.

Answer 8

Well....kids act diffrently for their parents. I like taking my kids places, but everytime I do they fight, cry scream hit kick scream it's embarrassing and very frustrating! I still take them places just not as often. Also I was wondering...how often do they get to go out (the parents)??? My fiance and I sometimes get a babysitter so we can go shopping since I am with the kids 24/7, it's nice to just get away from the kids sometimes. We don't have a babysitter very often since there is only one person we trust, therefore we never get out really!

Answer 9

Are you sure it's that they don't want to take him anywhere with them, or that occassionaly they'd like some time on their own? I've got a 13.5 month at home and every once in awhile my husband and I like to get out and do things on our own. It's not because we aren't completely in love with her, we are, but every moment that we have her out with us ends up being completely absorbed trying to keep her happy and entertained. It's difficult to do things like go out to dinner or car shopping when you're trying to keep a small one happy and not cause a scene. It's not always the case, we take her with us a lot of the time as well, but it's good for Mom & Dad to have some alone time.

Answer 10

My cousin and his wife are the same, they dont take their son anywhere with them, even to 'family occasions' where everyone else in the family takes there kids. Obviously you cant take them everywhere but i do agree that wherever possible children should be taken along with you, they learn from experiences so the more they experience the more they learn. I have no problem taking my children out with me and love doing stuff with them.